Hmmm, I think one of the Dwellars is a financial aid professional. ;)

PM me if you ever have questions. All conversation is held in strictest confidence.

You CAN get financing for school, one way or another. There may be some hoops but it can be done.

I took a week long course with Bobby Day right before I got laid off from my old firm (15 yrs working for the same FA, and the effing FIRM decided I needed to go - he was just as blindsided as I was) - Bobby was with Dearborn and STC but he and some buds formed their own new set of guides, approved by FINRA - I took the test in Feb with my new firm (only took me three weeks to find work - in this economy? I am sooo blessed) and got a 68. I'd been studying for this damn thing since November really strong, and got a 68. I know the bonds and options - it's memorizing the rules and regs that I have a problem with. Give me logic over memorization any day. I am so disenchanted, I called and put it off for a month because my brain needs a break. And my daughter needs some attention.

And Tiki, MTP, etc - I know you are right. He knows I don't want the same things he does, but I think he's convinced himself he can change my mind, so I keep telling him it's not going to happen, and he keeps trying to convince me otherwise. It's a no-win situation for both of us, no matter how much we adore each other.

What the hell??? did his production fall to the point the firm was having to subsidize your pay? even my old school stick in the mud firm wouldn't have done that.

Cool... thanks!

I worked for one of the big firms - they laid off 1600 people in one day (six from our branch alone). The firm didn't pay me jack, and I worked for three of the top ten producers in that office (My fifteen year guy wasd number two in that branch.) I don't think they did their math very well, because they are hurting for assistants now. I don't think they realized how much work I actually did, because I'm anal retentive and OCD, so my desk was always clean no matter how busy I was.

I just saw something on TV the other night about how so many women from Wall Street are now working as exotic dancers!

New meaning for "buy low sell high."

This reply is to your stated hope but more of a general comment to everyone.
Of course you can come here and vent, we're open 24/7 for your convenience. :D

However if people respond to your vent, 99.9% of the time it's because they are trying to be helpful. So if their comment seems off target understand they are working with what you gave them, and can't know what you didn't. Try not to assume advice that you don't feel is right for you wasn't offered with sincere concern.

That's cool, but if it's trite, cliched, glib, stupid, or otherwise irritating I'm gonna say so. :)

I have high expectations of y'all.

Do you grade on a curve?

99.9% of the time it's because they are trying to be helpful

or be smart asses to make you Laugh ,

Cool, just remember, "trite, cliched, glib, stupid, or otherwise irritating", is a matter of perspective. ;)

:lol: yes, I grade on a curve!

And yes, good intentions cleanse a multitude of sins. :)

Missing him badly today. Mourning for what-might-have-been. I know he's doing the right thing for him right now, but worried about the toll it will take in time. And it's hard, seeing him the other night, feeling that connection, feeling his leaning toward me... the physical connection that's still there, the fondness and affection still there, and the very sweet goodbye kiss. And, later, finding my keys in the bottom of the bag he handed me, a symbol of severance.

earache. Going to the doc in an hour or so.

Have not done an essay in over 8 years, and I have got to hand in my first of many more in 30 mins- still have 2000 words to go. (obviouslly, this is not going to be handed in)
I am pissed at myself for letting myself down and not preparing my time better. I had to move, accomodate people, stress over 100 other things and just left this all way too late and it turned out to be harder than i remember.
Farrk.
Why was procrastination ever even invented?! seriously! WHEN will i ever understand that if i just DO IT - it will be ok and all happen. instead i have to wank about and waste my precious precious time and then leave everything to the last minuite.
FARRK.
I dont wanna be the girl in class that is always callign the lecturer in tears at 30 mins to the due date and time.
FARRRK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I remember bringing to class muffins rather than a paper due that day that was 30% of our grade. :p A classmate said, "I see where your priorities are." Hehe.....Wouldn't have finished the paper whether I baked the muffins are not, and it was my day to bring snacks. :p

So, sparky, what are you doing here, hmmmMMM????

Back to work!!! :whip:

Hadn't heard from my best friend in Cali since last week - we usually keep in touch a bit better- she wasn't returning my calls. Was worried so I e-mailed her - turns out she picked up her heroine addict son from jail (did his year for burglary) on Saturday, just to get home to find out her dad was in the ER - had a stroke. They found two brain tumors. Got him stabilized, sent him home. Last night he had another stroke - turns out one of the brain tumors burst. Never heard of that before.
The thing is, he's more than just my best friend's dad - he's been a dad to me ever since my dad commited suicide. My adughter calls him grandpa. And he's in Cali, I'm in Colorado - don't know what to do from here other than hope and pray and send the family my love. I feel helpless and hopeless and want to cry. (And of course his dog got sick the same day he did - they almost put the dog down but he told them to wait until he got out of the hospital - so now the dog is home on serious meds to control her seizures.)

Oh, queen -- I'm so sorry. I hope he stabilizes. I know it's hard being so far away...

Thanks Pie. Just got a text from my BF - they're moving him to a better hospital right now.

Update: something to do with the arteries, they're going to do surgery - details are foggy.

I'm thinking of you and your loved ones, QotR. It's hard to be so far away, I'm sure. :(

Yeah that's the worst part - There's not a damn thing I can do from here. I want to give my family hugs, and want them to hug me.

