Swinging....
 

Soooo, a few of you in chat will know that horse dude is into swinging...occasionally.

Looks like its time for me to step up...we are off to a swinging weekend next weekend.

Im nervous

You'll have a ball Ducky.

Don't forget the lube. ;)

Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with. Which I'm sure you wouldn't anyway. Oh and practice safe sex. Which I'm sure you would anyway.

Its an arranged weekend...think eyes wide shut....I've been to one years and years ago, but I dont do this kinda thing very well when I am involved with my partner (previously, it was a f-buddy type thing).

You said Horse dude was great, so I don't see anything in it for you? :confused:

I like swinging too. Sometimes I go with the kids to the playground, take off my shoes, and Wheeeee! Tire swings are fun too. And porch swings. I saw this really cool swing in Yellow Springs, this dude actually had a metal frame attached to the hitch of his car with a one-person swing lounger. I want one of those, so I can swing anywhere.

Heehee. ;)

He wants to see me with 2 guys, its his *thing*..or him and another guy.

I dont mind, playing with another couple is fine on the odd occasion.

Another couple, swap or 4way, cool. But this sounds like a whole other thing.
Be careful... or email me the link for the web video. :eyebrow:

Or two, or four, or just play "Fluffy Bunny" and see how many you can get.

Ah, the rotisserie treatment....

What I've never understood, is the part where the woman rotates. That must require some serious athletic skill.

Love between 2 people is wonderful. But between 4 people, FABULOUS!!! :-)

Clearly, I wasted my youth. I am too old and too ravished (by many things---not just that) to do a four-way play-date. Now, me and two guys...oh, my, yessssssssss..........

Think of CraigsList as a take-out menu and order what you want. ;)

Methinks that AZ and OH might have very different ideas of gourmet take out. Besides, pictures in the menu are NEVER like what actually shows up on the table. I'd take my chances the old fashioned way.

Been a WHILE since I've had the delight of multiple partners... going through a divorce and custody battle kinda puts the kibosh on that... but I wish you a WONDERFUL time :-D Enjoy yourself, don't do anything stupid, yadda yadda yadda.

AKA "Pig on a spit"



C'mon Brianna, only two guys? What's the third hole for then?

Putting.

I'm not buying it.

I guess I must be a prude or unimaginative. To me it seems like what used to be called playground talk and is now known as urban legend. All talk no action, or nearly none. I know of no one, not first hand, not second hand, not third hand that has any actual experience like this. They make moderately interesting stories, but no more.

Color me skeptical.

Been there, done them. Been in many 3-ways, 4-ways and more-ways. Through Craigslist, Manhunt, and bath houses. I'll take pics at the next one for you and then YOU WILL BELIEVE!!! Muahahahaha!!!!

Screaming for the Preparation H?

Meh V, can show you many a pic. Can also show you the local *swingers directory* that comes out bi-monthly (pun?).

There are parties dedicated to these type of *get togethers* every month in the city.

Awww Bri....what about you, me and two guys?

Respectfully Sheldonrs, the pictures won't be necessary. Please don't take offense, I intend none. I'll take your word for it; the pictures wouldn't lend any more credibility. I'm still...I believe you, ok?

I just don't grok the whole recreational, uncommitted sex meme. I can't separate sex from love. Love from sex, yes, there are several people I love that hold no sexual attraction for me whatsoever. But eros without agape...is incomprehensible to me.

A word: mere physical stimulation does not qualify as eros for me. A wet dream is no more love than a galvanic reaction is exercise.

I know I'm a serious fellow. And as far as serious topics go, sex is quite near the top. Along with commitment, respect, privacy, and monogamy. Casual sex is an oxymoron in my experience.

I guess, no, I'm certain there's much much more going on in the big wide world than are dreamt of in my philosophy. Heheh.. me and Horatio, batchin' it. Go on. Have fun. I'm happily ignorant right where I'm at.

Thanks for the pix offer--pass though.

The bold parts are where I lose the connection. I just can't--I was going to say imagine. That's not right. I can imagine it. I could even imagine myself in such a situation. But even imagining myself in such a situation isn't stimulating without a loving partner. There's no appeal without including the love of my heart.

When you were involved with your partner, what made you not do it well? I'm in that same mindset. With a partner, whatever's mutual is open for discussion. But otherwise, no.

I'm mangling what I'm trying to say. Here it is. No sex without love for me. Just not happenin. To each his own, I don't condemn you or the others, I just can't though. Carry on.

I get what youre saying V, now that I have the additional information.

I didnt *play* well in the past, when I have been involved with my play partner because I get jealous, not raving mad jealous, but I do get jealous and then I get really insecure and worried....mainly because I have been cheated on in the past and those scars are deep.

Horse dude keeps telling me that we wont do anything that I am not comfortable with :D so its all good. I like trying different things, we have had a lot of fun in parks etc so far....tis fun

Is this a group he knows already, cuz, if so , be prepared to run into a few of his favorites.

Ooh!! Oooh!!! Mistuh Kotteh!!! Ovah heah!!!!!

C'mon V. If you were involved in that scene, would you, tell you, about it? :rotflol:

You don't believe this kind of thing happens? More than 2 people having sexual contact with each other at the same time in the same place, together?

Really?

I've had two women at the same time. Under fantasy conditions (wife brought home a stripper). Been there, done that. Won't do it again.

Even as a young lad, I had trouble keeping up with wife #1's sexual appetite. What the heck was I smoking that allowed me tho think I could keep up with TWO???

I have wonderful memories but I don't think I can do it again.

Good question.

If I (some very different I) were involved in that scene, would I tell me (the current me) about it? Well, I guess that's certainly a possibility. Someone from that scene has told me about it, I don't see why some hypothetical me in that scene wouldn't do the same.

Your larger point is well taken though. My scene doesn't overlap that one. In this real case, it only touches it, here in this thread.

I don't disbelieve that more than two people have sex together. I don't think I said that anywhere. xoB sees it more clearly. I said I don't have any experience like this, or close friends with such experience. I called myself unimaginative, not stupid. I did jump in when the discussion turned to "pig on a spit".

When I expanded on my thoughts, I said I don't get it, that it doesn't work for me. I said love was the keystone to sexual fun for me, that mutual involvement with my partner was what flipped my switch. And that mutual focus seems to be the very opposite of swinging, casual sex, with one partner or more.

It doesn't bother me. But it is unknown to me.

DucksNuts, I also wanted to say thanks for your gentle reply. I appreciate that.

from "Chasing Amy" ...filled out like an application...

I am sorta with V. Its not really love, but an element of romance. Which I guess there can be romance between a group of people at once. But I would want to give and get the undivided attention of my partner.

Fingercuffs?

We *watched*, I had....errrr....Aunt Flow issues. Which is weird, coz I have a Mirena and never get them, but I did.

Anyways, the *club* wants us to join, (the coordinator dude was basically drooling over my chest :::shudder:::), there were some nice couples and some guys that I would definitely do.

@Pico and Me....nah, no fav's or reg's....its a new club...neutral territory.

Neutral is better. No obligations required afterwards. No games.