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footfootfoot

06-04-2011 09:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigV (Post 738302)

What is Mrs Foot's degree of dedication to the union?
She mostly is dedicated
I realize that you might (probably) want to ignore this question here, STFU, perfectly fine responses. I ask from my own experience. As plain as it is to say out loud, it was surprisingly easy to overlook in my own thoughts at the time. I might want to keep the marriage intact, but if Tink wanted to end it, it was over. Each party has the right and the ability to end it (passively, consciously, actively, neglectfully, etc etc.). It takes two to make it work.

Do you want it to work? I would like that

Does she want it to work?She would like that

Is the desire of each explicitly known to the other?yes

Unless you have three yes answers in a row there, you absolutely have a deal breaking problem.

That being said, wanting it to work and being willing to do the work to make it work are two different things

As someone once said, the reason they call it work is because it isn;t a vacation

BigV	06-04-2011 09:55 PM

Excellent. These answers are, as you clearly know, necessary but not sufficient.

Knowing what you each want is a *BIG* deal in your favor, having both answers be "Yes" is an even *bigger* deal. Excellent. :)

footfootfoot

06-08-2011 01:04 PM

In recent news Homegirl has completely lost the plot. I am now quietly setting everything in place to make my exit. The nature of things means this will be a process of about 6 months to a year. I'm done and looking ahead now.

Every man for himself and God against them all

BigV	06-08-2011 01:15 PM

good lord.

glatt

06-08-2011 01:17 PM

Gook luck, foot. I'm sorry for you that it's come to this, but I hope it goes as smoothly as possible from here.

classicman

06-08-2011 01:19 PM

Sad and sorry to hear that. Be well...

Undertoad

06-08-2011 01:26 PM

Whatever you do, don't keep the house. I know, you put a lot into it.

jimhelm

06-08-2011 01:27 PM

shit.

sorry, bro.

footfootfoot

06-08-2011 01:32 PM

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

Spexxvet

06-08-2011 01:43 PM

Good luck F3. Be happy.

Undertoad

06-08-2011 02:02 PM

rooting for you.

Pete Zicato

06-08-2011 02:05 PM

I am truly sorry foot. I hope you find peace.

infinite monkey

06-08-2011 03:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 738996)

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

I know this feeling. I left the house and took my car and my things. I just wanted my sanity intact, which wouldn't have happened had I fought or bickered over stuff. Of course, there weren't children involved, for us. :(

Good luck to you.

limey

06-08-2011 03:49 PM

Sorry to hear this footfootfoot. Good luck.

Griff

06-08-2011 04:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 738996)

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

I think this is a good choice. take care Bro

kerosene

06-08-2011 04:57 PM

I am sorry, footy. I know things will get better for you, eventually. We are all here for ya.

Aliantha

06-08-2011 06:40 PM

A lot of cellar marriages seem to have fallen apart over the last couple of years. I think I'll put a bit more effort into mine just for insurance.

I'm sorry things have turned out this way for you foot. I hope you come through it all knowing you did the right thing by yourself and the kids.

monster

06-08-2011 08:58 PM

Will you take the kids given that you're a stay-at-home home-schooling dad?

Clodfobble

06-08-2011 09:57 PM

Sorry, foot. Hope things start looking up for you soon.

Nirvana

06-08-2011 10:15 PM

I hope whatever is good will find its way to you ...

Lola Bunny

06-08-2011 10:16 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. Good luck to you and I hope you get your sanity back, sooner than later.

xoxoxoBruce

06-09-2011 12:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 739057)

A lot of cellar marriages seem to have fallen apart over the last couple of years. I think I'll put a bit more effort into mine just for insurance.

That's easy, make him a sandwich. If he doesn't eat it, give him a blowjob.

sigh, Chicks have it easy.;)

jimhelm

06-09-2011 04:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce (Post 739103)

That's easy, make him a sandwich. If he doesn't eat it, give him a blowjob.

sigh, Chicks have it easy.;)

And if he DOES eat it, give him a blow job and then make him another sando.

casimendocina

06-09-2011 04:40 AM

Am very sorry to hear that 3Foot, but hope that having made the decision, your sanity returns quickly and that the next few months are much easier to handle knowing that there is an end to the current situation.

DanaC

06-09-2011 04:47 AM

Keep putting one foot in front of the other my friend. You'll get to where you need to be.

We're here if and when you need to vent.

casimendocina

06-09-2011 04:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 739113)

We're here if and when you need to vent.

You already know this, but as above.

skysidhe

06-09-2011 09:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 738996)

Thanks guys. I don't want the house, I want my sanity back.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Griff (Post 739032)

I think this is a good choice. take care Bro

I agree. Having a higher sense of self, instead of it being filtered through the bias, of the other person is better.

It's just maneuvering through the highs and lows until you find that good inner plateau I wish you luck for. ( and anyone who is going through this )

morethanpretty

06-11-2011 12:23 AM

I hope that things get better for you.

footfootfoot

06-11-2011 08:22 AM

:D

You'll never guess who is visiting for the millimeter's 4th birthday!

FSM grant me,
Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can, and
Wisdom to hide the bodies of the people I had to strangle because they drove me insane.
;)

j/k I'll be fine. Thanks to all your humorous postings. Now get posting!

Trilby

06-11-2011 08:25 AM

hang in there footy!

xoxoxoBruce

06-11-2011 08:29 AM

I mailed you some reading material yesterday, something to pass the time on sniper duty. Millimeter's 4th birthday is the center of the occasion, focus on it. :cool:

footfootfoot

06-11-2011 08:55 AM

Thanks! Bri and XoB.

(off topic: the inch was reading the cellar over my shoulder and said "That's crazy! xoxoxoBruce." I explained to him that xoxoxo meant 'hugs and kisses' and he said

"So his name is Hugs and Kisses Bruce? That's even crazier!" He ran out of the room laughing.

Spexxvet

06-11-2011 09:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 739584)

She looks a little like a woodchuck, don't you think? Ask her to get close to your neighbor's shack, and then....

classicman

06-11-2011 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spexxvet (Post 739601)

She looks a little like a woodchuck, don't you think? Ask her to check the gasline on your neighbor's shack, and then....

FTFY

richlevy

06-12-2011 05:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha (Post 739057)

I think I'll put a bit more effort into mine just for insurance.

The Mrs. says that I have been 'more attentive' lately. I'm not sure if it's a response to what's been going on here, my mom's death, or simply a bit more wisdom on my part about the fleeting nature of life and relationships.

Seeing her happier makes me happier. The woman has put up with me for over a quarter of a century.

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