That must be so hard for you Qof t R :comfort:

Kinda weird - they've been friends of mine and my exes forever - more family than friends. My ex and I are both out here (daughter too) so we've agreed if we go back for funeral, etc. we all three go together.

Oh Queenie, that's horrible. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'll be thinking positive thoughts, and as usual Pilau will also be contributing some positive energy. Remember you can come here and offload whenever you need it. *hugs*

@ Sunsparkz. I am that girl :P

Thank you all so much. You guys are the best electronic huggers.

That's terrible, Queen... I hope he's OK.

I haz prayers.
:grouphug:

Learning I am Mortal ...and more so that i thought. I got my back x-rayed because of the trapped nerve that had me in the ER a couple of weeks ago (still only partial sensation in one foot, got traction at the physio today), and they called and said there is marked degeneration of my spine and I have to have an MRI on Saturday. :(

Athritis was mentioned. I'm 38 FFS :(

Oh monnie, thats awful. I hope its not as bad as it sounds. Sending love rays your way!

That sux. On the bright side, however, they can do things for back issues now that were unthinkable even ten years ago. Either way, surgery is a bummer but you might come out better on the other side.

Monster...disc degeneration is inevitable and seeing it at 38 isn't unusual. You might want to look into exercises for your back...mostly stretching and a little weight training too. Posture is also very important, as well as diet...make sure to not dehydrate too often.

That sucks Monnie. Pico's right though, disc degeneration really isn't unusual for 38. Especially, actually in active sporty types (or so I'm led to believe, i may be wrong).

thanks y'all and yebbut apparently this is more than the "expected" ah well, I'm above average in everything else, so why not this too? :lol:

I'm a little scared about the MRI though, I'm claustrophobic and sedative-phobic.

Ah mo-mo...you're just too much awesome for your body to handle.

Damn Queen, I'm so sorry to hear about your extended family's troubles. I'll send some good energy their way, and yours as well. Here's a big hug... {{{{{{{Queenie}}}}}}}

monster, so sorry about your back. I have serious back problems, have had them for about the past 7 years or so, so I can totally relate. Sometimes the only thing that helps me (and it does help, a LOT), is taking pain pills, which I abhor doing, but living in pain is worse. I hope they find something is that is easliy treatable and get you fixed up fast.

Eeek Monster, I hope it's not too bad!

Don't worry, the sedatives will take care of that. ;)

Just called them. no sedatives for me, should be only about 30 mins, I can be a big girl and handle that :) (It's mostly crowds I don't like -small spaces at least don't move or get smaller. usually)

Did they tell you if the tube is open on the other end? That always helps me. I have to go once a year... it's actually kind of relaxing, in a weird way, once you get over the unfamiliarity. It's a little unnerving when they talk to you through the headphones to make sure you're comfortable, though!

no they didn't say. I'll be fine.

Good luck honey. *hugs*

They have open MRIs for people who are claustrophobic. If it's a problem maybe you could ask for one of those. personally, MRIs don't bother me, except that they are so damn LOUD.

Wow. I hope it all turns out all right. Those kind of back problems can lead down a series of drastic decision making.

Gee, thanks, I feel so reassured :lol:

I survived the MRI you'll be pleased to hear. If it'd've gone on any longer I'd've probably gone to sleep -it was loud, but with all the earplugs if was almost lulling like the washing machine on spin or the vacuum cleaner. and the "enclosed space" didn't bother me at all -there was at least 6 inches between my face and the top of the tube.

Glad to hear it went well. I hate the closed MRI. Thankfully the last two I had were in an open MRI.

Glad to hear you survived it. Have you gotten any results yet?

results in a few days

Monday. That is all.

Wow Mon. Hope you're doing okay. We have the technology - we can rebuild.....
Update, FYI Pops got moved from the little local hospital to the big one that specilizes in brain stuff - they put him on blood thinners, the blockage disappeared, no surgery, he's going home toady or tomorrow. He'll need intensive therapy to get past the effects of the stroke, but he ain't gonna die like the first hospital was telling us. WHEW! I say it's all of the Cellar vibes - thanks guys.

Good news QotR! Yea!

I'm not a big baseball fan, but Harry Kalas, voice of the World Champion Phillies just passed away. :(

He's outta here. :sad:

I can't get the dog in the house.

I saw 5 cars ignore an ambulance trying to get onto the street to the hospital as they sped by. The siren was blaring and the lights were flashing and the EMT was shaking his fist...okay, that last one was what I imagine he might have been doing, but it was still irresponsible of those people not to stop.

this guy.

he keeps BUGGING me and I'm going to have to be RUDE to get rid of him.
eeeerrrrrrrrgh.

why is it always the absolute NON-chemically attractive men who desire my company?

If I liked him just a smidge, he'd run for the hills. The fact that he rubs me the wrong way in every way makes him lurrrrrrve me. yuk.

OK, sorry, I'll back off. Didn't mean to offend.

good one, SD, but you were invited back to the House of Pleasure a looooong time ago.

this guy is...well, to put it mildly, just the sort I would attract: IOW not any of YOU guys - except for the few here who truly are...you KNOW who you are)

I'm sure he's just trying to "reach out" to another suffering alcoholic; a woman he sees as isolating herself and hugging her resentments, hell bent for the asylum or easeful death. I suppose I should be grateful anyone has taken the interest, the time, the sheer fucking effort to notice my exsistence. It's always gotta be this guy, though, doesn't it?

Chuh.