The Body Language of Women
 

Many of these have merit I believe; some are assinine....LOL


"A gesture is a gesture

Body language is a discipline about non-verbal behavior, there are more and more followers of it all over the world. Among them there are respected scientists who attach less and less significance to words and places the emphasis in communication on the role of body language. Reportedly this way it is possible to tell much more and even to learn much more information about the partner. Gestures, body language and intonation affect the communication at a proportion of more than 90%. Words as such prove to be insufficient in a successful communication.

It seems to be simple, but despite this fact there are still a great number of inapprehensive men. They don’t pay attention to the women’s behavior, swallow every word they say, and muck up the opportunity of further developing their acquaintances. But women’s gestures are univocal! The experts of non-verbal behavior can only distinguish two types of women’s behavior. One carries the information that the woman does not feel like having sex. The other one means that she does. So women exploit body language and launch such codes that men have a very difficult job to tell what they are thinking of in fact. It would be so palpable to tell everything using words. I’ll try to help you avoid misunderstandings: I’ve put together a guide with the help of which beginners and “advanced users” are able to decode the behavior of every attractive woman.

1. She pushes her fingers through her hair
Clean and neat hair is as important for a woman as acceptable height, wide shoulders and biceps for a man. The woman who grooms her hair with high care expresses that she is full of energy and feels like doing certain family-friendly activities. Those that are familiar with body language claim that when a woman is regulating her hair she tries to call men’s attention upon herself. If she repeats this activity three times within a minute you can be sure that she would really love to be conquered. The way she touches her hair is also very important. It tells you information about her temperament. If she does it slowly you have encountered a cunning expert of the art of love. Quick, nervy movements disclose impatience or embarrassment.

2. She touches the edge of the glass with her fingers
Freudian psychologists interpret it as a sexual sign. This theory is supported by the women themselves, who claim that they deliberately pet the glass, in order to call the chosen man’s attention upon themselves. When you enter a bar and see a full-bosomed blonde touching and caressing her martini glass so that it’d scream, do not think that she is expressing her musicality this way. Don’t ask her whether she is playing the latest hit of Iglesias. This question would not be appropriate. Instead of asking stupid questions, notice the way she is playing the “musical instrument”. Elegant, caressing movement is a sign of intrinsic calmness, self-control and waiting, so sit by her. Her beating a rhythm on the glass with her nails is a sign of impatience or a broad hint of SOS, which she’s sending to her boyfriend, who is fighting for another Bailey’s at the bar.

3. She leans on her elbow
According to Aristotle a woman’s hand tells us the most information. According to experts of body language women disclose what they think of us with their gestures. If she leans on her hand with her chin and her eyes seem to be thinking, it’s not always the sign of her being impressed by your appearance. Generally the woman tries to answer her own question this way: “Does this guy deserve me?” You do know the answer, but the lady needs time. If you want to help her make the only right decision, be politely determinate and determinately polite. Flash your sense of humor as well.

4. She sits back with her arms crossed together
This is the worst possible that you can encounter in a bar or disco, when you’re out hunting. This gesture is the evidence of the fact that you’ve had the worst impression of all on the woman and she doesn’t trust you at all. Nothing helps here, neither refined jokes, nor nice, muscular body. The best method at the beginning of the fight for her grace is to ask her what she’s drinking at the moment. Don’t buy her a drink for a start because this way she’s going to think that “this guy has no fantasy at all”.

5. She wets her lips
If a woman wets her lips quite frequently, it’s absolutely a sexual sign, unless she has herpes. According to anthropologists women give us to understand that they wouldn’t mind us putting something between their wet lips. Hope you know what.

6. She delves in her nose
You’re wrong if you think that this is a sign of her sexual appetite. Scientist have been arguing for years about the meaning of this gesture. According to one group of scientists the lady is underbred. On the other hand the other group thinks the finger in the nose symbolizes the gross hairs of the thighs and lap.

7. She lashes her eye-lashes
According to famous experts of the topic and authors of cheap romantic stories the fast movement of the eye-lashes is the sign of women who like to conquer men of their own accord. Besides they are emancipated, who like to take over the duty of initiation. They aren’t waiting for your jokes and wide smile. They undertake to initiate. The only problem with such ladies is that not all of them will enjoy herself in the role of the doped out game. But if you don’t mind losing the role of the hunter, swallow the bait.

