Kinky? Dom/sub??
 

Anyone into BDSM?

I am a sub, but a damned fiesty one. I would like a real Lord and Master to subdue me and amuse himself with me......

But when I try with guys I know, they always chicken out cuz they don't want to hurt me.

I guess that is a good thing.

I like this site with the following categories:
http://www.meninpain.com/sample.php

men in pain
hogtied
fuckingmachines
waterbondage

whippedass
ultimatesurrender
wiredpussy

free-hardcore
sexandsubmission
behindkink

There a millions of pictures there, and at the end of each mini series is a happy couple smiling together.

That that is way cool.....

Heat it up white hot and then when it's done, love and closeness and friendship and happiness.

However, I have only ever explored this side of me once or twice and choose to live without it entirely when involved with someone who is not into it. I ask and if not I let it go.

I imagine what it would be like to meet a like minded person. Set up a special room for this in the house. It stops outside that room, or perhaps it does get extended to some degree in everyday life.

Uh...

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*backs away slowly*

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*turns and bolts*

I've come up against the "noooo, I'll hurt you" before...halloooo, thats the point!! :D

I couldnt be bothered with all the preparation that has to go into alot of that stuff.

My ex said my problem is that I look all cute n sweet, so no one would ever wanna do bad things to me :)

You see in online personal ads by men all the time: wanted: a lady during the day and a slut at night. But we have our desires too. A gentleman in the day and a Master at night. Not every night....sweet romance is just as desirable. But when we want the focused intensity, we want it!

So many guys are pussies about that.

At least once or twice a month? Is that too much to ask?

:whip: :lovers:

Uhuh, Princess on the Street....Freak in the sheets.

Well my girl and I got into spanking a little while ago, and now she pushes me to pull her hair, put my hands on her neck, hold her down, just be very forceful woth her. I am NOT used to this at all, yet find it very arousing! I am always conciouss of crossing whatever line there is though and that worries me. I would absolutely not want to hurt her or do something she didn't like or want. We aren't all "pussies" some of us just care.

Me and my SO get kinda kinky, and whenever I want him to get rough he does. Sometimes it is actually a little too much, but he can tell when I start to feel the unhappy pain and eases up on it. But we both love it when he pulls my hair and spanking is fun from time to time. I have outfits I wear too, and he will tie my up in them. All of it is great fun! I am sure if I wanted to get really rough, he would oblige me. ;) We just talk about what we want, and both of us are willing to try anything at least once.

My safety word: Banana.


Kidding.


Anyway, ever since I read about those women who answered that guy who advertised for Slaves to his Master and then wound up in oil barrels buried on his property...I've lost interest. I think he even TOLD those women he would kill them...so...whaddya gonna do? I mean, he TOLD them!

What's really weird is the absolute most dom man I have ever met was my last bf--62 years old, 5'6" and all of 140 pounds. Truly, truly weird.

At least if you got out of hand, you could take him! LOL

Problem is it's so damn dangerous for a guy to get involved in that kind of stuff, it literally comes down to asking for a waver (not kidding, wouldn't touch it without one). Nobody might be looking for trouble in the beginning, but if something goes sour it can be twisted. Or you could get taken to the cleaners like a guy who graduated in the same med class as my parents. The guy was into SM and met a woman who said she wanted to play around. Three months later she brings home movies and pictures of bruises into the DA and cleans him out plus gets his licence revoked.

Moral: People are sick, don't trust anyone without a deposit.

I was involved with a BDSM online group, never met in person. (They had Gorean rooms which I was banned from for not obeying the Lords, LOL). One "Master" wanted to send me a plane ticket, for me to go down to one of the southern states, into his barn, where he had his "workbench" set up....and be tied up for a week...etc etc.....

Another in CA talked about "suffocating" me with a plastic bag until I passed out but not die....and raping me with a sharp knife..........

Needless to say that freaked me out and was insane, and I really don't believe they were serious, but they may have been.

