How do you flirt?
 

My butt/lunchline joke got me thinking. If someone was to flirt with me, would I even notice? When I think someone is attractive, turns out I can't look 'em in the eye*. I also tend to :blush: and laugh a lot. Unless I've been drinking. Then I'll be more bold and actually look at them, maybe even smile, but approach them? Bwahahahaha, you must be joking.

Needless to say, if a guy doesn't approach me and pretty much be obnoxious about his flirting, I don't have a clue he's interested. But if he does, and he trips my trigger, look for lots of blushing and fidgeting.

So, how do you act around someone you find attractive? Are there specific things you do to flirt with them and gauge their interest in you? Spill the beans. And maybe, if we know what the heck you are trying to do, you'll get a little more reaction from those of us flirtationally challenged types. :D

Oh, and is opening the door for a woman just a ploy to check out her ass?

I don't flirt either. Well I don't think I do. I don't like obnoxious come on lines but when a guy approaches me and looks me direct in the eye...I know in a instant if there is a connection or not. If I return a mutual 'eye glaze' then it's all but history then.

oh and it IS all in the gaze too. I value a well placed look in the eye above the smoothest mover via verbage. Which is a turn off to me.

That prize....that connection appeal. That wham ...wow...firework thing.... happens once in a blue moon though. I usually just bide my time by not caring much.:blush:

You know, I have been told recently that I am a HUGE flirt. I never thought of it that way, though. I like talking to people, usually I am at the bar, which is populated more by men than women by themselves, so I talk to random people. Whether or not I find them attractive. Apparently this means that I want them all to jump my bones.

It has to blatant for me to know that they are actually flirting. There was one guy who completmented me all night and paid my tab, but I know fro a good source that he pays a lot of people's tabs and he even told me that he always looks for someone older than him, rather than younger. I was like - ok, cool. The next night he says that if things with the person who has left my life don't work out, that he would like to take me out. (This is a whole different problem). That was the first indication that he was flirting!!

I like to think I can genuinely do something nice for somebody and still enjoy a morsel of eye candy. Is that so horrible?

I'll rephrase...

If you open a door for woman, do you tend to check out her caboose as she passes?

And for the record, I don't buy pants that don't flatter my ass, so I surely don't mind someone enjoying the view if they wish.

I'm an enormous flirt. I can't help it - I love talking to girls, making them laugh, seeing them smile. It makes me warm and fuzzy inside.

I don't necessarily act differently around a girl I find attractive, I'm just a little more attentive to what she says. i.e., I'm more apt to try and make a joke or reply in an intelligent/witty manner. Make her come back for more.

Oh, and I open doors for girls so I can make eye contact. She inevitably looks at me before walking through the door. Give a little smile, a cute wink or something. Then I stare longingly at her luscious behind.

Of course.

How do I flirt?

Successfully.

I am clueless. I need my wife to tell me when a woman is coming on to me most of the time. There are rare exceptions, but mostly, I've *always* found it inconceivable that a woman might be interested in me.

Nevertheless, my wife assures me that I *do* flirt, but frankly, I'm almost always unaware of it. It seems that my style of flirtation, according to her, consists of actually paying attention to what a woman is saying, responding with a smile or some appearance of unfeigned interest, and a bit of body language. I can only assume she means when I grab my crotch, or do the index finger going in and out of the thumb and index finger circle formed by my other hand...:D

Cookie!

Don't worry Els, my husband is clueless about his flirting too. He always thought he was just being friendly. One day, back when we were dating, he came home and said, "We should hang out sometime with Amanda, she really likes you."

"Huh? I barely know Amanda."

"I know, but she asks about you everytime I see her, 'How are things going with your girlfriend, how are you two doing...?'"

"Honey. That's because she's interested in you and is desperately hoping that someday the answer will be, 'Oh no, actually, we broke up.'"

"What?!"

"Yeah, she's been desperate to jump your bones since long before you were dating me. I thought you knew. She definitely does not want to hang out with me, I assure you."

:lol:

Yeah, that sounds pretty familiar, alright. Sigh. When I think of how much more trim I could have had over the years had I only had one damn clue. :greenface

You can't go thinking that way. Maybe they were attracted to you precisely because you didn't have a clue. It was endearing to them. If you were more suave or hip or whatever, they may have been repulsed.

Well, as incompetent as I am at being suave and/or hip, I think repulsed would have been the gentlest outcome I could have imagined. Bonus!

me too...me too...
 

I'm with you, Elspode. I'm damned proud of the large number of women I've repulsed over the years.

I think everyone flirts whether it's knowingly or not. I know I do sometimes, but usually there's intent there and mostly it works pretty well.

Women flirt to get men to do what they want.

Men flirt to get women to do what they want.

Apparently I flirt very well, but I have absolutely no clue that I am doing so.

I'm just naturally friendly.

Who hasn't been thinking about your butt in the lunchline?:blush:

I smile alot but also like to make fun. Aparently being teasingly mean is flirting...Anyway I know I flirt but never to really get anything out of it. The only person, I know of, who has ever responded to my flirting was my b/f. If someone flirts w/ me I don't normally think anything of it, I don't believe that anyone could really be seriously interested in me.

How do I flirt?

Obviously and Successfully :D

Although, I'm a naturally friendly person and sometimes my friendliness is taken as flirting.