8. She lets her legs swing
Researchers of body language emphasize that when a woman frequently crosses her legs or let them swing, is also a sexually charged movement. The strongest of all these movements is when she opens her legs without meaning it. It’s a classical Freudian opening symbol. (You must remember Sharon Stone opening her legs in such a beautiful way in Basic Instinct.) A contrary sign to this is when she puts her legs together. You have to interpret her choosing of shoes in a similar way. It is very important which pair of shoes she chooses to wear the given day. The more open the shoes are the more willing she is to “open”.

9. She dances with her hands
Having gauged the woman’s face and body most men concentrates on her hands. This is the most natural and normal thing to do – well-groomed long fingers, well-painted nails are significant erotic signs. However, the way the woman herself thinks of her hands is also very important. If she stares at them for a very long time, it may imply that something angers her (perhaps you?). if she beats the rhythm on the table or the bar means a similar state of mind. You think she’s a wild cat, but you’re wrong. She’s thinking about a way how she could get rid of you.

10. She bites her lips
When a woman is biting your lips, do not interrupt her – everything’s alright. But if she’s biting hers, you may assume that she’s nervous. Why? Perhaps you are staring at her too quizzing.

+1 Finally
From the paragraphs above you can see that each and every movement and gesture of a woman carry sexual meaning for a healthy man.

Feel her soul
You look at the woman and you don’t have the least idea what she wants from you. If you notice one of the hereunder mentioned ways of behavior, it means that there’s one thing that she wants from you, closer acquaintance, or even maybe sex.

She leers at you, laughs loudly, ogles, wets her lips, knobs her breasts or hip, listens to you very carefully, walks proudly, waves her hip, her style is eye-catching, crosses her legs and then puts them back, hides her face, pushes her fingers through her hair, enters your private area, touches herself (smoothes out her stocking or plays with the button of her blouse), touches the object of her interest, exaggerates her make-up or perfume, dresses up too elegant, whispers or tries to create an intimate environment some other way, stares at you too intensively, gauges you with her eyes and tries to stay tête-à-tête with you."

Some fidgety women. I would probably get turned-off by it.

MsSparkie, where do you find this 70's outdated crap - hell women today don't hesitate to let you know they are interested anymoreso than men do.

1. She says you're hot/attractive/sexy......

She thinks your hot/attractive/sexy......

2. Gives you the finger

Either she is not interested or has an anal fixation - you may or may not want to figger this one out. :)

11. She ostentatiously chambers a round in her sidearm.

She's *really* not interested.

This is the same board that had a long discussion on the merits of lying to men and giving the wrong number... now it is "secret body language"?
What the hell is wrong with just being honest?
Women are always asking why they can't get a good man... it's because you are crazy.

I pull out my spare magazine and write the name on the top round.

That seems to get the message across much more clearly.

Amen. um... exception for the straight forward heavily armed types.

Is this better?
 

The Direct Approach

I guess this is better.

Tell it on the mountain!

LOL Yeah, that's it for sure......

My ex fiancee broke off our engagement 1-1/2 years ago because he had prostate problems that he suspected were serious, and said he was going to be impotent, wear diapers, etc. He didn't want anyone around.......he is a loner anyway, a long haul trucker.

So....he just let it go for 1-1/2 years.....till I called him a while ago and asked him how he was. I found a clinic for him to go to in his home state down south, and he finally, finally finally after all this time got the goods on his situation....but

Now it's too late....he has a year to live....it has spread and they can't operate.....and they will give him meds that shrinks everything and slows it down that may add a year or two to his life.

So, was he a good man? I'm trying to decide. He wants back together for my support and love.

I don't feel romantic, but care.

So now he's gone and made it worse.

So I'm crazy???????????????????????????????????????

I don't think so.

Geez zome of these threads are funny. It's kind of like one of those national geographic books where they list the mating dances for exotic bugs.

What's so hard about figuring out if a woman wants you or not?

If she says she'd like to suck you dry it probably means she's going to give you a run for your money.

