Let's don't have a drink for Claudette

Undertoad · 03-09-2013, 07:12 AM

She faced three fatal diseases in her life: cancer, depression, and addiction.

Cancer was the easiest one to beat. Fuck cancer, but fuck depression and addiction harder.

The most appropriate thing I can think of, then, is that we don't have a drink in her memory. Remember her as we do not have a drink to her this week.

This will be of different levels of difficulty for everyone, and I don't mean to set your agenda, but for me, I will raise an empty glass every night this week.

And to every dwellar, for all time, if you have depression or alcoholism, get treatment. For fuck's sake, if you can't do it for yourself, do it for us. We will be here for you.

DanaC · 03-09-2013, 07:13 AM

Amen to that.

Griff · 03-09-2013, 07:14 AM

Amen brother.

limey · 03-09-2013, 08:21 AM

What a great idea!

orthodoc · 03-09-2013, 08:48 AM

Amen from this corner.

Griff · 03-09-2013, 08:58 AM

We would all do well to learn what we can from Claudette's experience. Addiction has its hooks in a lot of us. We all need to look honestly at ourselves and determine what we are capable of and not capable of. We need to accept help when offered and just try. I'm going to make a stress reducing pro-sanity change in my life so I can see more clearly how blessed I am.

Clodfobble · 03-09-2013, 09:14 AM

Thank you for this thread, Tony. It's good to have a way to channel one's energies when we're too far away to be helpful.

classicman · 03-09-2013, 10:19 AM

I'm with you Tony. However, since drinking was never my biggest rival, I will reaffirm that I will never smoke again in honor of her.

footfootfoot · 03-09-2013, 10:54 AM

For me to withdraw from my addiction would mean leaving not only the cellar and the internet, but the computer as well.

It is an awful curse.

It will be easy to not have a drink for Claudette, addiction and depression truly suck, and from what I've seen, cancer is definitely a pass.

She was and is an inspiration.

Gravdigr · 03-09-2013, 12:08 PM

I'm in. My glass will remain empty tonight.

Gravdigr · 03-09-2013, 12:09 PM

I don't know about the whole week...

Sundae · 03-09-2013, 02:20 PM

Too late for me. Had a drink. Well, four.
Limey and Mr Limey are being kind enough to take me in for a stay, so it will limit the damage I'm doing to myself. And in deference to Limey's sensible words I haven't gone all-out and got steaming.

I know Bri would far rather that I hadn't had a drink. But she would have understood. Addiction is not only complex and insidious, but in many ways it is learned behaviour and a coping mechanism.

Tomorrow and Monday I have to get this place spotless (the 'rents are away) and Tuesday I head on up to Arran. So there is no risk of this turning into a bender. I can't try any harder to beat my demons than I have been doing. But in a place with fresh air, the sea and absolutely no access to alcohol I can make sure I am back on track.

And no doubt I will cry again thinking that we used to say we would go there together one day.

DanaC · 03-09-2013, 02:42 PM

*hugs*

I'll raise an empty glass on your behalf mate.

Glad you're going to Arran. I think the break and the company will do you a power of good.

orthodoc · 03-09-2013, 02:55 PM

^wss^
I'm mostly at a loss for words today. But wishing you the best, Sundae.

Big Sarge · 03-10-2013, 01:25 PM

It's a grand idea, but I already blew it last night with some Bulleit Bourbon. However, I didn't take my sleep meds or anti-anxiety. Too scared to mix things now

03-09-2013, 07:12 AM	#1
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Let's don't have a drink for Claudette She faced three fatal diseases in her life: cancer, depression, and addiction. Cancer was the easiest one to beat. Fuck cancer, but fuck depression and addiction harder. The most appropriate thing I can think of, then, is that we don't have a drink in her memory. Remember her as we do not have a drink to her this week. This will be of different levels of difficulty for everyone, and I don't mean to set your agenda, but for me, I will raise an empty glass every night this week. And to every dwellar, for all time, if you have depression or alcoholism, get treatment. For fuck's sake, if you can't do it for yourself, do it for us. We will be here for you.

03-09-2013, 07:14 AM	#3
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Amen brother. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-09-2013, 08:21 AM	#4
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	What a great idea! __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

03-09-2013, 08:48 AM	#5
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Amen from this corner. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

03-09-2013, 08:58 AM	#6
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	We would all do well to learn what we can from Claudette's experience. Addiction has its hooks in a lot of us. We all need to look honestly at ourselves and determine what we are capable of and not capable of. We need to accept help when offered and just try. I'm going to make a stress reducing pro-sanity change in my life so I can see more clearly how blessed I am. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

03-09-2013, 09:14 AM	#7
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Thank you for this thread, Tony. It's good to have a way to channel one's energies when we're too far away to be helpful. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

03-09-2013, 10:19 AM	#8
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I'm with you Tony. However, since drinking was never my biggest rival, I will reaffirm that I will never smoke again in honor of her. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

03-09-2013, 10:54 AM	#9
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	For me to withdraw from my addiction would mean leaving not only the cellar and the internet, but the computer as well. It is an awful curse. It will be easy to not have a drink for Claudette, addiction and depression truly suck, and from what I've seen, cancer is definitely a pass. She was and is an inspiration. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-09-2013, 12:08 PM	#10
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	I'm in. My glass will remain empty tonight. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

03-09-2013, 12:09 PM	#11
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	I don't know about the whole week... __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

03-09-2013, 02:20 PM	#12
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Too late for me. Had a drink. Well, four. Limey and Mr Limey are being kind enough to take me in for a stay, so it will limit the damage I'm doing to myself. And in deference to Limey's sensible words I haven't gone all-out and got steaming. I know Bri would far rather that I hadn't had a drink. But she would have understood. Addiction is not only complex and insidious, but in many ways it is learned behaviour and a coping mechanism. Tomorrow and Monday I have to get this place spotless (the 'rents are away) and Tuesday I head on up to Arran. So there is no risk of this turning into a bender. I can't try any harder to beat my demons than I have been doing. But in a place with fresh air, the sea and absolutely no access to alcohol I can make sure I am back on track. And no doubt I will cry again thinking that we used to say we would go there together one day. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

03-09-2013, 02:55 PM	#14
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	^wss^ I'm mostly at a loss for words today. But wishing you the best, Sundae. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

03-10-2013, 01:25 PM	#15
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	It's a grand idea, but I already blew it last night with some Bulleit Bourbon. However, I didn't take my sleep meds or anti-anxiety. Too scared to mix things now __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

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