:facepalm:

:headshake

I get the law involved and press charges. I know myself and that's just how I am.

Yeah. Sorry.

What a fucking loser. I know those types, and that's just how it is.

How long until the abuse starts? Mark my words.

marked.

I give it 3 months. fucking shame.

what's worse is that I'd give a shit if he did. I'd try to help her out of the jam if she asked. I know me, that's how I am.

asshole.

No, it's good you're that way.

God. I've been with "that guy."

And I care too. I wouldn't want that to happen.

But I bet it does. And the reality is, not all of them leave because you tell them to...or let you leave because you want to. It's about control and possession. I got knocked around pretty good before he decided jail and him wouldn't get along. :(

Heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. I really hope I'm wrong.

yeah... maybe he's just not very articulate, and deep down, he's really a good guy who will be nice to her and respect her and stuff.

I hope so, for her sake.

Hang in there, man.

I think you're handling it quite well, jimhelm.

Riiiiiiiiiiight.


IMHO not very articulate guys who pull stunts like that - aren't really good guys. To anyone. Not even their own progeny.

hang in there, jim. You dodged a bullet.

It's not even bumming my stone anymore... the conversation is just in this thread.

thanks though....

btw... i HATE my voice on a recording!

LOL ok, then. Glad to hear it

And, baby, your voice is teh sex. ;)

es teh dork

Dude needs a Visit from uncle Vinny and his Knee bat ,
But then he'd just be a Victim,
Poor himz , Oh BoooHoooo !!!!

Stay out of it and Let him fall on his OWN Face

I went to the store to pick up a Case XX Sodbuster knife and discovered they are no longer made with the liner lock. Pissed me right the fuck off. Where am I gonna find an old Sodbuster with a liner lock?

Sounds like a made up implement, like a block stretcher. nice try.

feet, I have a nice CRKT M1-13 Greg Lightfoot with liner lock. It's one of my favorite knives, but it sounds like you need it more. It's just like this one (before the modifications). If you want it, pm me your address.

Edit: Here's a better review.

Damn Jim...

Hope it all works out for the best and you have virtually zero to deal with.

I figure it's all worked out Now. Has been in my mind since the first phone call. Guess not so much for poor NewBoyfriend. I just listened to the call again... Man. Dude is not .....crisp, let's say. And he likes to the throw the word, "Fucken"in before any object or verb in a given sentence. "I didnt want to....just....fucken throw the Fucken DVDs out, cuz that's.... Fucken money, man! ...I didn't want to just Fucken ..... just.....dick you over...ya know?"

Ok, cool, thanks....man.


Anyway.... He tells me at one point that he knows alllll about me. ...

And that's kinda weird right there... Kinda like how the lurkers do....fuckers....Fuck you, you Fucken lurkers, Fucken Come out here where I can Fucken call you Fucken cock!

But I'm thinking that she's torturing him already. Why is she telling him about me? She really likes a good reaction.... Now I think of it, our thing wound down as my reaction to her shenanigans became more resigned and I was more and more willing to give it up for a bad job. And the instigation became more frequent.... Considering how her main stated complaint about her ex was his apathy..... One wonders if his apathy took him before or after he lost his nuptials. He may have iced over in order to insulate himself from her pendulous boobs moods.

Whatever.

Wow! that is a hell of a knife. I will pm you.

What do you mean 'made up'? I have three different sized block stretchers. I keep them next to my brass magnets.

Yeah! I flicking it last night while watching the Dual Sport Riding Techniques DVD.

Wow. Is there anything that man can't do?

He hasn't had a hit in a few years.

Of course not, he's been concentrating on CGH-342255X-T1 RT-L6789-VE23211 with Lip Lock® construction, and marketing

I hear you Jim, went through something oddly similar with my ex. Different, but still relevant. Change your number, don't reply ... walk away briskly.
I see this "thing" of theirs ending and ending badly. Get out of the fallout zone.

So, tell me more about the knives.

I had a knife like that once.

So, one year in, Hector's now an established and respected hockey goalie, and has the same coaches and we're going up to the same tourney in the UP...... just found out it's on the same weekend as Hebe's High School Swim Championships.

Both require all Friday as well as Sat and Sun. Assuming beest can get the day off work, then Hector can at least be accompanied by one parent as opposed to being sent off with another family (this is especially important for goalies because after a bad loss, it's easy and natural for all to blame the goalie even if it wasn't their fault at all. last year his team was great and his assistant coach is totally into "it's not the goalie's fault" ....but for For their mental health, goalies at tourneys need someone who is always on their side, whether they fucked up or not.)

But neither of us can attend both. Srsy how on earth did we manage to get the most important weekends of their chosen sports to coincide?

Also, I run the computer on the scoring table for swim meets and we are hosting. But the UP is a 4 hour drive and beest is not the driver I am and we might get back really late on Sunday and he will have to work the next day.... But I have experienced that tourney before and he hasn't.... how to choose?

Bummed there's no way to do both :(

Clearly a case for cloning !!!

I almost got all psychological/Sherlock here. She's like this because ... probably her father ... maybe if you tried ...

Damn idiot, I am. Not my problem, not Jim's anymore either.
Wisdom.

[turns footy on telly, opens beer, passes one to Jim]

Hmmm. It sounds like you have to go to the swim meet bec. you run the score board and Beest has to do the long haul drive. It also sounds like Hector would like to have you in his corner more so than dad. (just guessing at that) Can you give Beest a crash course in score board management and you do the long haul?