My one big weekend in real life in Syracuse NY involved rope, dripping candles, some other tame things......it was a bit disappointing....LOL

I don't want it too extremely violent, or too lame.

Like Goldilocks, I'd like it just right.

LOL

And it's about "mind games" really.....

You bitches better shut the fuck up before I kick your asses! I'll rip your Goddamn clothes off and use them to tie you face down to the bed, and have at you in every hole, without any lube! I'll spank you with a fish, while I'm doing you, and yank your hair out by the roots! I'll pinch you on the backs of your arms, and then I'll drip honey on you and let the ants go to town. Just kidding.

Actually, I'm a tender, gentle lover - it would be hard for me to include pain in love-making. I also agree that leaving marks is asking to be prosecuted/sued. Sorry, Ladies.

"Spank you with a fish"? Ew. And not effective, either.

Nobody likes an uppity slave. Nadu, Sparkie!

Prove it.

*Goes ever so slightly weak at the knees!"

As a feminist I used to feel a tad uncomfortable about the whole sub/dom thang. Then I found the internet. Gosh what a liberating experience that was! Think about the most way out fantasy you ever had, google it and ten to a penny there's a whole slew of websites dedicated to that fantasy.

Long before google though, my ex and I experimented with powergames, unfortunately we were too young (19), didn't really understand what we were doing and it went waaaaay too far. Not really sure who got hurt the most but I buried my subside for a long time after that. See, we were winging it, playing for real in some ways, just kind of making it up as we went along and neither of us had ever heard of such a thing as 'safewords'. Two screwed up teenagers playing psyche games without a license :P

We recovered and we got over it...forgave each other and got on with our lives (were together until we were thirty) But it was always there underneath.

Woo. Now there's a memory I don't revisit very often.

From here it would be sooooo gentle that you might not even feel it. I'm kissing your inner thigh, right now, very gently.

Can you feel it?

How about now?
How about now?
How about now?
:D

Now, I'm licking your left nipple - just enough to get it wet. And I blow on it. I can tell you feel that - it's getting big and standing out.

You know, that kind of stuff.:drool:

Can you tell I haven't gotten any in awhile?

Then there truly is no justice in the world.

:( I keep telling my wife that.

Ah HA!

It was lovely but I can no longer fall for married men. It will just have to be sex between us. Pure sex or nothing!

Pure sex it is, then!

You've made the right choice.

I'll be right over.

Obviuosly, you've never been spanked with a fish. :headshake

How about spanking the cheetah?

Obviously, you don't know what "effective" means in this context. :-)

Never mind the fish!!!!! What's with the ANTS????

POSITIVELY NO RE-INFORCEMENTS ARE TO BE BROUGHT IN.....IF YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE JOB, STAY OUT OF THE BEDROOM!!!!!!!

I could pour on honey for ants myself.....sheesh....

So Spex, back to the think tank.....you did REAL good up to the fish/ants....

Then in another post you got all sappy on us.....which is nice too.

This is how it should be, tortured with force one day, with tenderness the next, and back and forth, back and forth.....Dr. Jeckyl & Mr. Hyde....

Then why don't you explain to me what "effective" means and what the context is you're referring to? :eyebrow:

Do I spy a cellar tagline or what?

Bruce: think "effective at what?"

Work with us here a little...

Go back to DanaC's aol gif...

Get down on you knees, bitch and suck me! Then I'll trail my fingers lightly along the nape of your neck, down betwen your breasts, not touching your nipples. Then I'll tie your wrists behind your back, and bend you over the kitchen counter and use you like a plastic fuck-doll! I'll light some candles and pour us a glass of wine, tipping it to your lips. I'll laugh, pulling it away as you try to drink, so the wine runs down your chest, and I follow the drips with my tongue. When I get to your crotch, I'll yank on your pubic hair with my teeth, you bitch! My Sister! My Daughter! My Sister! My Daughter!

