Sage advice already in this thread. I only have lyrics to add. :)

Speaking for myself, if I'd married any of the blokes I thought I was 'truly in love with' I'd have been divorced about 10 times by now. I know I love my husband, and I knew after our first date we'd be together for the long haul, but there was no crazy mad 'in love' silliness involved ever. We just loved each other from the start and I think we always will.

That is a nice post, Ali. I too have been around that block. Crazy mad in love is nice...what is nicer is contentment and feeling safe with the other person. Love is a conscious decision, a choice, a "for the long haul" will this person be what I need? Crazy love only lasts so long, is this long-lasting?

I was talking to married friends last night, and I mentioned "oh, we've all only been married once." They corrected me: she had been married 6 times and he had been married 3 times.

I forgot that. That's crazy talk! I can't imagine being married again, but if I ever am, it will be a better decision for ME than the one I made lo those many years ago. Not that I would change any of it. The love I felt is still there, in the form of friendship, which is what we were both good at with each other anyway. Still, it took me a long time to get involved again, with all the shields and walls one might expect.
The wait was worth it.

That's nice to hear, S.

Hahahahaa...some of us women reach a stage where the manipulative bad boy is a complete bore (we're on to you), as is the namby-pamby ass kisser guy (quit crying, I'm just going to the store, been doing it my whole life, I'll be fine). Just be REAL. That is all.

I'm still looking for a little of both without either to the extreme though...

I was in love and I believed at the time that we were going to be together forever.

But as life does things did not go as I foresaw. Everything fell apart I did all that I could do everything that could be asked and more, however, my best just wasn't good enough.

I guess somethings can not be fixed.

Adrift as sea on a starless night no lighthouse for me; I need to learn truly how to live and to always be able to count myself.
One day I will find land and make a home till then I shall live on stenght and faith alone, fighting each day.

I can't listen to that song. It makes me weepy. :o

I do love Joni's work that song is true beauty.

It sums up my life right now