Daddy's
 

There is a reason that I find professors attractive--it's their Daddy potential. Professors, in my mind, would make great Daddy's. To wit: They are almost always hugely kind. You can make a mistake, but they will apologize for the misunderstanding. They do NOT fly off the handle. You may very well write a horrid, hateful, provocative email and they will respond with, "I am sure I misunderstood you," OR, "I so apologize for my mistake in saying...", and you know it's your own damn fault and know that they are apologizing for your stupidity but in an oblique, polite way. Which makes you love and respect and admire them. And want to procreate with them. Stuff this good should not be wasted!

I've been involved with profs who hate women and profs who love them and I have come to this conclusion: Find love where you can. Even if it's unrequited. Even if it's Academic.

I'm both.

lol!

That is when my wife fell for me... she was my student. I am a baaaad man.

Does this also apply to Neil "The Professor" Peart?

I was not her Prof for long though.
What about old, grey-haired, absent minded professors?

Even old, grey-haired, absent minded people deserve love!

Yes, they do!
BTW... I am not coming-on to Bri... I am joking with her. Get that outta' tha' way...

My hubby is the equivalent of a professor over there. He's very patient with his students and I can understand why some of them have crushes on him. It's those attributes which attracted me to him

Aren't Profs notorious for caring more about their students than their families?

edit - not Aliantha's!

Trust me Griff, there are times when I do think his students are more important to him than us. Then again, sometimes I think he thinks going fishing is more important, or maybe going to the races (a hobby of his). It's all relative I think.

Would a professor fulfill my need for a bit of bad boy?

I doubt it Ducks. lol I know mine is a very good, left wing geeky type who is about as far from bad boy as you can get. So are most of his friends. lol

Damn, Bri, where did you go to school?? I've certainly known the type you describe, but I've also known ones that I'm convinced carved notches on their office desks to commemorate how many students they reduced to tears. They're not universally benevolent and kind any more than accountants or plumbers are.

Doesn't this mean they will also tell you when you've been a bad girl? :angel:

Anyway.

I have it on great authority that the greatest men are those who fail to actually finish their PhD, but end up remaining in academia in an adminsitrative capacity. Like IT. Especially IT.

SD, you never took sweater monkeys to school though, did you?

I had one Daddy - Sgt Major Sam Wilson who proudly served in the US military for 30 years. I had a brief affair with one of my TA's - he was 27 at the time, I was 18. I've had prof's who were complete assholes, although none of them ever reduced me to tears. I've also had great prof's who loved their subject and cared about passing their knowledge on to their students. Then I've had prof's who were on the make and screwed more of their female students then some Hollywood celebs have screwed their groupies.

Give me a true companion and an equal - not a "Daddy." If he happens to be a prof - fine. The man I loved most in my life was a writer/poet/forest service tech/fly fisherman. I miss him to this very day.

Sweater monkeys? I don't know what you're talking about.

I assume he means breasts. Have never heard that term before but it really made me laugh.

i think the reason I haven't run into any bad PhD's is because I'm an English major :lol:

:stickpokeEnglish major? Uhoh, this is gonna cause some tensions (The whole science > arts thing).

No. I DID science. Radiology and Nursing.

Keep in mind that the job of a teacher is twofold.
Half is to impart knowledge and half is to get the students to do their bidding. The first half is successful only to the proportion that the second half is.

A teacher that's mastered the second half becomes a Professor. And well schooled in getting students to do his bidding....even for personal gain. :(

Correct SD. Its the funniest euphemism I've heard for them, so I had to share.

If a professer can get the first part, then any student worthy of calling themselves that will do the second.

Ah, I see, thank you for the lesson. I'll have to try to find an opportunity to use it. (Me: That new soprano in your chorus has a nice set of sweater monkeys. Mrs. Dallas: SMACK!!)

You know you're not normal, don't you? ;)

It's so rare to get a prof who is really good at conveying the information that they get pounced on around here. My organic chemistry prof is like that and his sections are always the hardest to get into. Who wants to waste time listening to a braniac babble to himself anyway, it doesn't do us anygood come exam time:cool:

Oh, and normal is just plain boring so I'll take that as a compliment :D

It was meant to be. ;)

Bri, when you aren't in class or on campus, where are you? Maybe if you put yourself in places where there are nice men who aren't PhD's you'll find men who are actually worthy of your wit, charm, and sexual prowess. :2cents:

Well...thank you, Labrat. :blush: that was a very nice thing to say.

When I'm not on campus/class, I'm usually here at home-pretending to study. (actually, I do study a lot and put a lot of work into my papers--I feel blessed to have this chance and though I may sound flippant about it-I recognize it for the opportunity that it is)

Or, I'm fighting with my 15 year-old son--he's becoming quite a handful--not juvenile delinquent-wise, but just lazy, disrespectful and annoying-wise.
So--not much time to socialize. I also really worry about bringing a man into the picture while my son is so fragile (he suffered a breakdown Aug. 05--psychotic depression that took a year of meds to overcome) and so dependent on me--a fling here or there or crushes/love with unavailable men seems very safe...see? all my pathology laid out! But, I do get lonely and wish there was someone special around. Oh, well. maybe in a few years when Danny is in college..?

What you need is a webcam. That would give you lots of opportunities to socialize with high-quality men without ever leaving home.

Or, umm, so I've heard.

My DearOne has a PhD in Physics...he's not in academia however, he's a software developer for a university.

Not all of em are ijits....really :) But I think you get from a person you're involved with what you personally think you deserve from that person.
Call it self fulfilling prophecy...for example - you think "I will never find a man who treats me well:" The net effect on your life is: the only men you find don't. Remember...you get back what you put out there. Sometimes moreso.

Seriously - it's what happened to me - when I decided, and started to believe that I deserve the best out of life, well, he just fell in my lap. I'm now living 3 states away from where I grew up, learning to drink sweet tea and speak southern, and planning a wedding.

It'll happen if you change your mindset :)