OK spexx, I'm having a little TMI moment, now.

{points to thread title}

That was Dr. Jackyl/Mr. Hyde channelling through me. Sorry...

hmm.....;)

................yes sir!

What, spanking with a fish isn't kinky? It can be quite painful and most humiliating...... is it not allowed for a Dom to inflict pain and humiliation? :confused:

It's required.

But inflicting pain with a fishy flogging is going to be rather difficult...unless it's frozen, of course.

A good riding crop or suede flogger is vastly more effective than any fish, won't disintigrate during play, nor smell bad if not refigerated immediately afterwards--the debate being on what's effective rather than what's kinky. Kink is very much a movable feast and exists mainly in the mind.

:idea: Doh.
OK, I admit I'm not very adept at this whole scene, as I'm a pretty gentle lover....... not comfortable inflicting.

That said, I do know the fish can be painful, having experience outside the love nest.... especially scaly rather than smooth skin fish. However, I can see it would be only appropriate for a pre-bathing trick.

You sound like you're speaking from experience. Have you ever been spanked with a fish?

Hey, who hasn't? Being spanked with a swordfish (accompanied by prodigious poking with the pointey end) is one of my favorites.


What?

No, but I have handled fish of various sizes, both alive and dead. They're just not the right tool for the job.

Please don't anyone get offended about what I say. I am very naive so...

After reading this thread I am thinking how wrong I was. I had no idea the whole idea of being submissive during sex meant bizzare physical, emotional and verbal abuse.

My idea was more basic. I think to emotionally humble oneself to another to allow one to spank you is the key. Then they have to have a good reason to want to. Just to be spanked would be humiliating enough what good sex master would through insults after getting a gift. I thought the operative word is 'allow' not debase. The idea wasn't I am going to make you dominate me and make me submissive seems contrary to the whole idea. I would rather choose to be submissive therefore you may( whatever) according to what I want or feel comfortable with.

I didn't think that people wanted to have thier pubic hair pulled out or be called names. I am astounded at my 'ideal's that have nothing to do with what people actually do ,,,do.

Wow... this thread got kinky quick... not that I mind. :blush:

I like the occasional kinky sex, but mostly I just like it when he pulls my hair. Maybe that is because I used to have short hair and now it is halfway down my back, and I think long hair is really sexy, so it makes me feel sexy. Who knows. LOL I always like to start out gentle and work up to the rough kink.

But, to each his (or her) own. ;)

Local boy. We're real proud of that 'round these parts.:worried:

What ever happened to him? He in for life or what?

Yeah, John's in the pokey forever. Neither Missouri nor Kansas (crimes were committed on both sides of the state line) chose to seek the death penalty. I believe he still isn't done being prosecuted by one or the other of the states.

Wow... I need to read the news more often apparently. I don't remember hearing anything about this guy, and I live in Kansas. Are there any news stories or links that someone could share?

well...in a sexual context, "submissive" is a multivalued word.

My wife handed me a coil of rope saying, "Tie me up and do anything you want."

So I tied her up and went fishing.



No, I didn't really. :D

Sounds like the old saw about the guy accosted by a hooker who says "For $50 I'll do anything you want." He hands over the cash and says "Great... Now paint my house."

I just stopped by to say that I know a guy who put his ween in a fish's mouth. He had a boner, too.

That is all.

Why did the fish have a boner?

Dude. This guy was HOT.

"Hot enough to give a fish a boner." <-- new user title

Being submissive during sex means whatever you want it to mean babes. That's the thing about kink, it comes (or cums) in every shade imaginable and a few that haven't been thought of yet.

There used to be a tv show over here that looked at this sort of thing (Eurotrash) amongst other strangenesses. I remember seeing one where a guy got off being a door. Another guy liked being used as a bike rack. I am guessing, somewhere in this big round world there's a man or woman whose biggest thrill is being spanked with a fish.

And apparently his name is Bruce. :-)

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