Valentines Day
 

It's the day of love. The day to show your very special love just how very special they are to you.

So how do you do it?

Well seeing as how I'm eight thousand miles away... not very well.

Actually, TAS Spirit Week is the week of valentines day, so on valentines day theyre doing a 'sing a love song, get spirit points for your grade' thing, so I'm gonna sing and play You're Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go by Dylan, or maybe Romeo and Juliet by Dire Straits (if I can get the chords down in time), seeing as how Dylan can't sing (and is still better than me) and Knopfler doesn't really sing (and once again is still better than me).

When I had nobody, I always hated valentine's day. My wife felt the same way. Now that we have eachother, we don't really celebrate it. I get her a card, but that's about it. She does the same.

This Valentine's day, we're going to see Edward Scissorhands at the Kennedy Center, because someone gave us tickets. But that's really just a coincidence.

Last year I went to a gourmet deli and got some yummy picnic stuff and a nice bottle of wine, with some chocolate and showed up at D's work. We went down to the lake on campus and had lunch together. I'd also organised flowers to be delivered to his office.

He was pretty impressed and also rather sheepish because he hadn't really done anything for me. I didn't care though. I enjoyed the adventure and the time we spent together that day.

This year, I've ordered a new fishing rod for him as his favourite one snapped some time ago and he hasn't had a chance to replace it. Luckily for me, he happened to be telling someone what the specs were for the rod the other day and I was listening, so now it's being made in time for Val day for him. :) I'm sure he's going to be very happy.

Don't really do it. I like the tradition that it's for secret admirers. I will once again grit my teeth and help my children make cards for all of their classmates as is the way here...

Every guy smacking your forehead, saying OMG, I forgot, what the hell will I do now? Good news for you Bunkie, Katkeeper to the rescue. Do it now. :cool:

Whatever you do, DON'T go out to a popular resturant for dinner. Otherwise excellent resturants turn into cookie cutter production lines on St Valentines day. Much better to wait a couple of days 'til the madness dies down.

The same can be said for flowers. Don't buy flowers on valentine's day. You get mediocre flowers for a jacked up price.

OK, here's what I do:

First, and most important, I imagine there is a very special love.

Then, I imagine I've enough money to buy us a trip to Aruba, where I imagine we drink umbrella drinks, have wild passionate sex all night long, and frolic on the beach in our (imagined) incredibly toned bodies.

Or, a nice card from Hallmark.

:p

Selene will be attending her third week of blackjack dealing class, so I need to come up with something that I can do in the car on the way to work (so sex is out), and then something that doesn't take very long when she gets home at 10:30 that night (go ahead, wiseasses...say that sex is perfect as something that doesn't take very long). Ideas cheerfully accepted. I'm romance impaired.

Shawnee, I'm busy on the 14th, but if your imagination is good enough, I can offer you an unfit body in a cold climate with a couple of cans of Bud and a brief carnal interlude, leaving the rest of your evening free for reading, washing socks or other pastimes. :D

Best offer in months!

Hey, there's always phone sex (except I don't have a phone) or online sex (except I don't have a line on.)

:blush:

don;t try to tell me you never rubbed one out while driving, cuz i won;t believe it.

I was going to go to the cinema to see Hot Fuzz (on the premise that it wasn't a romantic enough film for me to be bothered by couples eating eachother next to me). But it's not released until the 16th at my local cinema - boooooooo.

So I am mostly going to be sitting at home congratulating myself on how much less it is bothering me than other years, and how this is the first year in ages I haven't promised myself, "This time next year I will not be spending Valentines Day on my own"

Seriously - I am much less bothered this year.
Not that I would turn down cards, flowers, jewellery, dinner or sex sex though....

We sometimes go to a nice place a night or two *before* V-Day. It always works out wonderfully. Places are usually not very busy because everyone's waiting for the 14th, and the restaurant employees are still in a good mood.

I've been pleasured while driving on numerous occasions, actually, but achieving the same for my female companions seems to be rather problematic.

