Very upset about my wardrobe...
 

Hi. I have another problem, aside from the ones I already have. But this problem is not an emotional issues like all the other ones I have. As you know, I do not have a job. I do have the promise of an interview, but I don't have nice enough clothing to wear. Most of the clothing I have is from thrift stores and sample sales.

Most of my jewerly was bought at street fairs. I have a lot of rings, earings, and neclaces...all in the $10-$15 dollar range. Most of it is silver pewter.

So what I am going to wear to the interview?? I have a girlfriend that may lend me some jewerly, and even offered to loan me some clothing, but I am very petite,...so it will not fit.

I feel like such a 'rag picker.' And the interview is shortly approaching. Can anyone offer suggestions??

Thank you,
Pam.

We have a thing here in Dayton called Clothes That Work - I'm sure Queens has something similar. It's a clothing place where women can get an entire work-ready/interview-ready wardrobe. It's free.

Thank you for your kind response. When I saw you mention 'Queens' I was almost shocked, but then I remembered
the webmaster, Mr. Undertoad, verifying where I live.

I will try your suggestion. I need a miracle. Isn't Dayton
in Ohio?? I've never really traveled much out of the North
East, but I think you are there.

How have the other posters here treated you?? I woke up
this morning and saw what some people were saying about
me. I'll admit, it did hurt a bit...

Your friend,
Pam

I don't know how it is shopping for women's clothing at thrift stores, but my entire wardrobe of men's professional clothes were purchased at thrift stores. I don't pay retail price for anything. I've been able to gradually build up a very nice set of slacks, button-up shirts, and v-neck sweaters. All name brands and in good condition. I bought a pair of brand-new dress shoes for $12.50.

Maybe we have better thrift stores in Texas?

what is the job?

Hi Flint. I am trying to remain positive after some of the people here viewing me as a circus animal for their entertainment; but then I am so lost, and I did post about my circumstances, so I guess I brought it onto myself.

Brianna gave me a good suggestion, so I am checking into it. After all, this is NY. Have you ever been here? I have been to TX one time. Everyone is very pleasant and nice. Although I am freightened by people walking around with guns. That is not allowed here.

My medication was not balanced last night, so I was very upset, but doing a bit better today. And I appreciate your response.

Your friend,
Pam.

It would be working in a clothing store...so I would need more than one outfit. The whole thing is just intimidating.

I am poor, yet would be selling very nice clothing to rich people.
It's a very well known store on 5th Avenue.

Aside from clothing, my hair is a mess, and I am not that attractive.
The only reason I am getting this interview is because of a friend.
I know that is the reason...

Sadly,
Pam.

go in with torn stuff and bed head. shabby chic.

Yes, I am 'shabby.' But at least I am honest about that part of me. There are many pieces of me; and if you chose to look more closely you would see them...

Take care - Pam.

i didn't call you shabby

i said use your 'weakness' as a strength

love and kisses,

Jim

oh... wait... maybe you thought 'chic' was pronounced like 'chick'. its 'sheek'.

Yes, you did. You called me 'shabby chick.' Although that is accurate, it is not a very nice thing to say. We should all strive
to get along here, despite our opinions and circumstances...

I do not think Mr. Undertoad would appreciate mean comments
such as yours on his website. I think you are a very angry person.

this is fun.

>hands jimhelm another bag of troll food...

OK, I guess they are two different words. You did say 'chic.' I did look it up on the interent and it means 'fancy.' I misunderstood, and I am very sorry.

I am very stressed about my clothing for the interview. I also have a problem with my landlord. He is mean to me, and does not turn on the heat all winter. I pray for spring. I am so cold right now...

I am going to have some wine...

Pam.

what kind of wine do you drink?

I drink Reisling. It has less of a bite than other white wines...and it is very cheap. It's when I drink that I have my deepest thoughts. I don't know why. And then I feel like posting more.

