How do you get close with someone over a 60-70 mile distance, when you can only see them once or twice each week?

How do you not look forward to September when that 70 mile distance becomes 3,000? How do you keep this from effecting your behavior?

So my problem is basically this: how do I build a teleporter?

@ Spexxvet

I need a safe, certain means of magnetically containing a deuterium/tritium plasma at one hundred million degrees centigrade. And I need it NOW.

I need an inexpensive, highly efficient fuel cell and an inexpensive, safe means of producing and distributing hydrogen. And I need it NOW.

I need a gravitational particle. And I need it NOW.

I need an inexpensive, readily mass-produced room temperature superconductive material. And I need it NOW.

Well?

Talk to freshnesschronic, he's got that all worked out.

So that means I need to start flipping out and acting all jerky (no offense intended FC)?

We're actually figuring it all out pretty handily. It's a team effort. Now is now; we'll take whatever develops. When September comes we'll deal with that then.

Keep it in your pants. Enjoy that she is attracted to you.

Gee, blue - looks like nobody's helping you out on this one.

Here's what I recommend: Tell her that x years ago you'd have been very interested but having a wife you can barely keep up with makes it all but impossible at this point. x is the number of years you've known your wife + 1.

That way nobody's feelings get hurt and nobody gets insulted.

If you're whacking, you're having no void of sex. If you want sex with someone else, impersonate blue and do his coworker. Or pick up a chick, pay a hooker, find a friend with benefits, or develop a meaningful relationship that includes sex. There are many ways to have sex with someone else - there is no way to stop masturbating.

About the colour scheme thing. Why not try for feature type colours for each room? For example, choose a light shade for all the walls, then a bright colour for one wall of each room area. For example, you could go for blues, or reds, but I've got a feeling you might be a magenta and orange kind of girl. ;) It might sound crap, but the result can be stunning if you split up the different rooms slightly by using free standing screens or situating your furniture appropriately maybe.

For blue, if you're both married, why not just enjoy the flirtation knowing there's really nothing in it?

That doesn't seem to be a problem. You can be attracted to whatever. If you don't want to get involved with guys that will be no good for you in the long run, then.... don't.

Move. Relocate to where the person is. If it's important enough, do it.

I reckon it's because she doesn't value herself highly enough.

Buy a supercomputer, and think real hard.

Do you think so? I would agree if she was attracted to "good guys", but settled for "bad guys". But if she's attracted to "bad guys", I think it might be something else. Maybe a non-conformist streak, or something.

IMHO, she seems to be worth a guy who gives her the best life she could want, but you're right, that doesn't mean she sees herself that way.

How others see us is rarely how we see ourselves. (there's a bit of pop psych for you)

The reason I think what I do is because a lot of what I see of Ducks is what I saw of myself a few yrs ago. I reckon she's getting there though, and besides, those bad boys are a challenge. ;) The only thing we chicks do wrong with them is not employing their adage which is, find 'em, f*ck 'em and flick 'em. IF we could just do that, the world would be our oyster. :)