My secretary says I have made an art form out of flirting.

Uh, eye? Girls have eyes? :blush:

how do i flirt? treat every single woman the same. make eye contact, be friendly, avoid unsolicited lewd comments, laugh, be friendly, tease, open doors, be friendly, avoid grabbing my package, be friendly...

and i admit that in groups i always find the wall flower who is rarely the target of flirtation and make a point of engaging her. worst case scenario i spend an evening chatting with someone who is usually really friendly, but shy. best case i catch the attention of the one i was interested in all along. does that make me a manipulative pig?

Roofies?

:rotflol: :blush:

I used to be much better at flirting. I prided myself in being able to flirt well both in person and through messages (I'm from the old BBS days when messages boards were ALL you had to work with, and when there was only a handful of women who even understood how to turn on computers).

Nowdays, I feel awkward at it. I find it much easier to flirt with women than with men, though. I think they are more willing to accept your attempts. Men are all into the whole visual thing. Women seem willing to accept wit. Perhaps I just have more success with women than men?

Personally, I find that I flirt better when I feel better about myself. I like long fingernails, wearing sexy underwear and just the right outfit. Feeling sexy yourself is a good way to start.

Now see Selene, I have this vision of you sitting at your computer in a sexy teddy with these super looooong fingernails :D

But youre soooo right....flirting is heaps easier when you are feeling confident within yourself.

No flirting. Ever.

Flirting leads to desire. Desire leads to intimacy. Intimacy leads to suffering. Flirting is the path to the dark side.

Come to the Dark Side Mr. V, we have cookies ;)

So now it's all come on over for the cookies, eh? You've changed.

Cookies? cookies? Where??? I'm in!
:borg:

I will gladly flirt for cookies. Wink! Smooch! Um, smack!

I did cook for dates sometimes... or at least talk about it.

I used to cook for my husband when we were dating. He really liked it, specially when he could see I'd gone to a lot of trouble. I still do quite often cook special meals just for him and me. I feed the kids and get them sorted before he comes home, then we have a late dinner. :)

No. That's just a benefit. :D

Well, the cookies are really all I have to offer anymore :)

Everything else has been snagged...(or so I think I've mentioned elsewhere)

But I'm a REALLY good baker ;)

I would gladly flirt today, for a hamburger tomorrow.

--Wimpy McFlirty :p

True story: I had a completely random sexual dream about a Dwellar the other night. No, I won't tell you which one, and trust me, you'd never guess.

That's how I flirt--on a mass scale. ;)

LJ, huh?

I reckon it was Bri :p

How weird...I too had a sexual dream about a Cellarite last night (or early this morning)...maybe someone is sending out the thought waves all over.....

Originally Posted by Clodfobble
True story: I had a completely random sexual dream about a Dwellar the other night. No, I won't tell you which one, and trust me, you'd never guess.

That's how I flirt--on a mass scale.

How weird...I too had a sexual dream about a Cellarite last night (or early this morning)...maybe someone is sending out the thought waves all over.....

Y'all stop it i'm Taken !!! ;)

Oh, at work. :lol:

Ever since this, everytime a guy opens the door or lets me go in fromt of him, this is all I can think of!! And I live in the South, lots of guys do this!!!

And do you like the thought, or does it make your skin crawl?

I cooked for seven hours for a second date once (I was around twenty). A five course Chinese feast. Steamed fish with fermented black bean and rice wine, Dim Sum, Spring Rolls, lots of stuff...
She stood me up.
My Mom used the F-word for the first time (she took me to Orlando to shop at the Asian market).
Turns out she got an offer from a guy to spend the weekend in Datona (something we all do three times a year here) with him. My family ate the meal, I did not.

Depends on who's behind me :p

rz - that sucks!! No phone call or anything? That is inexcusable to me. I would have rather had the meal than go do something that I do often.

I'll just have to make an extra point to hold more doors next time I'm in Raleigh.

So, what I have learned about flirting is this: Eye contact and talking might mean they are flirting with you, or, they are just friendly. Whoop-de-doo.

Good thing I am married, or I'd be single for a long long time.

I apparently flirt without knowing it hence the backhands and bruises I receive from my SO, so I really can't help you here either. I will say though that if I'm interested in you, you will definitely know, cuz I'll just up and say so.

Are you kidding? Good-looking and smart too? Someone would make sure you got the idea.

Not directed at you, Labrat, but just ranting in general:

I don't understand why women don't value themselves more. The cellar has a bevy of good-looking, witty, intelligent women. And it seems like they all see themselves as "nothing special". I don't get it.

Previous thought made me think of a great Cellar fund-raiser. "The Women of The Cellar" calendar. A guaranteed money maker.

Here's a psychological test for you. Women, did you read the above post and think, "Well, yeah sure. But not me."?

What, "The Women of the Cellar" calendar? I'm NOT wearing a thong.

Wow, you're not? That would be great.....do you wax?:yum:

We should have a "Men of the Cellar" calendar first. :love:

All right. I want to be Miss January. It's a cold month, so I'd have to bundle up.

You'll thank me for this, really.

Well now you are. In my head...

...with an expression of supreme uncomfortable annoyance. How the hell do people wear those butt-floss garments, anyway?? :greenface

c'mon blue....seriously?? they are comfortable, so long as you buy the right ones