How do you like THAT?

Trilby · 02-08-2008, 11:27 AM

I've just been kicked out of class by my favorite professor. He said, and I quote, "It's too emotionally upsetting," for me to be in class. He wants me to withdrawal. He said it was 'difficult' for him to teach with me in class. I cried. I told him that class was all I had. He still said I should withdrawal. Last week we agreed I would audit the course as I had to miss too many classes for chemo related bullshit but now he says I'm effecting his teaching which is effecting the entire class (I find that hard to believe) and now I am feeling super rejected and retarded for liking this man who so obviously has issues. He did say a weird thing last week---when I asked him if he would grade my paper he said no, that when you audit you get no grades, etc. but he said he would read it and we could discuss it "over a cup of coffee.'

what the fdge is going on with him, me and the entire world?

Flint · 02-08-2008, 11:33 AM

I don't know, but your stories are my favorite. It's like a reality-soap-opera-blog.

Trilby · 02-08-2008, 11:33 AM

i'm serious you dimwit.

lookout123 · 02-08-2008, 11:35 AM

that sucks. Bri, i think it is quite obvious that this guy has taken a liking to you and doesn't know how to deal with that. it is hard to say from the few facts you've posted but my guess would be that you aren't affecting his teaching at all, but as he has found himself intrigued and attracted to you he doesn't know how to deal with the fact that he is afraid and doesn't understand the big C, so avoidance is his easiest answer.

or i might be completely full of shit. either way, i'm sorry to hear that.

Flint · 02-08-2008, 11:38 AM

That sounds about right. Brianna is intriguing.

Trilby · 02-08-2008, 11:39 AM

should I go after the disability thing? you know, if he found a guy in a wheelchair 'upsetting" that would be just too damn bad. you can't kick someone out for having CA.

on the other hand, i really don't want to antagonize the guy. english IS my major (or, at least, it was). *sadface*

Flint · 02-08-2008, 11:41 AM

He can't be thinking rationally, to have told you what he did. You go for nutjobs.

Trilby · 02-08-2008, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

You go for nutjobs.

truer words were never spoken (or keyboarded)

lookout123 · 02-08-2008, 11:42 AM

ok, stop and take a breath.

do you think he kicked you out because he doesn't "like" people with cancer? or is it possible, albeit strange that he might genuinely be having an emotional reaction here.
I personally wouldn't go the disability route because I would want to explore all other options first.

Cicero · 02-08-2008, 11:44 AM

Mmmmmm....they may all be right...(cellar members)

But I think he needs the shit kicked out of him and at minimum a lawsuit. That pisses me off.

Trilby · 02-08-2008, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by lookout123

ok, stop and take a breath.

do you think he kicked you out because he doesn't "like" people with cancer? or is it possible, albeit strange that he might genuinely be having an emotional reaction here.
I personally wouldn't go the disability route because I would want to explore all other options first.

yeah, it might be an emotional reaction. his emotional reaction has just cost me my financial aid package, though and he KNOWS this. you know---i must have been mafi in my previous life for all this payback.

I just did my Freezer Spell, though, and I feel a bit better. It's truly, TRULY his loss coz my paper was gonna be excellent.

Shawnee123 · 02-08-2008, 11:50 AM

I would start with the dean of the department. If there is more hem-hawing around, go to VP of whatever (student services, education...they're different at every school.)

I just don't like the way this sounds, Bri. In this day and age where accomodations are made for all sorts of personal issues I find it hard to believe that he can just say you're affecting the class. He has issues with CA? Tough shit, fella...you're going to have to learn to deal with that.

As someone who works in higher education, I'm amazed that this happened. If he has any "real" grounds let him convince some of his higher-ups. Often I see professors who see themselves as infallible and godlike. We know this is not usually true! At the very least, he may have to examine his own issues and the role he is supposed to play.

Shawnee123 · 02-08-2008, 11:51 AM

Oh, and it effed up your aid? No no no, girl. Fight this. That shit will hang over your head; by law all outstanding debts to a college must be reported to the Attorney General in a certain time frame. Not to mention the effect it may have on any future attempts at aid. Things can be done for extreme circumstances. Please look at your options.

LabRat · 02-08-2008, 11:56 AM

I have no experience with this, but I can't believe that a prof can kick you out of a class for no plausable reason. I know you are emotionally drained, but you must look into getting this fixed. I am not familiar with the options you have to begin an investigation, but you need to at least file a complaint and get to the bottom of this.

This is unexcusable, no matter what. What a shithead. Good luck!

SteveDallas · 02-08-2008, 12:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brianna

should I go after the disability thing? you know, if he found a guy in a wheelchair 'upsetting" that would be just too damn bad. you can't kick someone out for having CA.