*I* am perfectly capable of coming and going at the same time, though.

sex sex?? am I missing something here? or do you just mean as opposed to online sex or phone sex?

We don't really do anything for Valentine's Day. Sometimes I make chocolate covered strawberries and we eat them, but sometimes I do that when it's not Valentine's Day, too.

On Valentine's Day I break out the classy porn...

I'm going to Grant's house.

Me too

can I come too? (with hubby...is that stretching it)

A typo - I actually just meant to type sex, but it seems my brain snuck in an extra sex because it would be so nice....

Swing by.:)

All comers, welcome!

Airbrushed, candlelit porn for all!

:corn:

Yay! The first annual cellar classy porn party!

On the day itself I'll be on my own in Groningen, because I have classes both during the day and at night. The weekend before I won't see my guy, because I'm on camp with my theatre society. The weekend after I'll finally get to see him again, but then we have friends over all weekend so there'll be little romancing. Sigh.

Someone please feel sorry for me. :(

the same way i show my love to my wife every other day of the year. valentines day, mothers day, fathers day etc, ........... just big money making scams for Hallmark and crappy gift shops.

We do not, nor never have, celebrated it.

Valentine's Day is also our anniversary. We're not married, but it is the day he chose to fly to Florida to meet me for the first time (we met online). Two months later, he moved down. That was 4 years ago.

We try to do something fun and out of the ordinary. One year, he bought us tickets to Cirque Du Soleil. One year we went exploring in Ybor City and picked a random restaurant for dinner. This year we're discussing going on a gambling or dance cruise for the evening.

We try to buy each other some small gift that we each want, but that is not something we can afford on a normal basis.

I also buy cards and candy for my children, because I feel that Valentine's Day is about love and I love them dearly.

Stormie

Valentine's Day Sucketh.

By pure chance I got holidays and bought my airplane ticket to fly up to Finland. Only later I noticed that I would be with my girlfriend on Valentines Day. I'm completly out of practise of such things ;)
But it seems they don't celebrate Valentine that much in Finland. We go to some restaurant she knows. I'll try to get some flowers. I thought about buying her a gift (ipod), but even before remembering Valentines day. And if we find a place we^ll go dancing that evening. She's quite of a good dancer and that's how we really met. I'm looking forward to Valentines day :)

The 15th is our wedding aniversary (9th, I think :eek:) but Jim will be working I'm sure. Maybe we'll celebrate on the 14th this year like everyone else, but we'll save our dinner at Krazy Kats for a less crowded night. (although the V-day menu looks really good...)

Dunno, how big is hubby?:blush:

He's big enough. ;)

IMO, we should make our own... a surprise, from time-to-time.
Not something to make corporations a wad of jack on their made-up holiday.
Even better, every day should be Valentine's day.

I wont be spending v-day with Army dude, but I bought him a groovy Bath Robe , since he was quite taken with the ones from the Hotel.

Jinx - that menu does look awesome for Valentine's Day.

Oh and Grant, I'm coming too :)

I'm single and I hate Valentine's Day. Valentine's Day is a day designed to make single people miserable. The only people who seem to care about single people on Valentine's day are those who are trying to make money off them.

Valentine's Day is overrated anyway. It is primarily a marketing-driven gift occasion that falls between Christmas and Easter. While this does not diminish the genuine feelings of people who do something to mark the occasion, one must not be lured into the marketing hype.

I prefer the idea of surprise gifts. Don't underestimate the value of a bunch of flowers or other romantic gifts at random times. One shouldn't have to wait until Valentine's Day to give a gift that shows your love.

You know, I've spent many years where I've been single on valentines day. I've always felt that people who love each other don't need to have valentines day just to show their love.

I'd like to point out that those of us who do choose to do something special on that particular day are not suggesting that it's the only day they do special things for their lover.

Also, not everything people do on valentines day in order to do so costs a lot of money. For one thing, I don't think I've ever bought a valentines card, but that's just me. I'm sure it's different for everyone.

Usually the people I hear say, "It's all just commercial anyway, it's a money making scam" are men. A male friend of mine in a long term relationship would grumble about it every year, and yet it meant a lot to his partner.

