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footfootfoot 04-18-2011 06:38 PM

Yeah but after "see a professional" your duty is done.

DanaC 04-18-2011 06:40 PM

Unless she really is a newly arrived dwellar in which case I'd quite like to learn a little more about her.

pensive pam 04-18-2011 06:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC (Post 724087)
Unless she really is a newly arrived dwellar in which case I'd quite like to learn a little more about her.

I just arrived on this site today. And I have stated that fact. Just because I am deaf, does not mean that I can not see some of the hurtful comments that people are writing regarding my situation, and viewing me as a 'joke.'

I am not sure what else you would like to know. You were so kind to me Dana, now I see that you have said that I am not true of my circumstances??? I came here seeking help, yet it seems that people are not being kind to me. I have come here in pieces, seeking some peace...

footfootfoot 04-18-2011 06:46 PM

She has above average writing skills, she sounds quite self reflective and she has a reason for continuing with all her problems. She considers someone suggesting professional help a value judgement, yet she also claims to see a therapist 2x week. This hasn't come up?

That's all I bothered to read. The smell is almost as bad as puke.

footfootfoot 04-18-2011 06:48 PM

She's the only one talking about her deafness and trotting it out as an argument that legitimizes her claims of being persecuted... Circular.

pensive pam 04-18-2011 06:53 PM

Is that you Stephen???

I knew you would find me here. I was going to tell you that night, but then you left. I wanted to tell you that I love you, but I was afraid of the silence that would follow. And at times, I fantasize about rejecting an apology from you that will never come. And I want to stop lying to you, but you would just be dissapointed in me.

You told me that you were sad because you thought it was 'goodbye' for a little while. I was sad because I knew it was 'goodbye' forever...

Everyone says 'I love you,' ...and then they don't. I should have never let you get on that train... Love - Pam.

Nirvana 04-18-2011 07:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 724083)
I have a third instinctive response to PP's post, and that is my bullshit meter is in the red.

I suspect if bullshit were music she'd be a brass band.

But three cheers for credulous dwellars willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Absolutely! My BS meter goes off for anyone wanting to harm another human being and writing it on a public forum as a noob.

Nirvana 04-18-2011 07:55 PM

Anyone else hear "Play Misty For Me"?

pensive pam 04-18-2011 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nirvana (Post 724101)
Absolutely! My BS meter goes off for anyone wanting to harm another human being and writing it on a public forum as a noob.

What is going on here now?? Who is harming anybody? Am I not welcomed here??

Nirvana 04-18-2011 08:07 PM

You are certainly welcome here, your postings indicate you need help, perhaps this site would be a better place to air your thoughts and problems http://nami.org

pensive pam 04-18-2011 08:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nirvana (Post 724107)
You are certainly welcome here, your postings indicate you need help, perhaps this site would be a better place to air your thoughts and problems http://nami.org

I am afraid to open that link; as many links have viruses. I appreciate you accepting me here. Why is everyone saying I need help??? It is making me feel much worse than I already do. Are we all not friends on here?? You are making me think that there is something inherently wrong with me...which I already know...

But your words are hurtful, and I am not an animal at the circus, for your entertainment. Perhaps, I should just leave...no?

Nirvana 04-18-2011 08:30 PM

Mental illness is a serious medical illness that affects one in four families.

National Alliance For The Mentally Ill, NAMI's support and public education efforts are focused on educating America about mental illness, offering resources to those in need and insisting that mental illness become a high national priority.
Here is a link to their discussion groups not a virus...

LINK

pensive pam 04-18-2011 08:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nirvana (Post 724114)
Mental illness is a serious medical illness that affects one in four families.

National Alliance For The Mentally Ill, NAMI's support and public education efforts are focused on educating America about mental illness, offering resources to those in need and insisting that mental illness become a high national priority.
Here is a link to their discussion groups not a virus...

LINK

So you are implying that I am 'mentally ill??' From what esteemed university did you earn your PHD, may I ask? I am very upset with some of the responses I have received here; and I do not know why you are playing the role of an internet psychiatrist. Please, just let me be...

Flint 04-18-2011 09:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot (Post 724083)
I have a third instinctive response to PP's post, and that is my bullshit meter is in the red.

I suspect if bullshit were music she'd be a brass band.

But three cheers for credulous dwellars willing to give her the benefit of the doubt.

The other thread just sort of went away after I halfway suggested that I suspect this is the case.

pensive pam 04-18-2011 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Flint (Post 724120)
The other thread just sort of went away after I halfway suggested that I suspect this is the case.

Now what? What is 'the case??' I have been on here for less than a day. I have tried to make friends, and now this? Please explain...

This is not fair to me, and it is very hurtful, as I have no one to turn to; and I am out of options with most of the details of my life...

Your friend?
Pam.


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