He is an asshole - sit in the class YOU PAID for and let him TEACH. Don't let him make you leave - that just justifies his assholiness and he'll do it again. Screw him, if you aren't gonna go to battle with guns blazin - let him squirm - not you.

Oops, when you said "we had agreed that I would audit the course" I thought you meant you were already auditing it. Never mind.

Nail him.

Yeah, that's what I read too. I agree. Don't let him get away with it. Don't let him make you feel like the bad guy. Oops, I promised to shut up. sorry.

You're doing it again.....

looking for love in all the wrong places.
Looking for love in too many faces.
Searching their eyes, looking for traces
of what I'm dreaming of.

Eliciting desire, or even empathy, is not validation of worth.
You and I, know you're smart, capable and sexy... you don't need that cock's approval. Make 'em do the right thing.

I'm back in love with bruce.

why-o-why doesn't he live in OHIO?

Then I'd be fightin' you for him, Bri. ;)

Let us know what path you take and how it works out.

I would just hate to see you lose so much because of his hang-ups and your desire to not make waves (which is understandable...you're going through enough.) Hang in there!

I wrote him an email: here it is:


Dear ------

I haven't been able to sleep since you've asked me to leave your
class. I don't know what I have done (other than being an inattentive
student on Thursday but everyone has bad days now and again). Is it my
cancer that is bothering you--the other students? I've tried to be as
normal as possible; not call attention to myself. I was so looking
forward to the Plath study; Dr. -------, I just don't know what to say
to you to convince you that I won't be any trouble to you, that I will
simply come and go to class if you'll allow it and I won't be emotional-
--if I am I will just stay home.

Dr.----- did write an email on my behalf and I apologize if you
think that presumptuous but he offered to do it and my desperation made
me accept. I think that at the very least I deserve an explanation as
to why I am being asked to leave. When there are students in much more
dire straights than I who attend classes with nary a glance, I find my
cancer to be small potatoes!!

My desire is not to alienate you further and I sincerely hope you are
not offened by this missive---I am half afraid to send it, but
discretion being the better part of valor is not my family motto.
(sadly).


Sincerely,
C------

It's the being "asked to" leave part I don't get. If he's asking, don't leave.

Personally, I would get him to "ask you" to leave, in writing (if he hasn't already). Let him go on record with this silly business.

that's what I'm sayn' yo.

Why do you care if you offend him? He has already been more offensive and insensitive than any human should ever be. Fuck him and the tenure he rode in on. Seriously.

he DID ask me to leave in writing: Yo:

Hi, Claudette --

I didn't mind the letter from Dr------ Plainly, he thinks very
highly of you, as do I.

But I am still absolutely convinced that you should not come to class
this term. You must wait. I have to keep in mind the welfare of my
entire class, and I cannot teach effectively if you are upset, and I am
upset.

J-----

This sounds like it's in reference to something specific. Did you have a breakdown in class or something that set off this whole thing?


(You missed a name edit in your first paragraph, BTW.)

I don't get it either.

No, I wasn't emotional. I just sat there, elbow on table, head down looking a my paper--no outburst. If I had HAD an outburst I would tell you all. what name did I not edit? I went thru and can't find it----oh, thanks, bruce. how stupid of me!

People, even intelligent, educated, ones, have strange reactions to people with cancer some times. They act like it's cooties.

Brianna is a flirt, partially conscious, partially subconscious. It's her personality, just part of how, and who, she is.

The prof thought maybe he'd get some, maybe even heard that "little dick" got some, and now is disappointed that she got sick. It ruined his fantasy, which is an important perk for profs, and he wants her out of his life, until she's fantasy material again.