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Love - she abandoned everything for love, which I don't support because I believe that it often leads to situations like M dumping her.

Sex - He was just an opportunist. He helped her to do what she wanted. I wouldn't support him, but I won't condemn him.

Friendship - I'm not sure if he should have told M.

Morality - I could see myself in his situation, and I don't like his situation. He didn't try to help the situation. Maybe he had ten or twenty dollars, but he wouldn't give anything up for love. This I also do not support. While he should have reacted poorly to S, he should have overcome it. I think that this was a thin veneer of love.

Business - This should have ranked higher -- but that was a charity situation. Given that she had no money, doubling the price was cruel and worthless. He should have been trying to figure out some way to both get her across and benefit himself.

I agree with your re-ranking, though I'd place friendship after morality.
I took the test and it was pretty off...


Here are your rankings.

Love
Sex
Business
Friendship
Morality


Love is in the right place, but in reality, morality and friendship probably have pretty equal ranking with me. Sex, to me, is the closest you can get to a person, and therefore, should be reserved for the person you love (however, this woman wasn't cheating as such....she was doing what would get her to the man she loved...it was more business than emotion) so, in the context of love, I'd probably place sex third or fourth. Business, to me, is a way to make money; money being a means to an end.

However, it doesn't matter how much money you have if you don't have love and friendship, and you can't keep either one of those if you don't have morality. Sex is lagniappe to love and friendship (because, ideally, your love should also be your best friend).



Sidhe

I agree with that. People aren't possessions, much as we may think of them that way subconsciously (and I think we all do that...."MY man," "MY woman," "MY child"). It seems to me that people are too often willing to just walk away when they find that "THEIR" person isn't the paragon that they were painted as in the first flush of love....the truth is, people have aggravating habits...people in love DO disagree; they DO argue and fight over things that won't be important in five years but seem important at the moment. Trust, respect, compassion...you said it all right there. If you have those three things, I think you can get through anything, if you're willing to work at it and not just walk away when things get tough. Because they do get tough sometimes, no matter how great a couple is together.

((I guess that's kind of why I admire my friend who's going through this trouble with her husband (the one I posted about on "Need advice for a friend..." She loves her husband, and she really wants things to be the way they were before, and she's willing to work her ass off to see it happen, rather than just take the easy road and walk away from the problem. She understands that marriage is, barring physical abuse and extreme mental or emotional abuse (I specify "extreme" because what may be mental/emotional abuse for one may be something another person would blow off), for better or for worse, and that things aren't always easy. But she's counting on love and determination to pull them through. My fingers are crossed for her.))

Sidhe