When I was in high school, I was promoted to 'Honors English Class,' but then I was promptly removed because I called Ernest Hemmingway a 'Long winded drunk, boring fuck.' I will still live by that comment. I don't like Hemmingway or that other fucker 'Shakespear.' I do not like happy endings. I like Charles Dickens...GREAT EXPECTATIONS. Want to know why??? Because in the end, the boy does NOT get the girl. I like that. People want to see atrocity, not Hollywood endings...because life is not like that. Well, at least for me it is not. I am not sure why I am telling you this...perhaps it is the wine???!!!!

Always-
Pam.

how about a pic in the RFN thread

I do not know of which you speak. What is RFN??? What picture??

Pam.

click on rfn above. it's a link to that thread. it's a thread we have here. rfn = Right Fuckin Now or at the present moment! :)

:corn: .

I do not understand why you posted a 'smiley face' eating popcorn? Is my life a joke to you?? Do you feel like I am entertainment???
That is a very mean thing to do to me, and you should apologize...

Very upset,
Pam.

nnnnooooo! that icon represents watching and waiting to see what happens.

*smiles*

and she's back ;p

so i'm :corn: for your pic in THIS thread

but you prolly won't. am i being mean? no. just real.

Oh, OK. I am overly sensitive I guess. I have known that for quite time. I am happy that people are being nicer to me since my arrival.
I've never been accepted anywhere, and most websites will not accept me. Perhaps, I have found a home here???

I truly hope I have. Mr. Undertoad was kind enough to accept me to his site, and I am grateful. I have been on other websites before, but have not been accepted...even though I never was mean to anyone...

The reason why I live in NY is because NY will take anyone. So I fit in. The sad part of it all, is that nobody wants to get to know anyone. I could be that anonymous give on the J train. The girl who looks at you, and then never looks back again...and then I get off at the next stop. Yet, I will still think of you for the rest of the day...

As for the wardrobe, I do thank Brianna for helping me. The problem is almost solved!!!

Thank you all,
Pam!!!!!!!!!!!!

This all sounds so very familiar. Not the words mind you...the rest.

The Joke is On da Cella... would be my guess.

Please explain, as I do not understand what sounds 'familar.' I just arrived here yesterday. Is someone else having a wardrobe issue as well???

And what is 'the rest' that you speak of???

Confused,
Pam.

Yeah. Not the words but the overall shape and rythm. Structurally all too familiar

I did visit that website that you posted about. I am not her. I do not know what you mean by the 'shape', 'rythm' or 'structure.' Please explain...

I am being honest. I am not her; and I do not write poetry. But I do appreaciate the link. The girl seems so lonely. I guess I should check out some of her writing...

You are not going to add me as a friend??? It's OK. I am used to it...

Always wishing you the best,
Pam.

Oh, please tell us what website? is it planned parenthood?

No, it was the one that DanaC posted about. It's a very nice site, but no...it is not mine and not me. I'm flattered, but I can not write like the woman on that site...

Pam.

No idea what you!re talking about. I didn't post link.

Ok.

yeah.

This sounds like Emma. Esp. with the repeated requests to 'explain" - Emma did that, too.

meh. I tried.

It's right there, under what you posted. I do not understand now what is going on. It was about 'danishpoetry' or something...

I am still new here, and getting used to things. I never know why you don't talk to much, but I guess that is you. I am quiet too...

You never answer my questions...

Frustrated,
Pam

Who is Emma? I am not her!

Pam

Ahh. I forget that is there. It is just my signature. Appears on all my posts. I wasnt suggesting you visit it.

OK, now I understand. But what is this talk about 'Emma?' I am not her. You can ask Mr. Undertoad. I am only me. Yet you talked about 'rythm' and 'structure', ... so who are you comparing me too may I ask???

This is greatly upsetting to me; and again, you do not answer questions, so I will stop asking after this reply...

Warmest regards,
Pam.

mr. undertoad? really?

