When I was 16, I was dating a 21-year-old. (Yes, it was illegal in Texas. Yes, the cops caught us once, but fortunately did not ask my age.) I know my parents hated him, but to their credit, they never actively pushed me to stay away from him. I was actually eagerly awaiting for them to do so, because I was ready to prove that I was so "in love" there was no way in hell they were going to keep me away from him. Then I figured out he was a complete idiot, and moved on. Your daughter will do the same, as long as she doesn't get pregnant (and I agree with Pie, he's more likely to be responsible if he's made it to 23 without having any kids.)

However, you say you "found out" he was 23. Were they lying to you, or had you just assumed?

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... She lied to us, they had some sort of agremment, that he would never have to lie to anyone about his age. From the beginning, he said she should just tell the truth about his age.

I was wondering the same thing, just hadn't posted the question yet. Well, one point to him for wanting to be honest, probably why you like him in the first place. My :2cents:: stay involved by asking questions, inviting him over for dinner, out on family outings...and let it run it's course.

Of course, my daughters's only 3, and my problem is keeping her in a bed, not out of one ;)

remind me to beat you with my mommystick.

Maybe he'll teach her a little bit more about maturity? Sounds like he will be a (mostly) positive influence on your daughter. But, as LabRat said, stay involved.

Do I *have* to tell you what sort of image that brings to mind? :eek:

umm... sure, if you want..........

End it. 23 is too old for 17

Originally Posted by darclauz
remind me to beat you with my mommystick.


You HAVE to KNOW he would just enjoy it !!!

That may be, but no more than six months to a year from now she will graduate and be on her own, free to date anyone she pleases. A parent's genuine ability to just "end it" diminishes greatly over the years, and at some point you have to simply provide advice instead of orders.

Just tell him you've hired a hit man. :speechls:

Cleaning firearms whenever the guy is in the house is the strategy I intend to use.

Wear a shoulder holster, but no coat.

Or you could use a line I heard recently on (I think it was the red neck comedy tour)

"...If anything should ever happen to my daughter, I just want you to know I have no problem with going back to prison..."

LJ does have a way with words.
Dar, remember to post pics of you beating LJ with the mommystick. Sounds like IotD material.

I like this one from Clueless:

"Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you."