I was poised to recommend just that when I read the first half of your post... but, you probably have little recourse if you're auditing. If you've paid an audit fee, he probably has to let you come to the course, or they have to give you the fee back--and most places give individual instructors wide latitude as to whether they will take auditors. (He's definitely within his rights to not grade your paper, I'm afraid.)

If you didn't pay an auditing fee, I'm afraid the official ranks of the administration will probably say you shouldn't be in the class anyways.

This sucks sucks sucks.. you might speak to someone in disabled student services... but if you're not registered for credit, my guess is they won't be able to do much.

02-08-2008, 11:27 AM	#1
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	How do you like THAT? I've just been kicked out of class by my favorite professor. He said, and I quote, "It's too emotionally upsetting," for me to be in class. He wants me to withdrawal. He said it was 'difficult' for him to teach with me in class. I cried. I told him that class was all I had. He still said I should withdrawal. Last week we agreed I would audit the course as I had to miss too many classes for chemo related bullshit but now he says I'm effecting his teaching which is effecting the entire class (I find that hard to believe) and now I am feeling super rejected and retarded for liking this man who so obviously has issues. He did say a weird thing last week---when I asked him if he would grade my paper he said no, that when you audit you get no grades, etc. but he said he would read it and we could discuss it "over a cup of coffee.' what the fdge is going on with him, me and the entire world?

02-08-2008, 11:33 AM	#2
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	I don't know, but your stories are my favorite. It's like a reality-soap-opera-blog. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

02-08-2008, 11:35 AM	#4
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	that sucks. Bri, i think it is quite obvious that this guy has taken a liking to you and doesn't know how to deal with that. it is hard to say from the few facts you've posted but my guess would be that you aren't affecting his teaching at all, but as he has found himself intrigued and attracted to you he doesn't know how to deal with the fact that he is afraid and doesn't understand the big C, so avoidance is his easiest answer. or i might be completely full of shit. either way, i'm sorry to hear that. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

02-08-2008, 11:38 AM	#5
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	That sounds about right. Brianna is intriguing. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

02-08-2008, 11:41 AM	#7
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	He can't be thinking rationally, to have told you what he did. You go for nutjobs. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

02-08-2008, 11:39 AM	#6
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	should I go after the disability thing? you know, if he found a guy in a wheelchair 'upsetting" that would be just too damn bad. you can't kick someone out for having CA. on the other hand, i really don't want to antagonize the guy. english IS my major (or, at least, it was). sadface

02-08-2008, 11:42 AM	#9
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	ok, stop and take a breath. do you think he kicked you out because he doesn't "like" people with cancer? or is it possible, albeit strange that he might genuinely be having an emotional reaction here. I personally wouldn't go the disability route because I would want to explore all other options first. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

02-08-2008, 11:44 AM	#10
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Mmmmmm....they may all be right...(cellar members) But I think he needs the shit kicked out of him and at minimum a lawsuit. That pisses me off. __________________ Show me a sane man, and I will cure him for you.- Carl Jung Last edited by Cicero; 02-08-2008 at 01:39 PM. Reason: exetra e

02-08-2008, 11:50 AM	#12
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I would start with the dean of the department. If there is more hem-hawing around, go to VP of whatever (student services, education...they're different at every school.) I just don't like the way this sounds, Bri. In this day and age where accomodations are made for all sorts of personal issues I find it hard to believe that he can just say you're affecting the class. He has issues with CA? Tough shit, fella...you're going to have to learn to deal with that. As someone who works in higher education, I'm amazed that this happened. If he has any "real" grounds let him convince some of his higher-ups. Often I see professors who see themselves as infallible and godlike. We know this is not usually true! At the very least, he may have to examine his own issues and the role he is supposed to play.

02-08-2008, 11:51 AM	#13
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Oh, and it effed up your aid? No no no, girl. Fight this. That shit will hang over your head; by law all outstanding debts to a college must be reported to the Attorney General in a certain time frame. Not to mention the effect it may have on any future attempts at aid. Things can be done for extreme circumstances. Please look at your options.

02-08-2008, 11:56 AM	#14
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	I have no experience with this, but I can't believe that a prof can kick you out of a class for no plausable reason. I know you are emotionally drained, but you must look into getting this fixed. I am not familiar with the options you have to begin an investigation, but you need to at least file a complaint and get to the bottom of this. This is unexcusable, no matter what. What a shithead. Good luck! __________________ Strength does not come from how much weight you can lift, or how many miles you can run. It comes from knowing that you set a goal, and rose to the challenge. Strength comes from within.

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