Blast from the past
 

Imagine you get an email from some one you hadn't heard from in 20 years, a former co-worker, social acquaintance, FOAF, or someone like that and in the email they are clear that they aren't trying to start anything but they want you to know that they had been in love with you, lo these many years ago.

What would your reaction be?

"I'm in a loving long-term relationship sorry"

and

This trend is caused by Facebook, from what I notice. One of my bandmates had it going on high school, and he is getting seriously Looked Up by wannabe-cougars working their second lives. Driving long distances to see him and stuff.

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At my age now I have seen several of these attempted flingbacks, and they never go as expected, and never really go well to boot. The brain remembers the good times and throws out the bad times. Plus, we are all actually different from what we were as young uns. And we remember that we've changed, but can't believe that everyone else has.

i'd decline the friend request too.

Didn't you ask this same question some time ago? You must have all kinds of pining hangers-on from the past.

My reaction? "No thanks, crazy one."

Nothing wrong with contacting someone from the past to say hello, I reckon, but to start the conversation with "i've loved you for 20 years, how ya been" is pretty whacko. IMHO.

Change your email address, block user, ect

What an awesome term.

wise, wise human.

This happened to me.

This person (about whom there were newspaper articles noting his arrests for illegal weapons and fraud during the 15 or so years since we'd last had any contact) found me through Classmates.com and sent a message saying "I want to tell you something I never was able to say."

My reaction was to contact Classmates.com immediately and ask them to remove all trace of me from their website. Which they did without hesitation.

Phew. :unsure: :bolt:

Is there something good about facebook?

I enjoy it, not for the above reasons but because it's always interesting to find out what all your peeps are doing. Old and new.

It would depend on who the person was. If it was the jerk from my homeroom class who always started spitball fights, forget it. If it was the student body president that I used to have a secret crush on, I'd probably send him some sort of reply.

I'm thinking quitting FB is a good idea. Of the two people with whom I've reconnected there are about 20 or 30 who I'd just as soon never see. Not that there was/is anything wrong with them it's just that I've no reason to be in touch with them.

I don't recall asking it, but who knows?

Also for clarification, this person was talking in the past tense and claimed they were not wanting to reconnect, just set the record straight, so to speak.

Take her out for an expensive diner, go to the men's room, and slip out the back door. That'll learn her.

I'd be all for it!
Well, depending on the person of course.
But I have no love in my life and present, I'd at least warm my hands on the memory of some. That's metaphorical. Although literally warming my hands on someone would be on the cards too.

You know, with FB, there are all sorts of controls. You can "hide" people if you don't feel like getting updates about how some random person from 20 years ago is going to get a latte at Starbucks this afternoon. They are still your FB friends, and you can go look at their pictures and stuff if you choose, but you can keep them at arms length too.

Also, if you want to upload 150 old family photos to have a nostalgic time with your relatives looking at and comment on them, you can choose exactly who gets to see those pictures. You won't have the random Starbucks latte guy above making comments about the plaid pants and bowl cut you had when you were ten.

FB allows you to control a lot. Share what you want. Keep private what you want.

I think she's thinking of Elspode.

My bad...sorry.

Anyway, if they just want to say hi, there shouldn't be a problem.

Why do people on FB add people they don't know? Is there a contest going on to see whomever has the most friends on FB wins?

Because they are pathetic losers, or they wouldn't be on facebook to begin with.:stickpoke

Well, she's Japanese so I should do it on 12/7 in honor of my dad's Marine Corps buddy.

I believe there is.

In most FB games, bringing in friends for support is either a requirement to unlock features or just makes your character more powerful.

Facebook now gives an option to allow friends to see stuff, but not friends of friends.

Yes.

Like an oak... never faulter or crack, strong as ever. Pffft... people are people and our curiosity will prevail.

First I would clear the air with my wife... I'd let her see the email (openess can be painful, but it does keep the lines of trust strong). Then I would probably stay in contact with her for a little while and let it fade away on its own (stay uncommitted and emotionless and the inevitable fade-away will happen).

This had actually happened to me. I received a letter, of all things, from an acquaintance that I had ceased a relationship with a few years before I had married. In the letter she wrote how much she had thought about our past relationship and that her current husband was a jerk. It was pretty freaky actually. She had put her phone number in the letter and a picture of her and her son. My wife was like, "WTF - who's this bitch?" Normal reaction type of thing... LOL

I had never told my wife about her. Didn't figure it important since I had quit seeing her a couple years before I started dating my wife. Well, my wife was pretty adamant about wanting to cut her tits off, shooting her twat, poking her eyes out, etc... so I did the most logical and safe thing (for me) at that time - I suggested that she write her a letter letting her know that I was already taken and I left it at that. Well, the next day, when I came home from work, I asked my wife if she had taken care of the problem and she told me she wrote her a letter. That was it... never heard from her again.

