Seems like you need a new routine. How about showering together after work....

Or ya could grudge-fuck.

@Grav: No, bj is quicker. Again tho, quicker is not very quick. After I get mine I really don't want to have to labor on him for 15-20 min more. If it works, sometimes, he just simply can't.

@Jay: I never honestly thought I would have a problem with a guy having stamina. Then you get what you wished for and you realize its not all that awesome. Don't feel cheated, unless your man doesn't attempt to make you get finished. That's one good thing about being a woman, I can have multiple cookies in much briefer period than the average male. :P

@Monnie, we shower together a lot, but he's a mechanic, he HAS to shower right after work and if I'm not home...not much can be done about that. I probably need to be more spontaneous and be willing to have sex BEFORE a shower. I'm really nervous when doing that though, I just feel much more comfortable having sex right after a shower. That might be common for people though, IDK.

@Pico: I got into this relationship looking for some selfish sex. (Hell it started with sexing him up at the drunken 4th of July party!) I tried to stay casual and selfish, but my altruistic side just gets the better of me.

Why does he take so long? That is long.... especially for someone his age

Perhaps he's jerking off too hard. I've been informed by at least one adult male that frequent rough handling will dull sensitivity, and that he should first take a moratorium for as long as he can stand, and then only use a feather-light touch when he inevitably resumes the practice. Unfortunately, the only way to relay this advice to him involves mtp admitting that he's taking too long, which I imagine is not a conversation she wants to have.

Tell him to stop thinking about dead kittens and old nuns. Maybe you need to talk dirty or something. Maybe you need to dress up like a nun? Maybe he's gay?

A twenty minute bj.:rolleyes:

Leave that poorly functioning unit, and come to Kentucky!! You will never want for ANYthing. I promise. [/kidding] call me.

:p:

I've been awake for two hours and now I'm already horny.:headshake

Wow, that long? Have you seen a doctor about that?

No health insurance.

I should say, its not 100% of the time its that bad. It still does take awhile for him on most occasions.

I broke down and cried last night when the time came about. I just couldn't get my mind past it and I basically has an anxiety attack. Which made both of us feel horrible. He blames himself and I blame myself, blah blah blah.
CF, should he just abstain from self-pleasure, or from both me and self for awhile and then see how it goes? Maybe it is that he is too desensitized. It seems odd to me, cuz I kinda had to "practice"(yes thats what I'm calling it) to get as sensitive as I am. Also, he was disfigured (AKA circumcised) and its a possibility (a scary one) that it wasn't done just right? As far as I know, he hasn't had any issue with self-pleasure though.

Well, not having a schlong myself, I honestly don't know. ;) But I would imagine that abstaining from hands would be the idea, both his and yours, since those would be the things that might rub too vigorously (especially if lube's not involved...) I doubt even a virginal Asian midget vajayjay would be friction-y enough to cause long-term desensitization. [/tasteless]

Male =/= Female. Don't even try to make parallels, they are doomed to confusion and disappointment. Only guys understand their own dangly bits, and vice versa.

If there is no medication involved (anti-depressants in particular can cause delayed orgasm), it seems more likely that you guys are inside your own heads too much, and he is picking up on your anxiety and this is preventing intimacy.

My guess is that you need to fully talk about and explore this whole thing, together.

That's very normal. The male is ready from the git-go, age 13 or whatever, while gals take longer, and greater emotional connection, to find their orgasmic rhythm.

he needs to stop wanking for a while, for sure

KY His and Hers....




thats all.