It hasn't been THAT long, Brianna, didn't you break up with that married guy just a couple of months ago?

Think about it this way: you know how food tastes so much better to you now? A future relationship will be so much better because of the changes in your life too. Each day that passes puts you in a better position to receive it when the opportunity arises.

you said "arises". :doit: huhhuh huh uh huhhuh

Yes, true, true. Maybe it just seems that long.

I thought that for a while after my divorce. Thankfully I met a girl kind enough to let me sleep with her. :D

i thought thte same thing for a while after my divorce. then when i did start dating i realized how much better the sex was with someone who wasn't trying to make me feel low all the time.

heh. i let the g/f finally go last week (long story of her drunken abuses towards me) and have already scored! er, actually, she picked ME up!! yep. older women know what they want.

If you're not ready for a relationship, look around for a fuckbuddy. (Granted, I WAS barely over 19 when I had that type of "relationship" but it worked and worked verrry well!)

I think I let go of the weird repressed sexuality/"god is going to send me to hell with the voice of my dad" syndrome a long time ago. Though the beliefs my family had while I was growing up included the idea that sex before marriage was bad and I had to "cover my eyes" for the sex scenes in movies, my mom was kind of open and sort of realized when I was in high school that she wasn't going to be able to stop me if I wanted to do it. Her forbidding me to even think about it would have bred even more angst and hostility within my family...we had more than enough at that age.

Dakota and I have been living together for a while now, so the actual mechanics of the relationship haven't changed much at all. Now, it's just that others recognize our relationship differently and we had that chance to make the vows to each other and make it "official". I am happy to be married to him...don't get me wrong. We might never have had the ceremony at all if it weren't for our kids and families...well, we would have had the ceremony but it might not have been accompanied by a piece of paper and a shorter last name for me. Those things weren't terribly important to us. We knew what we felt and feel and we wouldn't need those things. It has been good for the kids, though...helps them to adjust and make sense of things.

I better not never have sex again! (double negative was intentional)

so Case do you have pics of your ceremony yet?

I love wedding photos and stories.. I probably have a formal ceremony personally cuz i want to invent my own "thing" for binding with my partner but its always interesting hearing about what others have done to make themselves "officially" unite.

i dont think that marriage is what kills sex, i think if you have survived living together for a long time, marraige wont chage anything. If sex is going to fail, i reckon it'll fail in the first year of living together. IMO.

Don't forget in your seventh year of living together, when you both get fat. It can definitely fail then too. :)

Todays news said 8 years is average now. :(

average for what? divorce? getting fat? end of sex? ???

Believe me, I got over my subconsious (sp) worries. I told my husband about it, we had a good laugh, and moved on. Now we joke about it sometimes, like when we try something new/off the wall. "What do you think your dad would have thought of that??" Plus, I told myself, he can only 'see' me when I think about him and I want him to, like during a race, or when I'm playing with my daughter. I know, I'm wacko, but at least I know it :)

Really small penises... Or really big ears? I'm not sure I want to know.

:lol: good one!

when i was with my ex for five years before we got married then we were together for another four. looking back at pictures from then, i can see the extra 10 or 15 pounds i would carry. sex, forget it. that fizzled after the first year of marriage.

it's been a while here in cowheadtown.. however, it's mostly because I don't want to get emotionally involved with anyone.. and yeah, there is of course sex without emotion, but... I haven't been a fan of that in a while... and Bri.. you will have sex again, I assure you.