yeah...i wasn't complaining about it, btw....if you want to tell us about your difficulties, then cool. many people here will read it all and attempt to commiserate/console/feel you.

I'm not complaining about it either...just pointing out that life's experiences are unique for each of us, and we will all have different perspectives. My perspective is usually that of a hard-case, but what do I know? :)

I wouldn't be so sure he didn't weigh the input before making a decision how to proceed.
I'm glad he was able to make up his mind and do it.

He took action. Whether it was the correct one - who knows? But it was better than doing nothing at all. He has to proceed with his life now. The next move, if there is one, is entirely up to her.

What he said ...

Unless you have a homeless guy mooching off you :)
Which proves your point - it's very different when you are the one in the situation. Life is much less logical once emotions are involved.

Dis - let this draw a line under it, okay?
If she does not answer, don't read any more into it. Painful as it is - excrutiatingly, stomach-punchingly, got you sitting all night at the bar painful, I remember - this is still only temporary. Without further input from her it will very gradually hurt less. Which isn't what you want at all, but is the only consolation I can offer.

sundae girl: I hear you. Let's call it "Nobody gets all the answers they want". It ain't closure, it ain't clarity. But if this is the last interaction, at least I can tell myself that I tried to keep the lines of communication open. She doesn't answer, well, there's not much I can do about that. As it was said well by BigV earlier in the thread, I can't act for both of us.

You can pissed (drunk) with me n watch shitty movies if ya want?

I've felt this same thing. It's not a good indicator. If a relationship has an imminent expiration date, then you don't want to go down that path. That's starting out with one foot in the grave.

Zinngggggg... ;)

So true.

Good for you.

You're welcome. I wish you well.

This is an OUTSTANDING idea. I hope you don't get this feedback until midweek!

Interesting. Also entertaining. I find it odd that the people with the most "sound advice" are usually the ones from failed relationships.

Carry on.

Well, that would make sense, wouldn't it? I don't have much to add, since the last time I was dumped was in 1991.

Who you going to ask about recovering froma serious accident?
That's right, the chap with the scars.
Now you might not take safety advice from him, or even tips on a good night out, but he knows what he's talking about when it comes to cuts and bruises.

If LJ and Jinx were asking for advice (as if) mine would be noticeable by its absence.

Dis - do I get the feeling you are from this side of the pond? Or is it a holiday for the Merkins this weekend too?

All I remember is looking for love really really sucks. I wasted soooo much time doing that. Its either there or it isnt.