14 Tips For guys
 

14 Tips For Great Oral Sex

1- Start slow
Kiss your way down her body and tease her thighs and buttocks for a while before you make contact with any part of her genitalia. This will turn her on before you start the real action. Get close so that she thinks you're going to zero in on her at any second, but don't give in immediately.

2- Warm her up
Before you remove her underwear, breathe hot air through it against her genital area. Breathe softly but warmly, for short bursts at a time. You can alternate between doing this and kissing her thighs and stomach.

3- Don't dive in
When you begin to kiss and lick her vulva, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by licking the outer edges of the outer lips (labia), then very slowly spread them, and lick and kiss the inner lips, and around the vagina. Do this gently, as though you were still teasing her. You'll work your way up to more intense action eventually.

4- Wait for the clitoris
Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clitoris for as long as you can, even as you kiss her labia and vagina. When you do begin to lick it, do it softly, and focus on the clitoral hood (just above the clitoris), since most women prefer indirect clitoral contact before they're fully aroused.

5- Lick the alphabet
If you're not sure which strokes are best to approach the clitoris, try Sam Kinison's famous suggestion and lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet as a means of offering a wide variety of approaches. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself.

6- Suck it up
As she becomes more aroused, you can gently suck her clitoris into your mouth and flick your tongue over it. This combines suction with a much faster rhythm. Women like that.

7- Listen for her reaction
Listen carefully both to what she says and the sounds she makes. If she sounds excited, keep doing what you're doing for as long as you can. When she seems to respond less, it's time to try a new stroke.

8- Hum
You've heard of fellatio being called a "hummer," but it works just as well if you close your mouth and hum against her clitoris every once in a while too.

9- Grab hold
Hold on to her thighs or her backside so you can rub yourself against her well. From there you can also reach up and caress her breasts, or, if she likes, place your hands near her mouth so she can suck on your fingers.

10- Get your whole face into it
Someone once said that if your eyelids aren't sticky after giving a woman oral sex, you didn't do all you could to please her. Use your nose, cheeks and chin (clean shaven; no one wants sandpaper down there), and move them around. Even if you're just using your mouth, shaking your face from side to side and up and down will enhance friction in a great way.

11- Use your fingers
Penetrating your woman with one finger and making a "come here" motion is a great way to locate her G-spot, which will raise the ante of her orgasm. Even if you don't know where her G-spot is (it's good to have some experience with it beforehand), just penetrating her as you lick her should be effective. You can also alternate between penetrating her with your penis and pleasuring her orally.

12- Maintain eye contact
You may lose track of what you're doing in the excitement of it all, but it's good to make eye contact with your lover, and give her a smile and a look that says, "There's nowhere else I'd rather be."

13- Know when to continue
When your woman gets close to orgasm, make sure you do everything she wants you to. No matter if you have a kink in your neck or your arm's falling asleep, keep doing exactly what you're doing until you're sure she's had her orgasm.

14- Know when to stop
The clitoris is extremely sensitive after climax, so when her orgasm is over, you don't want to keep licking it as intensely as you were before she reached orgasm. As she climaxes, continue licking, but gently taper off as her reaction begins to mellow.


PS....#5 is the best tip!!!!! Hope you get a chance for lots of practice!!!

:yum:

I consider that post a Public Service Announcement!

Thanks, MsSparkie! ;)

LOL I'm sure they will find one for us on how to properly service them.

Hm, I'll keep these in mind next time im within seven thousand miles of her... Though I have a realistic idea of how likely she is to let me in her pants anytime soon.

Guys....would you spend $49.95 on a book like this for the lady in your life? :rtfm:

How To Guide

Or do you think she is doing ok? :rasta:

Ibram...where does she live?

Tips not just "for guys", of course...alrhough girls are less likely to need tips.

I started a thread whining about this in the Cities and Travel forum, hunt it down if you like.

Tip # 15

When weak in the hips.... be strong in the lips.

Oh bother.....as Winnie the Pooh would say, or was it Eeyore? It definitely wasn't Tigger or the pig (who ever remembers the pig's name?). Holy Christopher Robin!!!!

Piglet, of course!

Doh! haha!

Do you think guys will be offended if I carry a copy of that around in my purse and whip it out when appropriate??

Get it tatooed across your stomach and groin!

Aren't you supposed to have your eyes closed?

I know mine are if the jobs getting done properly

#16: dont forget to work the rim (if you know what i mean). dont worry if she freaks out at first.. it is SO worth it in the end! she will be your slave forever.





and ever

I don't think either should close their eyes. Try looking into your mans eyes while he's going down on you. It's highly erotic. I recommend it.

na, i stress out that while im looking down.. my chin is all doubled up on itself and looking like a fat old grandma. ew!

and if he is looking up.. its too cute, like a puppy or something. and thats just wrong!!

