Follow Instinct?

bbro · 12-13-2006, 02:55 PM

Ok, KinkyVixin's thread about the bad blind date got me thinking. Here is my situation:

I am currently looking for a job for when my current assignment ends. I am using both my own searching and two consulting companies that both know about each other. M consulting company got me the position that I am in now and are looking into (I am hoping) other ones for me including one I am really excited about.

T consulting company has been in contact with me through the entire assignment. T just emailed me yesterday about a job that interviews next week and starts after the first of the year. First description of the job is something that I DO not want and email T my concerns. He comes back with a different description and says that this is really what it is. I call him to get some more information, but something just isn't sitting right. I am thinking it is because the first description and the second are completely different from each other. He knows I am a little wary and I ask "If I go on the interview and decide afterwards that it isn't something I want, is that ok?" Basically he says it isn't a problem, but in that way that says that it is a problem and I feel guilty even thinking about it.

My gut says just say no, but my mind says it is a job, can't hurt. Then my mind says, but what if I get the job I really want, but I have interviewed and feel bad about saying no.

At this point, I am going to go with my gut and say no to the interview.

But I am curious, what would you do?

Elspode · 12-13-2006, 03:02 PM

T's job is to make money for his company. If he can place you in a job, he succeeds. Doesn't matter if you like it or if it is what you wanted.

Go with the gut, here.

bbro · 12-13-2006, 04:08 PM

That's what my mom said. I didn't think of it until she said it because M never gave me that feeling. I mean, I said something that I was expecting advice for and there was nothing that made me feel like he gave a crap. M on the other hand has always been helpful and seem like it is not only about placing me, but placing me well.

I am glad I went with M for the first job!!

Thanks Els.

monster · 12-13-2006, 09:57 PM

I would trust my gut. I've done the other in the past and it was just a waste of time and emotion.

xoxoxoBruce · 12-13-2006, 10:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Elspode

T's job is to make money for his company. If he can place you in a job, he succeeds. Doesn't matter if you like it or if it is what you wanted.

Even if you don't take it, T gets points for sending an interviewee. Makes T look like he's working hard for the prospective employer, so he might send mismatched people (wasting your time and clean underwear) to keep up appearances.

Sometimes ya gotta just say no.

12-13-2006, 11:14 PM

The subconscious is an amazing thing. Your mind picks-up on subtle clues and innuendos that you cannot imagine, truly. This was my major in school and what I continued to study until this day.
"Your gut" is far more "actual" than what you imagine it to be... there is a reason for it. If the reason is strong & you have other realistic options, I say listen to it.

bbro · 12-14-2006, 08:30 AM

I am definately going to say no to the whole thing. Right now I am just trying to figure out how to phrase it without letting my temper get in the way.

The more I thought about it the more I didn't like it and the angrier I got.

Thanks guys, sometimes ya just need some other opinions that aren't your mother or a good friend.

12-13-2006, 02:55 PM	#1
bbro Insert witty comment here Join Date: May 2004 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,182	Follow Instinct? Ok, KinkyVixin's thread about the bad blind date got me thinking. Here is my situation: I am currently looking for a job for when my current assignment ends. I am using both my own searching and two consulting companies that both know about each other. M consulting company got me the position that I am in now and are looking into (I am hoping) other ones for me including one I am really excited about. T consulting company has been in contact with me through the entire assignment. T just emailed me yesterday about a job that interviews next week and starts after the first of the year. First description of the job is something that I DO not want and email T my concerns. He comes back with a different description and says that this is really what it is. I call him to get some more information, but something just isn't sitting right. I am thinking it is because the first description and the second are completely different from each other. He knows I am a little wary and I ask "If I go on the interview and decide afterwards that it isn't something I want, is that ok?" Basically he says it isn't a problem, but in that way that says that it is a problem and I feel guilty even thinking about it. My gut says just say no, but my mind says it is a job, can't hurt. Then my mind says, but what if I get the job I really want, but I have interviewed and feel bad about saying no. At this point, I am going to go with my gut and say no to the interview. But I am curious, what would you do?

12-13-2006, 03:02 PM	#2
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	T's job is to make money for his company. If he can place you in a job, he succeeds. Doesn't matter if you like it or if it is what you wanted. Go with the gut, here. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

12-13-2006, 09:57 PM	#4
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I would trust my gut. I've done the other in the past and it was just a waste of time and emotion. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

12-13-2006, 04:08 PM	#3
bbro Insert witty comment here Join Date: May 2004 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,182	That's what my mom said. I didn't think of it until she said it because M never gave me that feeling. I mean, I said something that I was expecting advice for and there was nothing that made me feel like he gave a crap. M on the other hand has always been helpful and seem like it is not only about placing me, but placing me well. I am glad I went with M for the first job!! Thanks Els.

12-13-2006, 11:14 PM	#6
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	The subconscious is an amazing thing. Your mind picks-up on subtle clues and innuendos that you cannot imagine, truly. This was my major in school and what I continued to study until this day. "Your gut" is far more "actual" than what you imagine it to be... there is a reason for it. If the reason is strong & you have other realistic options, I say listen to it.

12-14-2006, 08:30 AM	#7
bbro Insert witty comment here Join Date: May 2004 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,182	I am definately going to say no to the whole thing. Right now I am just trying to figure out how to phrase it without letting my temper get in the way. The more I thought about it the more I didn't like it and the angrier I got. Thanks guys, sometimes ya just need some other opinions that aren't your mother or a good friend.

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