If she says she'd like to go home with you and then giggles, you'll probably get laid.

If she says she'd like to get to know you better, it means it's going to cost you more.

If she says fuck off, it means it's time to move on.

;)

Sparkie...I'd hate to be in your situation. If it were me, I'd probably hang in there and take care of him out of some sense of pity associated with the past and what we'd shared. Maybe also genuine concern for someone who'd meant a lot in some way. I dunno though. I don't know shit about what you two shared, but it sounds pretty serious.

Everyone needs someone to help them in times like this. I imagine he must be terrified in so many ways.

It'll break your heart being there with him till the end, but then, it'll probably break your heart if you're not there either. Tough choice if you ask me. Lucky you have so many friends to help share the load huh?

That requires you to know his name, though. I've implemented an "early decision" program. :-)

Asking the name makes you briefly appear interested. What you do with it afterwards really drives the point home, and crushes what's left of the ego.

But I like how you think.

My parents are crazy too... I discussed this thread with them yesterday and when I stated that one should just tell someone that they are not interested they freaked, said it would be "rude" and "mean".
They became confused when I stated that "rude" and "mean" is leading someone on with a fake number and not telling them that you are not interested when you realize that they are interested.
Strange.

They no doubt come from a generation where explicit discussions of sexual interest among the principles is something that Is Not Done, and everything is subtext and innuendo.

Or is "innuendo" an Italian suppository? I keep forgetting.

I was not talking about explicit discussions, but if someone asks you out, you are discussing it... instead of making excuses and dragging it out, what is wrong with just telling them that you don't want to go out with them?

Thanks Aliantha
He is still doing long haul in the USA but goes home more often. Used to be he would be out six weeks then ask to go home, which would take another week. Now he asks at 4 weeks.

I am in Toronto, Canada so we didnt get together often, but were engaged and I was going to drive with him. But then he needed to face this alone as he says.

So we would not see each other much, unless he has to quit driving. He said he would move to Buffalo NY and we can have weekends together.

Not sure how his health will hold up. I am not in love with him, but care. Love him too.

Actually you seem to be the ONLY friend here I have, as no one else showed any interest. LOL

So thanks for noticing, and my very best wishes.

:-)

I do most of that crap, but not for those reasons.

I do the hair thing, because my hair is always in the way and pissing me off.

I do the fluttering eyelashes when I want my boss to think I dont understand what he is saying, it drives him nuts.

Err, I do sometimes fiddle with my drinking glass, I will have to see if its senual or not, but its because I fidget.

That last paragraph is the biggest crock though. Doesnt leave out much does it?

Sparkie - Those not in love but love relationships are such hard work. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Well, if you're kickin' it old-skool, the scripted response isn't "I don't find you attractive enough to go to a movie with." but rather "I'm washing my hair that night."

This works better for women than for guys...especially bald ones.

If you're not keen to offer a rejecteee a face-saving exit, then go right ahead: "No, I wouldn't go to the dance with you even if you pur a bag over your head."

The thing that creates this stress is both sides pretending this is purely social banter rather than the introit to a mating ritual, with an intent to provide graceful exits in the event of an abort. As is so often the case, direct honesty would be simpler, but not always as comfortable. This way there's a chance for the "If I ask you, will you say 'yes'" and "if I say 'yes', will you ask me?"

Secondary function is providing a context for further evaluative interaction before getting down to brass tacks. You can tell an awful lot about what kind of lover somebody is by how they handle the preliminaries.

I've always found it a lot less complicated and confusing to just be honest (in the nicest way possible).

I don't believe is is necessary to give someone excuses for turning them down, a simple 'no, thank you' should suffice. If they refuse to accept that, you have definately made the correct choice.

If I'm interested in someone, I'll tell them.

Body language is quite interesting to observe and can tell you a great deal about the person you are watching. Leaning forward on your elbow generally means, tell me more. Crossing of arms is a sign that the person is shutting something/someone out. Swinging legs and biting lips is often a sign of nervousness (keep your feet and legs still during an interview!). Batting of lashes means they have something in their eye :p . Just kidding!

Stormie

Sparkie...I just thought someone should say something. I know how disheartening it can be when you're looking for an ear or two and no one can hear. It takes a lot to share those sorts of things with people you've never met, so I admire you for that.

