Is there something consistently irritating about you?
 

Is there something consistently irritating, to almost every person you encounter, about some aspect of your personality, which you alone are not aware of? It's easy to spot these things in other people, but it's just as likely that you have one as well, and just don't know about it. You may have impeccable self-awareness, but this thing, by definition, is something you don't know about, so how can you be aware of it?

Here's a good test:
Every time you spot something that really grinds your gears, in somebody else, stop and think "Do I do that?" and you probably, in some way, do. Otherwise, why would it bother you so much? You feel that strong, irritating connection to that behavior, because it exists inside yourself.

Yup. It drives my friends and family mad that when they are in dispute with someone I have a tendency to try and put that other person's perspective to them. What they actually want is for me to say "yeah, the heartless bastard" instead of "yeah, I see how that would be annoying, but they may not have meant it in that way...if you think about where x is coming from..."

I'm so plagued by the tendancy to play Devil's Advocate that people often don't even know what my actual point is. I see all the possible points and comment a little on each one, even conceding to the opposition to let them know that I disagree with them from a place of understanding. But when they hear me stating their position, they think I agree with them. Demonstrating an understanding implies that maybe they could do the same.

I can't stand when people eat tuna in the office. It stinks. I don't eat tuna in the office. Oh wait...I fart a LOT. See, you're onto something.
:lol:

I can't read any further without confessing that this is me to a T :D .

My boss does that. It can get irritating but she's usually right. She's also a very good person, so I try to take her opinion to heart. Not that I can be really cynical or anything. :blush:

This is long folks, I hope you have a moment. Good topic.

So I thought:I interrupt people. I had that sneaking suspicion in conversations and I would get "a look". Then my husband pointed it out....So I have adjusted my conversational style.

Now:

Another thing tells me that I am actually being interrupted constantly, and that I get "a look" when I break back in the conversation, and interrupt back to finish my initial thought, and expand on what people interrupted me with.

The other day someone consistently interrupted me every time they asked me a direct question, and wouldn't let me get my full answer out because they assumed what I was going to say next, or I don't know why. That's when I interrupted them and said, "hey, I was speaking". (I never do that or saw the need before) And continued with my answer.

So I adjusted this behavior that I thought was an aberration in the sense that I thought I might be doing it without even noticing, and all signs pointed to yes...that I am an interrupter (how could I be so irritating?). So then I pay attention and never interrupt, only to find that it wasn't a problem I had the whole time. Quite the opposite. I have found that I am being interrupted all the time, and now it's starting to become annoying. Here I was going to work on a personality trait and it was actually the problem of others that I hadn't noticed before.

Now I want to know what about my personality that I don't know about, makes people think that I should be interrupted after they directly ask me a questions or otherwise....so. If anyone has an answer..because I truly don't know why, please let me know. Why are they being irritating?

What is irritating about me, that makes other people irritating?

maybe you talk too fucking much?



kidding.


possibly, you're inflections lead them to think you're summing up. maybe you are circuituous in your patterns?

but, interruptors ARE annoying. fuck em if they get miffed when you call them on it.



I snore....and occasionally suck at my teeth. jinx can hear that in a noisy mall 3 stores away.

I am generally very patient with people and give them a pretty good go, but when someone shits on my blanket, it's very hard for me to find the will to forgive them.

This is something I've been trying to work on over the last few months, but it's a long road.

I finish people's thoughts for them (90% accuracy), give them the word they're searching for (95% accuracy), and get visibly impatient and edgy if they start repeating themselves, whether we had the same conversation a minute or a month ago.
I'm sure it pisses people off.

I wouldn't like to get these two alone together after a few drinks. :D

Apparently, it annoys other people greatly that I'm always right.

I know it's not always, but I try to make errors in private, I guess.

It comes from having an encyclopedic knowledge of darn near everything. Well, of enough trivia that it's excrutiatingly annoying.

My friends won't play Trivial Pursuit with them any more. When I end up in a new social circle, and the Trivial Pursuit set comes out, I beat everybody soundly. Then a second game begins with everybody playing against me. Third game I give them three wedges of their choice to start.

No fourth games.

well, you fucked that up, dintcha?

errrr. yah.

to my credit, I'm at work and had to leave the keyboard midpost to keep some asshole from hanging himself in the bathroom.

Please, who hasn't had to leave the keyboard midpost to keep some asshole from hanging himself in the bathroom?

Well if you think that's bad, try leaving the keyboard to stop some arsehole from hanging someone else in the bathroom!

Why, I've even left midpost to hang myself in the bathroom!
wait...

lol ibby :P

Well for me, according to my wife, I am to abrupt with my opinons in conversation. Yea, little ole me, go figure, none of you would have believed that. If it is a hot topic that pisses me off I am even worse. I don't mean to hurt peoples feelings but it just comes out. Sometimes I step on my dick when I do it and when I realize it I am truely embarssed. The problem is most of the time I don't realize it or I just don't care what other people think about my comment. I am really a compasionate person and will give most people the benifit of the doubt, to a fault. But if someone asks me an opinion about something I tell them what I think. I use to get high marks for it when I was on Active Duty and people respected me for it. Now that I don't have to be so PC, not that I really was while on AD, anymore I don't . It could be I am over compensating for times when I really wanted to say something that would not go over well and couldn't. I don't know. Often I use sarcasm and most people don't get it or think I am being serious when in fact I mean just the opposit of what I said. I do it on-line as in real life. When people don't get it, I drop it and leave them hanging, never telling them if I am serious or not.

For my wife, she likes to repeat herself. Tell me the same story she just told me yesterday, with all the detail, instead of just referring back to it without the detail. I still love her and just put up with it.

