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View Poll Results: What would you do?
Yes, I'd tell 6 28.57%
No, I wouldn't tell 5 23.81%
It depends on the circumstances 10 47.62%
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Old 12-03-2008, 09:05 PM   #1
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Propositioning

If your friends spouse propositioned you, would you tell your friend?

Why or why not?
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Old 12-03-2008, 09:13 PM   #2
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First, I'd tell my spouse.
Then go from there.
(Prolly would tell my friend; knowing my friends, they might be all for it.)

ETA: most of my friends are male, or bi.
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Old 12-03-2008, 09:28 PM   #3
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Yea, because she would think it was funny and we are best friends.
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Old 12-03-2008, 09:37 PM   #4
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Yes, but would you tell the spouse of the woman (presumably) who propositioned you?
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Old 12-03-2008, 09:37 PM   #5
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It'd depend very much on the friend. Like Pie, I'd start by telling my spouse about it and go from there.

If the "spouse" were my friend L's boyfriend, for example, I'd definitely say something to her because I know she values monogamy. If the guy is propositioning me, who knows who else he is trying for? For other friends, I might mention it in passing and they would laugh and shrug it off.
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Old 12-03-2008, 10:03 PM   #6
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Inform everyone concerned.

Start: "I always thought the letters to your magazine were made up, until... "
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Old 12-03-2008, 10:06 PM   #7
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lol...none of those letters are made up. They're real life, just like Jerry Springer. There really are that many idiots in the world.
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Old 12-03-2008, 10:54 PM   #8
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Yes, but would you tell the spouse of the woman (presumably) who propositioned you?
No I would blow it off, after I told Mr. Horndog that it better not happen again. If he persisted I would tell the wife and let her deal with it. Put him on notice.
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Old 12-03-2008, 11:18 PM   #9
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Depends.

Answered this one only after picking myself up off the floor when I'd finished laughing my ass off. As IF!
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Old 12-04-2008, 05:03 AM   #10
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Very much depends on the people involved and the circumstances around the proposition. If for example, my friend's spouse was rip roaring drunk at the time and the proposal was clearly just the drink talking, I may well say nothing.

*grins* I suppose it would also depend on whether or not I accepted his proposition...j/k I never would :P
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Old 12-04-2008, 06:57 AM   #11
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Depends on many factors. If it were even slightly serious, I'd inform both my S.O. and theirs. I don't care if they're drunk, or if they're mog or open, or anything else, anyway. If they want to get busy with me, they can approach both me and my S.O.
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Old 12-04-2008, 07:24 AM   #12
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I would not tell, because of their circumstances at this moment. We have known each other forever (her since we were six, him since junior high), and we are now 46 yrs old. She is really ill right now, and to add to their stress over something so relatively unimportant would be cruel.
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Old 12-04-2008, 07:25 AM   #13
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And I of course would turn him down
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Old 12-04-2008, 07:50 AM   #14
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That's a tough one.

I had to tell my college roommate her lawbag boyfriend made a move on me. I fretted about it, but my friends thought I should tell her. Guess whose fault it ended up being? MINE! It really wasn't though.

It's even more grave if it's someone's spouse. A guy like that, he'll probably get caught messing around with someone else on whom the spouse can blame his indiscretion or lack of ability to keep it in his damn pants.

Nowadays I'd probably keep my mouth shut, but my eyes open, and hope to guide her to see what he really is.

Yeah, tough call!
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Old 12-04-2008, 08:58 AM   #15
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Put him on notice.
Tell him he's on report.
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