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Shawnee123 10-21-2010 08:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spexxvet (Post 689390)
I'm really surprised that the lunch supervisor's report isn't given more weight. Could you have the principal's supervisor look into the matter?

Principal's supervisor? School superintendent?

glatt 10-21-2010 09:06 AM

Yeah, call the mayor while you're at it.

Undertoad 10-21-2010 10:26 AM

I know it's no consolation, but chances are B gets abuse at home. This shit doesn't appear out of nowhere.

footfootfoot 10-21-2010 11:25 AM

UT''s on to something there. Drop a dime on B's folks with Social Services about some form of abuse suspected. That'll keep the family busy. Unless of course his folks are crack whores in which case DSS will just pass on by.

Adak 10-21-2010 01:45 PM

Your son had some involvement in the fight, and whether he only held kid C, or actually hit him, doesn't matter. He's just as guilty as B.

Don't for a moment THINK that justice is fair. That rarely happens. Justice is blind, remember?

Credit your son for being honest. Advise him to never admit guilt again, until after considering advice given to him, by you or his lawyer, and to keep his hands, etc., off of others. He can't go through school or life, getting into fights. Not directly, and not indirectly, by manipulating others.

Do NOT concern yourself with the punishment of B. That is NOT your concern AT ALL. Try to assist your son to overcome the damage your son helped to inflict on C, if it's possible.

A handwritten note from your son, apologizing and wishing C all the best, perhaps on a card, would be appropriate.

No matter WHAT you do to try and get some fairness in this matter of B, is simply wrong - you are out of line, mister - stop, immediately.

Cloud 10-21-2010 03:39 PM

don't call Social Services on him for a schoolyard fistfight

Spexxvet 10-21-2010 05:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt (Post 689397)
Yeah, call the mayor while you're at it.

Some parents would already have a lawyer involved.

anonymous 03-24-2011 10:57 AM

Update (reminded by Spexxvet linking to the discussion)

Kid B was moved to a different class after Christmas, no explanation, life became much better. Kid A has learned to avoid Kid B

Principal also assured us kids A and B would not be in the same class next year. :thumb: Principal resigned last week :rolleyes: There have apparently been many complaints about similar poor handling of situations, principal (who was on a year's leave to get a masters degree) has decided to pursue a different career.

anonymous 01-16-2012 09:34 PM

Update

Kid B did not return to school this year. The principal also left (as per previous update). Rumor has it principal was pushed and this incident was part of the reason (among several others). New principal was one of the teachers who (unofficially) agreed Kid A was getting shafted. Kid A is doing so much better and is now best friends with and in class with Kid C.

BigV 01-16-2012 09:47 PM

good to hear, thanks for the update. :)

classicman 01-16-2012 10:31 PM

Excellent.
Is "A" feeling better about going to school now?
Any progress on the "stay away from B" plan?

monster 01-16-2012 10:51 PM

Presumably Kid B not returning to school would help with the "staying away" thing?

Sundae 01-17-2012 11:08 AM

Sometimes things don't go after all from bad to worse :)

Kid A behaved well after the incident, and the fact he is now friends with Kid C shows how badly he was influenced. Who knows, one of them might end up telling this story at the other's wedding.

Glad the real troublemaker is out of the picture.
At that age, sometimes that is the very best to hope for.
Children cannot make the same logical decisions as adults - I see it over and over at school. Although to a much lesser extent.

ZenGum 01-17-2012 07:06 PM

If you really think adults make logical decisions ... :lol:

infinite monkey 01-17-2012 07:15 PM

Seriously. Kid B will be a wife beater or a serial killer or something.

Unless Kid B has some kind of epiphany or someone shows Kid B there are better ways to go about things.

Sad...


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