How would asking the spoor what their choice of parent escort would be pan out?

already considered the scoreboard thing. have emails out to see if anyone else who knows how to do it is available (am thinking there must be someone -there are 45 swimmers and our kids have been swimmers for years, it's all pretty much the same once you know how...)

Beest is a firey hockey dad. No-one's going to diss his kid while he's around. That's why he always got to be the one going to Thor's practices when we had kid-hating-coach. But it's still a long drive.

This is how it goes: The trees fall down and you need a new roof and gutters. Then your brakes go - WHOA! - and now there's no hot water.

Still, it's better to be here, having this, than your best day in Afghanistan. Or so my MP buddy tells me.

ugh. seeing as the car isn't going anywhere, maybe you could leave the engine running and heat water on it?

/lemonademoment

:D Or I could just pretend I'm living in post-war London? :D


the brakes have been fixed and I'm getting a new water heater today....it just seems like I've got a target on my back.

ok, so I was wrong.

:(

What's going on, jim? Oh I know it's none of my bidness. I just hope everything is OK.

:comfort:

Heard from her neighbor yesterday, who had it from prospective tenants, that her old apartment was not available because she was moving back in ....because the new boy had become abusive.

Oh fudge.

Crap.

I'm sorry that it happened. No one deserves that.

Ugh, I don't know what to say...I would have rather been wrong, for her sake.

Assjacket. You want we should send Guido?

I hope you're OK. I can't even imagine how you're feeling, though. :(

:(

Oh, I'm fine. I Hope she has the sense to get away quickly is all.

Me too.

Glad you're ok.

She's moving out, at least that's a moderately good sign.

All this about the woman and the bloke, that's your brief ill considered romance lady after the big bust up right? It's not J is it?

RIGHT.... as far as I know jinx isn't dating. If I thought someone was hitting her, I'd be acting very differently.

Yeah, that's what I thought. Still, it's rough. It's incredible how many men think it's ok to hit a woman though, or do worse. Just about every woman I know has been a victim of some kind of physical abuse from a man. OK, maybe not just about every woman, but more than half. That's a lot.

Well..... You women just dont listen!

Apparently not. :(

I can't even imagine hitting a woman. It's just not even feasible

:facepalm:

OK, I'm a total doofus. I misread that whole thing.

So solly.

I didn't want to be real specific on a public board, so it's understandable that you mistook that. Thanks for clarifying, Ali. I will pm you some background if you like, shaw. But, yeah... It would be completely different were it jinx. She is neither crazy nor stupid. She would never get involved with a mook like this guy. I'm sure that she will find a good man that makes me look like an even bigger dickhole by comparison. She makes good decisions. It is maybe her most valuable gift/talent.

You're not a dickhole Jim. Well, not all the time. :rolleyes: (I feel like I've come to the limit of my niceness quota with you today. If I keep it up, people will say we're in love or something equally stupid)

Jim and Ali, sittin inna tree...


etc.

AH HEM.

this horseshit continues.

back in March, the boyfriend called me again. He started out by threatening to bring 50 Pagans and a baseball bat to my house. He was sure 'she' had been seeing me. It took me 2 hours talking to him to get him calmed down to the point where I wasn't worried about him visiting me.... In talking to him, he told me that he had her facebook log in, and was checking up on her. The next morning I had a fb message from H (her) asking me to stop having heart to heart conversations with E because he can be very unstable.. NO! ?really?

.... So I sent a message to her friend telling her that she should erase that message before he saw it, and while i am sorry she's in a pickle with him, it's not my fault... and I'd rather not have anything to do with either of them. A couple days later, another friend of hers calls me, and he and her mom are very worried about her. I commiserate, but can't help her. then nothing new for 3 months...

Now, Monday, I get a call from E again. He wants to let me know that he tested positive for HIV... and he doesn't know if I've been seeing her or not, but just maybe I should get checked. I had NOT been seeing her. But who knows where he got it. maybe he got it from her? in which case, maybe I did too?

Well, I didn't. I got tested Weds, and heard the results today. all clear.

I sent the friend of hers that called me a message asking him to have her call me. I want to know if it's just bullshit... or if he's told her about it if it's true. I really hope it's bullshit. I'd hate to think she has it too. Then I sent E a text letting him know that I'm clean...and asking how H is...and did he tell her. I've heard back from the friend who said he would ask her to call me... but have not heard back from H or E.

I think the most likely thing is that it was a lie, and H does not know anything about it. And not knowing why I want to talk to her, wont' be calling. I guess it doesnt matter... but I'd like to know if this was just this lunatic fucking with me. because if it was.... well... I won't put it in writing.

enough already

jfc.

I wish I had some kind of advice that could increase your chances of decreasing your contact with them. I don't. Sorry.

I once read a comic (Calvin and Hobbes I think... maybe not) and the grumpy character was making everyone else grumpy. The punchline was, nothing improves a grumpy mood like spreading it around. Some people feel the same way about crazy drama. I don't know a good defense against it, not when it is accompanied by threats of a Pagan invasion.

Good luck.

;)

Had a girlfriend years and years ago that pulled that "stunt". i'd bet a dollar that's all that was. he said that shit to try and see if she's still *ahem* pardon me sir, but to see if you're still fuckin' her.

it's b.s. sooner you can get that crazy shithead off your back the better. good luck bro!

Not dating???

What about if someone were hitting on her?

I jest.

TOTALLY.

Female to male HIV transmission is very rare.

that is all