I had another past acquaintance that had called me at home once. She tracked me down when we were living in Florida. But, that's another story. It had a much better ending than the first.

Gotta love wives and how they handle the competition. :D

Or perceived competition, real & imagined. :rolleyes:

Madman, that is hilarious. I hope you sleep in kevlar pjs just in case your wife starts imagining things, but it sounds like you two keep an open line of communication so she probably wouldn't blind side you.

Reminds me of a story by friend who used to work on movies a lot. Seems the make-up woman was married to the gaffer or something like that and she saw her husband laughing and shooting the shit with the Craft Services gal. She got all het up and came storming over and started in on her husband: "WTF is going on with you two, I can see what's going on."

The husband said "What? We were just talking."

"Next time that bitch wants to talk to you, you tell her I'm from Brooklyn and we got ways of dealin' with people like her."

You have to hear it in a Brooklyn accent for the full effect, but still...

Yesterday when we were at the gym working out, this crazy lady starts talking to Jim (the wingnut magnet) out of nowhere... about me. She called me a bitch. It was mildly awkward.

she said it in a very complimentary way...

Was she from Brooklyn?

A Mexican pirate hooker bitch?

Did you kick her ass? C'mon you can tell us.

Did she know you guys were married?

Com'on... you know she wanted to fornicate with him. Why else would a crazy lady want to go up to a perfect stranger and just start chatting?

He ain't putting a sock in his jock strap is he. :eek:

huh? People don't talk to converse anymore? If a woman walks up to a man, that means she wants to have sex with him. . . Its all about the sex with you isn't it.

I thought it was kind of funny. This lady has done this to me before....just started talking to me like we were old friends or something about whatever was on her mind.

anyway....
The lady was on an exercise bike thing right next to where jinx and I were doing our floor stuff.... jinx was facing away from her doing a posture that looks rather strenuous, when out of nowhere ....in an 'I've got headphones on' loud voice.... she says something like, "Well, no wonder she's perfect. I'm glad to see she has to work at it. That bitch has been pissing me off for years!"


yuk yukk yukk

woah! :lol:

Well, at least it's a compliment of sorts, however backhanded :P

Relax, I was being facetious. I just forgot the smiley. :cool:

The crazy lady commented on Jim's cute butt today.

well at lest you two have one thing in common. <shrug>

Does she not understand the two of you are married? Who in God's name would comment on someone's cute butt right in front of their spouse?

She crazeh.

have jim give her a present.

Live skwuurl in a box.

or dead skwurrl

or mebbe leave a severed skwuurrl head on her machine.....

I think jinx should start overtly hitting on her.

what she actually said was that by march I might have the cutest butt in the gym, but jinx still had me.....and then again a comment about being glad to see that we have to work at it to look so good. (trust me, i have no illusions that i look good......especially in my gym gear)

I still think a skwuurrl gift is in order

I got Messaged on face book from a guy that Used to work with us , got fired for being a DRUNK !!!

I Dont really want to reconnect with him AT ALL !!!!

But he keeps resurfacing every few years, asking about ME !!!!

tell him you met a better drunk....

They sound like clumsy compliments to me.

we were both left with the impression that she was fishing for them actually. meh.

Jinx should just start snogging you every time the woman starts talking

but then,if she talks a lot,

the management might end up telling you both to go get a room.:p

Crazy lady accused me of stalking her today... showing up wherever she is just to make her look bad. Keep in mind that she is very fit and attractive. :rolleyes:

Clearly has a complex and is jealous of how you look (understandably).

I'll try to get a picture of her. If anything I should be jealous.

You might think so. But what goes on in her head is an entirely different kettle of fish :P

Besides, there's lots to be jeallous about. You've got a slamming figure and a sporty physique; gorgeous locks (I mean, come on, your hair is to die for) a startlingly beautiful face; and then to really make matters worse, you've got a handsome man at your side who you can go to the gym with: thereby showing quite graphically that you also have a brilliant and close relationship.

You have most women's dream.

WTF?

Her back and arms are totally ripped.

Just pointing out why someone might be jealous. That other woman might be gorgeous. Doesn't mean she cant be jealous too.


oh.....lol....I just scanned and saw you'd quoted. Hadn't actually read it...lol. Sod.