It's the challenge of winning him over, knowing her love will make him want to change his ways. Then she thinks she's won when she's actually lost, and is shocked that he's still an asshole.

The bride is thinking he'll change.
The groom is thinking she'll never change.
They're both wrong.

This one said it all for me. In my life getting to Valentines cards was quite the chore.. okay only one of them was. All the cards say your the love of my life, I am only yours, for ever and ever.... soorrry that won't work... finally found one for Paul that was loving and sincere but didnt have me handing him my entire being. I am trying to get him over that concept. Not easy.

No, they are not. It's complete insanity. It's painful, so it feels right.

I've left the door open for that decent guy. He was down the street with the vapid, non-thinking, boring woman. It's easier to never think.

It goes both ways.

So, it's not VD anymore, but I just found this. Luvz to all you nice dwellarz:

What about the rest of us?

Piker.

Cuz we didn't know they're assholes til it was too late. :mad: But then again, a friend accused me of having a thing for the ass. :rolleyes: hehehe....I joke...I joke. :D

No one really goes into a relationship thinking the other person is an arsehole do they, and no one seriously thinks the other person is going to change do they?

You should know the other person is going to change, everyone does.
The trick is figuring out how they will change.
There are usually clues that become clear in retrospect, but at the time looking for them is difficult when you're walking on air.

Through the course of my relationship, Dazza and I have both changed our habits somewhat, but I don't think either of us has changed essentially from the people we were before we met.

The reason we've changed some of our habits is in order to compromise in the relationship. I think the reason some people have difficulties is because only one party in the relationship is willing to compromise on things that might once have been important. I guess it comes down to both parties weighing up what's more important. Their habits or their relationship.

Most failed relationships revolve around the inability to adjust around each others changes, some for the good, some for the bad.

I felt like I was the one doing all the changing - no more Skippy (he was a Jiff man) no more folding towels over and over with three flaps (we was an Army man) no more putting the TP on the roll all willy-nilly (he was a flap-out man)....I was exhausted from all the change!

Well stated.

Had he been a Peter Pan man... now that would have been a real 'red flag'.;)