Every year I would point out that neither he nor his partner were Christian and yet he was more than happy for her to lavish special love, care, presents and food on him and his family at this time of year...

:redface:

It's all just commercial anyway, it's a money making scam

:D

You men are all alike;)

It's all the hormones in the milk.....

Mmmmm...whore moans. :love:

logical? :p

This morning the ads on the radio were all aimed at the men. They suggested beest should buy me a romantic gift of.... one half of a pair of cellphones sharing minutes, a digital camera phone, diamond jewellery, a another phone, a love song cd -special price at HALLMARK when you buy 3 cards (:eyebrow: wife, mistress, secret gay lover?), more diamond jewellery, sex toys (no doubt with a built in cellphone), Vermont Teddy Bear (yes, please, I'd like to order the bear on the phone, does it come with any free minutes?) ......

GO AWAY. How romantic is a freaking cellphone? Why do I need another? "Darling, I remember when we met all those years ago, and you spent the whole of our first date on the phone to your best friend. This year, I got you a little something to help us rekindle that romance.... "

:rolleyes: St. Hallmark Day for sure.

Valentine's day...
 

evening will be spent in class...may invest in gallon of fattening ice cream, salty chips, and gooey chocolate, all to be eaten while staring at computer screen watching fellow classmates ask stupid questions.

Afterwards, may watch tasteful, airbrushed, candlelit porn :blush: to remind self what sex is, if can find key to safe where porn is hidden from inquisitive (read: nosy) children.

If lucky, husband will call or email from Bahrain- not lucky very often. He *did* send the kids personalized chocolate bars and ordered them a Wii, so at least *someone* in this house is feelin' the love! :)

Hmmm just had a thought that I use a Virgin cellphone plan, perhaps they know:worried:


(sorry for quoting self, but everytime I carry on from a previous thought, all posting hell breaks loose and there's pages between my post and my original comment and then..... )

I'll be getting my girlfriend a couple daisies in a little glass vase, and maybe a Snickers on the way home from work. Neither of us are into elaborate planning or spending a bunch of money, and the only reason I do anything at all is because I like to show her I'm thinking of her. And to get laid.

Snickers are teh ghey!

Completely, yeah. But she doesn't know that... Yet.

If you are single, what's wrong with sending a friend a card or better yet calling them up to see what they've been up to etc.? sheesh. You don't have to spend $$ to show someone you care about them. If my husband would give me a 30 min back massage, without whining, that beats any material thing he could get me.

I have a sig other, but still wish my friends a happy V day (especially the single ones). To me it's about caring for people, not just loving one in particular. I guess it stems from school, when we gave valentines to everyone. Of course, certain people got special ones, and others got generics...but still.

I often blow off V Day but I'll be away so I sprang for tulips this time around... crap I shoulda got the Snickers.

Mmmm...snickers....mmmM

It's a whole different culture over here. In some elsewheres it would seem kinda perverse to send valentine's day cards to kids or even friends -(a) it's for lovers and (b) it's supposed to be anonymous for that extra frisson. It's a whole different thing here, and not one that's easy to get used to.

I would love to get a card tomorrow.
If I opened it and it was from my best friend (or my MUM!) I'd feel worse than if I hadn't got one at all.

Flowers would make me happy regardless of who they were from, but I doubt anyone who knows mw wants to spend £30 that way...!

OK here's the sitch:
Valentine's day also happens to be SWMBO's birthday. Each year it is a challenge to come up with something that is romantic, special, birthdayish, etc etc. w/o raising the bar impossibly high for next year.

I'm out of ideas right about now.

You could lower expectations for next year by really blowing it this year. Forethought is what separates us from the animals.

I thought that was the Whopper?

Yeah, I hit the "reset" button last year, as in did absolutely nothing beyond a card. We were both overwhelmed with other things in our life and it seemed like the most humane choice.

This year, it isn't too different, but we need to make an effort.

Maybe I'm allowing too much lead time, planning-wise...