Having been a boss myself, I don't think just liking someone is enough to make you want to promote them. In fact, conversely, I've found that I like the people who do a good job in a professional situation, much more than the ones that I might have more in common with, but who are less competent.

If they happen to be good at the job, and likeable, that makes a big difference though. Most people would rather work with people they like than those they don't. Even bosses.

I agree. Unfortunately, I don't kiss ass, so I don't have much brownie points with anyone.

No, but you have plenty of cookie points with some of us ;)

FIFY. ;)

I detest ass kissers.


Kissing your ass is a prelude to stabbing you in the back.

That's why you're so awesome, zen. You don't fall for their bull shit. You can see right through it because you're so smart. Say, that's a fine looking shirt you're wearing there. Did you get a haircut?

We shouldn't lose sight of this. There is huge overlap between what is likeable and what is good for your organization.

that's a very good point Griff, it's the overlap that matters.

someone who's all competence and no charisma is good only for a job as a hermit.

someone who's all charisma and no competence is good only for a job as a politician.

(that sounds like a cheap shot at politicians. I like our system of government and value the work done by our legislature, executive and judiciary. "politicians" on the other hand are akin to public sector celebrities, just less interesting and more expensive.)

Not that there's anything wrong with that.;)