Adultery
 

Just have to vent for a minute.....My sister, who is 43, is porking a married man she works with(the manager at the grocery store she works at), has just gotten suspended, and relocated involuntarily to a store 30 miles away, and majorly demoted. Of course Romeo's wife is a real bitch. (aren't they all?)

ARRRRRGGGGG!!!!

So are the transfer & demotion related to the porking?

doesn't seem like the sausage was worth it.

Yeah, that was my thought too. That seems ... highly illegal.

Maybe his sausage was hot and spicy. I mean what's a girl to do then? She had to bite.

Not if they caught at work - gross misconduct?

A man comes home from work one night, dragging his steps and looking thoroughly ashamed of himself. He sits his wife down and tells her the bad news.
- Honey I'm sorry. I lost my job.
- Lost your job? What for?
- For weeks now I've had an overwhelming desire to stick my knob in the bacon slicer. Well today I gave in. And I got caught.
- Well, I suppose it could have been worse - you seem okay. What was wrong with the bacon slicer?
- I don't know - she ran off before they could fire her.

She tells me they didn't get caught at work, but I know the grocery union in CA has all kinds of rules about conduct, not sure about her store, they live in Oregon. The manager got fired, and of course he is planning to appeal that

And yes the transfer and demotion is related. She is not likely to take a 40% pay cut though.

What's she to do?? I don't know, how about FUCKING GROW UP?? She is 43, not 23, after all. :headshake

Cute one SG. :lol:

Sorry for the grouchy response Merc, just sick today, and tired of family members doing stupid shit, and then looking to me for sympathy.

Ever heard the expression "fucked yourself out of a job"?

The thing is, it's not your sisters issue really. She's the free agent. If the guy didn't have the balls to get out of his relationship with his 'real bitch' of a wife, then he's the one who should pay the penalty which he has.

If your sis broke the conduct rules (which very well may include no fraternisation between ranks at the least) then she needs to put up and shut up.

To me there's no moral issue here whether the wife is really a bitch or not. The bloke just has no balls and deserved what he got.

No biggie. I understand. I was just being a wise-ass, imagine that.

:lol:

Of course Romeo's wife is a real bitch. (aren't they all?)j

Says who? Maybe she's just a woman who is upset that she is married to a scum who is 'porking' a co-worker. I don't know any of them, of course, but I'm not going to blame a wife who is angry at her philandering husband. Hey, he's still alive, right?

Sweet, I think that it is Binky's sister who is claiming her paramour's wife is a real bitch. Therefore absolving the two of them from any blame, which is one of the reasons Binky thinks her sister needs to grow up.

thanks SG, I was going to just point out that I was being sarcastic, but that is a much better answer.

Thanks, SG - with binky acting merely as relay, that statement makes better sense.
[I've been sick most of the day and my logic is always the first thing that that goes... maybe 2nd or 3rd - *sigh*]

Never pork a co-worker...

exactly! How does the old saying go? "Never get your meat where you make your bread" Particularly appropriate since they worked in a grocery store :greenface

If you do, one must leave.

I prefer "Don't fish in the company pond.", myself.

Yea. Well it is just a grocery store. The real rule of thumb is to just try not to have tryst's with the married guys unless everyone is aware, and complicit.

I've seen some of the hot bagger boys at whole foods, and if I were a young cashier I might entertain the idea of a date. Some look like they would make good couples and everyone knows that those types of positions aren't forever. As long as you remain professional at work it's no one's business really. It's better not to date co-workers but really, that doesn't always apply.

Yes, I am a wife and a complete bitch. I have a hands off rule. Put your hands on my husband and yes, I will be a complete bitch. The fact that I would be a bitch isn't quite the point.

I think your sister knowingly screwed the wrong guy, and maybe even made a habit of it. And still isn't sorry. She should be making an apology instead of name calling. After an apology, (accepted or not) she could then, forgive herself for doing something so stupid.

Married and a co-worker, well that spells doom. People have always met at work and they always will. I don't care. But screwing a married co-worker is definitely a no no.

It worked out well for me. Although a year or so after we got married, my new wife did leave for a better job.