Yes. I believe he is the webmaster/owner of this site. He found me via my IP address. I am here, and he found me. I am not 'Emma.'
Ask him if you wish...

And I am extremely grateful for him welcoming my membership...as most chat rooms will not have me. He is a Saint and a very good man. I was so out of hope the other day. If it was not for this website, I do not know what I may have done...

Thankfully yours,
Pam.

Mr Toad?

Am I wrong about who he is???

Pam.

P.S. Please do not call me 'Pammy' or 'Pamela.'

Thank you.

question then: why do you end your posts with thankfully, pam or whatever? UT? you fuckin with us?

I try to be polite. I do not know what 'UT' stands for. No, I am not fooling with you or anyone else. I feel as though I am being persecuted here, when all I am looking for is a way to express my feelings. Yet nobody wants to help me...

Pam.

Pammy, Don't be upset with us. We call everyone with that name Pammy. It is how we were raised, on chitlins and gumbo.

Oh? I guess you are from the South then. I don't know much about anything outside of NY. Who else here is named Pam? I saw a post about that. I just wish the whole world could be friends. Not sure what chitlins are. I have tried gumbo. Have you ever been to NY???
It is great, and somewhat depressing,...or perhaps that is me. Not sure anymore. Having some more wine. Did I tell you that I had to move my bed away from the window because there is gang violence where I live, ... and I feared a bullet coming through the window...

Always - Pam.

The only gangs we have down here are gators and skeeters. And they will carry you off if you don't keep yer winders shut. Yuk yuk yuk.

I'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony!

Pam would be brianr. he's a trans-gender. and a personal friend. post a pic in the rfn or i post to your threads no more. and i want proof. i think you are full of shit and i and a few others via cell phone, need to know you are real. post a pic with your face and a poster or piece of paper with cellar.org, the date, AND time written on it. yes. i'm calling you out. no more posts from me until you do said request.

I have only seen 'gators' on tv when I used to watch the 'crocodile hunter' as a child. I always knew that guy would get killed, but not by a stingray animal. That was very sad. He took way too many chances. I always thought a crocodile would get him, but it was that massive stingray that harpoon him in his chest/heart. He was careless. I like the Bronx zoo. Have any of you been to NY???

Never heard of NY, what is it?

Rest assured, I am a female. I do not feel the need to prove anything. Why are you doubting me here?? I do not see anyone else being doubted...so why me??? I do not wish to post a picture of me - as I do not know where it could end up. Why do you say I am full of s*it?? And now you doubt that I am not real? Why do you say that? Mr. Undertoad has my email and IP address. I do exist...

Very unhappy with your post,
Pam.

In psychology, a person who has a martyr complex, sometimes associated with the term victim complex, desires the feeling of being a martyr for his/her own sake, seeking out suffering or persecution because it feeds a psychological need.

In some cases, this results from the belief that the martyr has been singled out for persecution due to exceptional ability or integrity.[1] Theologian Paul Johnson considers such beliefs a topic of concern for the mental health of clergy.[2] Other martyr complexes involve willful suffering in the name of love or duty. This has been observed in women, especially in poor families, as well as in codependent or abusive relationships.[3][4] It has also been described as a facet of Jewish-American folklore.[5]

The desire for martyrdom is sometimes considered a form of masochism.[6] Allan Berger, however, described it as one of several patterns of "pain/suffering seeking behavior", including asceticism and penance.[7]

1) What does that have to do with me posting a picture???
2) What accredited university granted you a PHD??

I may be a mess, but I am sharp. 917 Queens...

After graduating and a year of social work I hung my degree in my bathroom. It seems I have no patience for ... well you know what you are :)
Bad storm here gotta go!

like i said. calling you out. post a pic with said requirements or phuck off.

So you chose bullshit over social work? must've been a tough call.....

Never regretted it for a minute, at least I know where the BS here on the farm is coming from....... ;)