Last night on How I Met Your Mother (might have been a rerun but I haven't seen it before) it was an ep about each of them pointing out what was annoying about the others, with a soundtrack of glass breaking when the others would realize it was true. Lily sounded like she was eating rocks, Ted always corrects people, Robin used the word "literally" all the time even when she meant figuratively...etc.

Eeek, the annoying things about me are so over the top annoying that to point them out would either be redundant or a lesson in futility: if you can't see them you might have a mental deficiency and I will leave you with delusions of my grandeur, thanks very much.

:)

This is one of those threads I dreaded when asking Red to join the cellar :D.

I laugh too loud and have to argue or question everything. Well, pretty much everything. Although, in my defense, I think this second trait makes me a good scientist.

I'll point this out to him and see if he agrees.

Warning: Long Rant
 

I'm not sure what my annoying habits are to outsiders, but I know the most annoying thing about BEING me is that I'm invisible. Really.

This isn't something I can really explain to anyone until they see it for themselves, but I'll try. My voice is rather naturally soft and quiet...I may speak at the same volume as everyone else around me, but for some reason I blend perfectly with whatever white noise is around. Whether it's a room full of other people talking, soft music playing on the radio, or just the wind outside...if I'm with two or more people, there's a good chance I turn invisible.

What exactly does that mean? Well it means everyone I'm with, suddenly, for whatever reason, no longer notices/sees/hears me. I could yell or scream at this point, anything short of running up and HITTING the person I'm trying to talk to won't get their attention. Worst part is that it happens All The Time. Teachers, Parents, Boyfriends, Friends, Boss at work, you name it, I've been stuck this way around them. I hate it so much...but like I said, it's one of those things you really have to see yourself to figure out how bad it is...and sometimes when it happens, there's one person in the group who realizes what's going on...they can still see me, and they typically end up laughing their asses off while they watch it, until I ask them to get whoever I'm trying to talk to's attention for me.

(Understand at that point I've probably been jumping up and down, yelling, screaming that person's name, talking about wierd/dirty/strange things with the person who can hear me while nobody else pays attention, possibly even talking about the person who isn't listening...and this could be in a car, or standing in line next to whomever isn't hearing me...it's not a distance thing at all either.)

Now, whoever can actually see me that I've asked to get the attention of the other person for me usually goes "Hey, (whatever their name) Razz is talking to you." in a nice calm, quiet, regular voice. Really. Ahh...it pisses me off so much sometimes. Usually I just give up unless it's important.

I laugh loud too (esp after a couple beers.) I always thought a good hearty laugh was a good trait but I know it irritates people sometimes, which is embarrassing because I'm fairly quiet in every other way.

Let's just say a good hearty laugh is a desirable trait and leave it at that, eh? :p

I think if you're turning invisible, you should just start saying really inappropriate things until people notice. Just throw it in there. "Did you ever notice that monkeys walk like they have a dick up their ass?" "Hey I won first prize in a rochambeau contest yesterday. Yeah I kicked that guy in the nuts so hard he threw up."

A hearty laugh is cool. There's a woman I work with who has an extremely loud cackle. That's annoying.

UT - Been done, last time I was out on a double date the other girl and I had a very long conversation about our boobs and the guy's penises. No response from either male...they were trying to figure out if the head on the wall was a moose or an elk...or something.

Often times if nobody at all can hear me I have conversations like this (as I drift into invisibility mid-sentence):

"Well I think if we head over here we should find the entrance (to the fair, actual conversation I've had) since the sign is pointing over...you guys can't hear me anymore can you? No...definitely not. I suppose I should be used to this by now. I'm not. I guess I ought to get a dog or something to carry around and talk to, since talking to walls is just getting boring. So, hi wall. How was your day? Oh really? That's cool. These guys totally don't hear a word I'm saying. At all....oh...hi guys, you're back?"

Other people: "Whu....wait, what'd you say?...Were you talking?"

(Entirely legitimate questions, with no sarcasm, and legit amounts of surprise....then much begging and pleading with me to forgive them once they realize.)

Razz, that would be funny.

Razz, there was a character in a comedy sketch show over here, a woman who would come up with great ideas in conversations and nobody would hear her, then one of the guys would say the same idea and everybody would take it on. Her catch phrase was " Umm....can anybody actually see me?" :P

dana, *cop* to the *asterisks* thing already.

*grins* I deny that this is in any way annoying to anybody who isn't being unreasonable :P

DanaC - that happens to me all the time in real life

I know honey: it's a chick thing:P It happens to me too if I am with a group of men. Have to learn to be strident :P

:P :P :P :P

All in a good natured jest :D

Did some body say some thing ,

Oh hi Razz , look theres Dana , Hi Dana !!!

;) ;) ;)

umm.....no that just means you're invisible :P

Who's invisible?


Razz

I don't see anyone

lol! uuuh...thanks Ali but I wasn't offering....I'm married......
:D
tsk. tsk.

I have big eyes and i guess that a lot of people think that I'm staring at them. I'm not... it's just how I look. :eek:

So are people really freaked out when you do stare at them?

Nothing about me irritates anyone.

Ok well maybe my hair. Mothers get irritated when their kids say "mama! look at that lady's hair! It's purple!" and the mamas try to hush their kids and say it's rude to point/stare etc. and then I talk to their kids about it or smile at them. Honestly does anyone dye their hair purple and not expect kids to comment? I'm fine with them pointing at me and asking me why my hair is funny. But I suspect it still pisses off their mothers who want them to learn to ignore anything not normal :D

Well sure, because if you prove yourself to be a nice person, then when the kid asks if he can dye his hair purple too, the mothers can't respond, "No, because only evil freaks do that."

It hurts when you are looking for a job but other than that, stay away from the meritocracy aka normally.

Show us a picture of you and your purple hair Barney.:D