I rest my case, your honor.:D

Never dip your pen in the company inkwell. :D

I don't understand people who screw around with someone who's married, or otherwise committed. What's the appeal? Competition? Lack of self-esteem? Worse yet, so many of them believe that the married person will leave his/her spouse to be with them...which is the height of delusion. If they'll cheat on their spouse, they'll cheat on you too.

Oh well. Sorry about your sister. :( Hope she figures it out soon.

Just wanted to pipe in as another happily-married couple who met at work. We had both moved on to better jobs before we actually got married, though. Also, another good pair of friends met at work, continued dating after that company went under, and later ended up both getting jobs at the same company again.

If both parties act like grownups (i.e., never date married people and aren't prone to nasty, dramatic breakups) then it can easily work.

Yea, like I said, people have always met at work and always will.....I think it's normal. Why wouldn't you date a peer? If you are in the same business you probably at least have a lot in common. Not everyone meets at church.

The married guy fetishists are not normal I don't think.

One of my ex's sister's was like that. Always trying to be with very married guys. I always thought that always showed a lack of character. She didn't like single guys. Only very married ones. I can understand mishaps and screw ups, but to repeatedly date the same married guy with no conscience about it is beyond me. Then they end up blaming the guy's wife for something trivial.

Maybe it's the thrill of taboo and secret meetings.

I imagine it's also an ego-boost; the chick is so awesome that she's worth risking his marriage over. That's a roundabout compliment, I suppose.

As a recipient of this being done to me, speaking from the "other side" and not the bitchy wife (two-way street here)....the deep seeded hurt and pain that adultery causes the one NOT cheating is wrenching. It is devastating. To be able to trust that person again is a long, long road. That trust may never be regained. It's definitely not a wise choice for anyone to make.

Three words: don't do it.

When my wife first started traveling a lot for work, one of my co-workers asked how I knew she wasn't having an affair. I said, "What's the difference? Either way I have to make my own lunch."

That's my philosophy.

Good point HLJ. Being cheated on hurts in ways that are not easy to deal with. It strikes a blow to trust and once that is damaged or destroyed it is extremely difficult, if possible, to rebuild.

Especially if you went out on a limb with the trusting thing, knowing how deceitful people can be. You're like "DAMN, I should have known better, should have followed my instincts, should have realized when he/she said he/she was the king/queen of some unheard of country that they are big liars."

Live and learn.

Some of the difficulty is that after that trust is broken and in cases, even before, even the appearance of an impropriety can be very destructive - Unfortunately.


Live - remove ANOTHER knife from heart - and learn.

Bingo! And once you've been lied to at that level while being told how much you are loved and that there is no one else at the same time....It's worse for the one being cheated on too when pictures are exchanged. "Gee, don't my tits look okay to you"? "Gee, I'm obviously not the only one that gets to see your dick". I hope said sister comes to her senses as well as the schmuk whose cheating on his wife.

The knives can come out?!:eek:

Slowly and with great care.

I think the company's problem in this case was that they were not peers, he was her boss

The tip almost always breaks off though. The wounds heal around it, but it's always there. If you get another injury in exactly the same area it causes far more damage.

Hence protective devices such as shields, deflectors, fences, and moats. :)

...walls, attitude...

...laser guns, tarps...

;)

...condoms, lube...

Correct. It has happened twice. Double the hurt.

Score...laser tag. You're it!:apistola:

This thread is making me want an adult-ery beverage.

I understand this quandary.

Laser tag and adult beverages. Sound like a fun day to me!

Me too, sign me up.

Grrrr, my favorite cow orker said she wanted to go out for beers after work and then changed her mind. Sure, I can go by myself, but I hadn't planned on going out, then going out with her sounded like fun, then she changed her mind.

So, to beer or not to beer?

You need to learn hypnosis.

I could probably sprinkle beer juice in a path to the bar and she would follow automatically. She's maybe 5'4" and weighs about a dollar, but I think she could still kick my ass: arrrrrrrrmmmmy trainnninggggg (she's a reservist.)

Best not to mess, I guess. ;)

Hm...I'm not sure I'd want to go out with a cow orker. Sounds kind of kinky. How does one ork a cow? :eyebrow: ;)