OK I'm a gamer - I'll print the post and see what happens. I'll let you know Is there any danger of a paper cut while I'm reading and "working"???? :yum:

Good luck Jim, and as always, should you or any of your men be captured, we will disavow any knowledge of you....this message will self-destruct in 10 seconds.

LOL - may not be able to use it for a couple days - final class ends friday for my girl and It'll have to wait till we have time. Then again I may have trouble using it at all if she ties me up ;)

Me and my SO figured those things out on our own, just by playing around and whatnot. ;) But if you haven't done those things, then a list is certainly helpful!

A-B-C. . . See her panting and gasping for air totally spent, exhausted and VERY satisfied! Love that list!! !! !! I added a little twist also - try cursive lettering - she really liked it. Thanks again :D

Wrong.

It could be we're less critical as receivers........anything, do anything..... just touch it.....now....please!! :drool:

Someone's been eating the viagra ice cream! :shred:

"Originally Posted by MaggieL - Tips not just "for guys", of course...alrhough girls are less likely to need tips." ????? Teeth?????

No, it's definately helpful to toss a few hints in both directions. Just like girls, guys think it's good till they've had better. Plus you can avoid the one or two big no-no's girls sometimes inflict unintentionally.

p.s. some, more complicated manuvers, must only be attempted sober

Hmmmm...now I'm curious what the big no-no's are??? Help?

:eek: :lol:

Here's a hint: One rhymes with 'biting or scraping with sharp teeth'.
Except in the case of one guy I know who said he preferred when his girl scraped him with teeth, most guys don't dig this so much. ok, at all.

I think enthusiasm is the key. No one wants to feel like you are doing him or her a favor, if you aren't into it, don't bother beacause your performance will wither in comparison to when they've had better. To papaphrase yesman.

And again, as yesman pointed out, communication is key. It takes all kinds to fill the freeway.

to sum up: if you refer to blowjobs as a 'labor of love', you're probably not into giving them.

Did the alphabet thing last night and the night before... worked out, but about the same as what I was doing before. Nice to change-up though.

Maybe the "job" part is what's throwing some folks off. It does sound a lot like work. Blowavocation doesn't quite roll off the tongue for that matter either. There must be some other way...

Fellatio?.....Oil Change?

Hoovering? Chugging the hog?

Yes, enthusiasm is key. And position is important too, for me at least. Getting head while laying down on a bed really isn't that great ... I much prefer sitting up on a couch or in a chair. Otherwise it usually doesn't "work."

I've heard some girls say being on their knees is degrading, but this is the time when you're trying to make <B>me</B> feel good. When it's your turn, I'm usually willing to do whatever it takes.

What if that means a diamond ring, a fur coat, and a beach house in the Hamptons?:D

I'd say, here's $40 - go buy yourself a good vibrator

Cheap, lazy bastid...at least go shopping with her. ;)

How is that different than us going down on them?

It's not different - I've just never heard a guy regard dining at the taco stand as an act of inequality. If anything, it's considered noble.

Perhaps us men should be more vocal about exalting women who give good BJs.

Or use the washing machine.....btw, I have some dirty laundry here..... :bolt:

This Thread Reminds me of This...
 

Counting Out Time - Genesis, from "The Lamb Lies Down on Broadway"

I'm counting out time,
Got the whole thing down by numbers.
All those numbers!
Give me guidance!
O Lord I need that now.

The day of judgement's come,
And you can bet that I've been resting,
for this testing,
Digesting every word the experts say.
Erogenous zones I love you.
Without you, what would a poor boy do?

Found a girl I wanted to date,
Thought I'd better get it straight.
Went to buy a book before it's too late.
Don't leave nothing to fate.
I studied every line, every page in the book,
Now, I've got the real thing here, I'm gonna take a look, take a look.

I'm counting out time, hoping it goes like I planned it,
'cos I understand it. Look! I've found the hotspots, Figs 1-9.
- still counting out time, got my finger on the button,
"Don't say nuttin - just lie there still
And I'll get you turned on just fine."
Erogenous zones I love you.
Without you, what would a poor boy do?

Touch and go with 1-6.
Bit of trouble in zone No. 7.
Gotta remember all of my tricks.
There's heaven ahead in No. 11!
Getting crucial responses, dilation of the pupils.
"Honey get hip! It's time to unzip, to unzip, zip, zip-a-zip-a-zip.
Whipee!"
(Take it away Mr. Guitar)
- Move over Casanova -

I'm counting out time, reaction none too happy,
Please don't slap me,
I'm a red blooded male and the book said I could not fail.
I'm counting out time, I got unexpected distress from my mistress,
I'll get my money back from the bookstore right away.
Erongenous zones I question you -
Without you, what would a poor boy do?
Without you, what would a poor boy do?
Without you, mankind handkinds thru' the blues.