I hope you can come to some understanding with your fella. What a battle to face...and what a crazy way to face it. Alone...

It's going to be pretty tough on you too, so I hope you do have a support network if you decide to go this path with him. You're going to need all the love and support you can find.

If you need someone to blow off steam to, go ahead and send me a pm or something. I'm a long way away, but sometimes that makes it easier. :comfort:

Aliantha, thanks for that sweet offer. I'm fine. We knew this cancer was there for a long while now, but not officially. Now it's offical.

He is a strong man and is making lots of jokes. He wants to send me a plane ticket to go down to visit him. I will wait till next year.

How are you doing in your love life? I hope you have someone special and it's going peachy keen. :-)

You can say no without being rude... just smacks of games to me.

Yes, it *is* a game. Less so today, but communications about intimate relationships have always been driven by subtexts and indirection.

You can try for direct, open and honest, and in some social spaces that works fine. But if you're not fluent enough to know which spaces those are, extreme caution is advised.

Saying "no" is very empowering. I'm learning to love it!

Sparkie...my love life is as good as it's every likely to be I reckon. I'm due to be married on the 23rd of September and I reckon everything is 'peachy keen'. ;)

You seemed a lot happier in your last post. It's nice to see. :)

C * O * N * G * R * A * T * U * L * A * T * I * O * N * S !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


It doesn't get any better than that!!!!! Planning a honeymoon?





(I told the trucker goodbye. He has 4 ex wives down in that area in AZ and he is milking this for all it's worth. We live too far apart to be a couple and neither of us needs the stress of trying to keep this going. Best to say the goodbyes now and let him make his way through it with his family. I'm here if he wants to talk.)

Condolences. Now you get to be officially ignored, criticized and abused.:lol:

I've heard there are some good things about marriage too. I'm just hoping the good things outweigh the bad. I've waited long enough to take the plunge. I hope I've made the right choice. I guess only time will tell though. :)

I suspect it will be as good as you make it. When it works there is nothing like it. Hope you make it work. :thumb2:

I don't think I had any real intention of getting married until last year. Now I'm totally ready to do it...I guess I just had to meet the right woman.

next up - Sycamore the Breeder

Nah...the Breeders are good, but I'm interested in fronting my own band.

No breeding from April and I...that's what the rest of you are for. :)

Direct from the Boom-Boom room, let's hear it for.....MBA and the breeders!:lol:

Quick - she just blinked - What does that mean???? :)

That was quite of an article, I should say. Thank you very much for sharing. I was trying to remember what I do being next to a man I like and I want to add that a woman who likes a man might be really nervous. I belong to this category of women who liking a man behave rather childish. I talk too much, I touch my hair for no reason, just touch it all the time, I touch my face and do not know what to do with my hands. I think of my postures changing them oftentimes just so I looked good and check upon whether everything is alright with the way I am dressed, with the make-up and it does not let me focus on a man sometimes and the conversation we have. This is so stupid when one tries to be liked.

Hmmm

It's always fun to go back and re-read ancient threads. Odd thing: all of rkzenrage's posts are hidden behind spoiler tags on this new version of tapatalk for me. Has it been that way for a long time? It's a funny effect.

Maybe it's an editorial comment on his posts in general?

A few days ago I upgraded our Tapatalk server-side bit. They have to have a bit of code that runs on the server and it helps them manage all the shit they manage, so that might have changed things.

narcissistic rkzenrage demanded to be removed as a user, and so all his posts are set to "guest" - this probably confuses Tapatalk in some way.

Narcissistic? You mean DJ Trumpzilla posted here?

Think that people can support each other and this is very cool. I hope that everyone share my opinion concerning this topic.

Anybody else smell that?

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Do you smell...

Popcorn and Spam? Eeeeeeew!

Can I get that but have popquinoa for the side instead of corn, and sub Gluten-free Spamless Spam?

I might not know much about the body language of women, but, I know that ya can look at a woman's feet and tell how much she likes ya.

If they're behind her ears, she likes ya a lot.

:p::lol2:

lol

The body language can be augmented too.

And get rid of those fucking raccoon eyes.