Books about Sex
 

I was at the university bookstore yesterday browsing the sale table, and bought The Guide to Getting it On, a sex guide by Paul Joannides. (2006) Best $7 I will EVER spend.

I was up till well past midnight last night and read the first fourteen chapters. :blush: (I don't usually make it to the 10:00 news...)

I remember finding a copy of The Joy of Sex in the public library when I was 10 or 12, but didn't get much actually read because I was too nervous of being caught with it.

So far, this is a spectacular book. Have you read/bought it? Have you read/bought others? What are your recommendations?

Spill the beans!!!

I might have a turn of the (19th to 20th) century marriage manual around here somewhere ...

I think this is a good time to use the old line "Know it? I wrote the book on it!" ;)

you're right--The Guide to Getting it On is the BEST!

Read?! I only know how to write!

I gave mine to Daughter No. 1--never got it back.

pwned.

I've never run across that particular book--it sounds good. So what particularly did you like about it?

I'm sure you'll run right out and buy this one! ;)

This one is a fun read, but I expect most normal (i.e. non-contortionist) people would injure themselves if they tried most of these.

I remember finding a copy of the "Hite Report" when I was like 13. I devoured the thing.

It was pretty mind-blowing then, not sure what I'd think of it now.

"Been there, done that?"

More like, "Damn, that still sounds fun."

Books about sex get me in trouble.

no, no! Not in THAT way!

Or that way,

Wash your filthy mind.

I have a funny children's picture book about "the birds and the bees" ....and the humans. It's always been lying around our house -no secrets here.

I lent it to my kid's teacher ( a like-minded friend). She sent it home in his backpack. He was bored on the bus, found the book in his backpack, started to read as per my instructions when bored on bus -read a book. Shared with friends, cause a commotion, bus driver confiscated book and put in a DISCIPLINE REQUEST against him for the CONTENT of the book! It was rejected, she developed a vendetta against my family -which resulted in her receiving three disciplinary actions.

Just before Christmas, she arrived early at our stop and left early -without my kids. I called up, she was sent back, she was steaming and screamed at me and afterwards claimed I threatened her. She was disliplined again. Unsatisfied, she went to the police and told them I'd threatened her. It was thrown out (bus full of tittle-tattle kids as witnesses, who in their right mind would hope to pass off a story like that in front of them?).

Proof indeed that sex books can get you into trouble.

here's the Book

tittle-tattle.... pretty sure I know what it means, we use tattle tale, but never heard it before. :beer:

Thanks much for your kind words, LabRat!
--Paul the author of the book

Welcome to the Cellar Paul J., and now you will have to reveal how you found the thread!

I am totally going to buy that book.

I just added it to my cart on Amazon!

How?
 

Wish I could say it was pure genius. But there's this option with Google that you can sign up for. Every time the word, phrase, name, etc. that you put into it comes up on the Internet, it sends you the url.

One of the wonderful things about it is it helps me to become aware of all kinds of fascinating Internet communities. This one seems like the anti-MySpace. It has a very nice feel to it. Most I won't register for, because I already get more spam than I can handle. But this one had a nice enough sense to it that I felt it was worth it to thank Lab Rat for his/her kind words about my book.

Very cool!

I wonder if we can trick any other authors into falling into our grasp using this trick?

Welcome. You'll get no spam from this site.

Or at least, I haven't. But it's only been four years; maybe Undertoad is just biding his time...

you know he's just sitting there with his finger hovering over the button, waiting to hit you with spam at 8 years, 9 months, 26 days, 11 hours, and 7 minutes from your time of registration. damn that evil genius. he sucks you in before you know it you're involved in a spam scheme.

That could be a tag-line!!

Paul J., how do you research a book of this nature. Surely it can't all be first person trial and error.

I'd assume you'd check out what's on the market already, study some research papers, interview some Dr Ruth types, and add personal or anecdotal experience. What am I missing here? :confused:

My bet is internet chat rooms.

"So, what r u n 2? wow, thats hot"

SteveDallas--It scares me that you chat speak as well as that. Actually, even at all.


Monster--It sounds like the bus driver is one wacky bitch. Yikes.

I feel I should know my enemy. But enough threadjacking---I'd like to hear why people liked the Guide to Getting It On so much--or, Paul, if you would, what do you feel sets it apart from other sex guides?

And not just authors... I wonder if Robbie Williams subscribes to that service - me putting him on my Celebrity Not Bang list might have been what tipped him over the edge and sent him to rehab.

Anyway, LabRat's sticky sap has caught us our very own sexpert! :flycatch:

it's very thorough, informative, and not preachy

I would love to read that, I bet it's a hoot!!!

What I liked about it was the tone mostly. Basically it's got info on just about everything that I could think of (mind you, I've not had deep conversations with BrianR) in a "here's what some people do/like. Maybe you'll like it maybe you won't." There are quotes from real people of various ages on each subject. It's also got a bit of history thrown in for interest, and a great list of resources at the end of each chapter for further reading on each particular topic.

Considering I initially learned about the actual act of sex from my father's not-very-well-hidden stash of Penthouses and 80's late night Showtime, it's going to be great to have around the house for when my daughter starts to get curious about the details of the birds and bees.

Holy Shit! :eek: How cool is that!

The processs
 

I'm not sure whether it helped or hurt, but I'm a research psychoanalyst, which for me ended up requiring about ten years worth of grad school. To finally get the first edition of the book written, I pretty much lived in the stacks at the Biomed library at UCLA for a couple of years, reading everything I could get my hands on. And when I wasn't there, I was on the west end of Topanga Beach, doing, well....

Each new edition takes a year of 12 hour days. I do that every other year. I spend a huge amount of time trying to keep up on everything from the science of sex, to learning about the history of sex, to learning more about sex in popular culture, and in other cultures.

And I listen. And ask questions--more than is probably good for you.

I guess I do what anyone does who has written a big old honkin' book and wants it to be the best it can possibly be.

wow! I missed that! Doing a bit of Googling there, Paul?

I will reiterate--this is the best book of its kind I have ever read. Very thorough, informative, with humor, and well-designed. I like that it includes a section on piercing.

I didn't mind too much lending my copy to Daughter No. 1, since 1) she's having more sex than I am (cough) and 2) I plan to buy the newer edition!

Thank you. Carrying a dust jacket from a previous edition, with your picture on it, might save you from arrest or a smack down, when you're asking questions. :worried:

In appreciation for your sharing information I'd like to contribute to your data base; sex - I'm for it.

I have seen this book around and considered buying it. Not sure why I haven't yet. I particularly like the graphics on the front, but I am drawn to things visually.

My husband updates his every third year. We all dread the "book update" years.....he becomes a hyper-focused grump! lol :)

Paul, what kinds of things would you say change most from edition to edition?

Not opposed to premarital sex, provided it doesn't delay the ceremony.

My husband just finished writing his first book. He didn't seem to be that bad, and writing the book wasn't the only thing he was doing.

spammer alert. ^ check the sig line!

Bump for Cloud

now this one, I remember!

We just bought this book and love it! Every night we read a little bit more. Thanks, Paul, for writing this.

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/boo...9769569&itm=22
A fun read if you want to know what goes on with some fringe interests.

there are people with kinks about bangs?

;)

Years ago, I was looking for some information on myodisc eyeglass lenses (used so that ultra-nearsighted people like me can have glasses that are ridiculously thick, as opposed to impossibly thick). I came across a site run by a guy with a fetish for girls wearing really thick glasses.

Not my friends.:D