Sinking Feeling?
 

Have you ever had that sinking feeling in your stomach? I have never had it until now. What is that?

Edit: oops, meant to post this is Health.

I've had it many, many times. For me, it usually means I've gotten drunk, or used, or can't remember what I did last night. The very worst, though, is when I wake up and I'm in the ICU. (Happened twice.) That's the WORST sinking feeling to me. What's up with you?

Moved to health.

Anxiety can show itself in gastrointestinal.

My wife left me and wants a divorce. I feel angry, sad, jealous (she left me for another man, though she claims she didn't), worried, lonely, and haven't vented to anyone about it.

Ow. Sorry to hear that...

My own heart-on-the-sleeve divorce thread is here

They did a study and found that the loss of a significant other can have the same physical reaction as a punch. You didn't need to hear some study to know that...

I figured out what that sinking feeling is. My pulse has been racing. What causes that? Anxiety?

Undertoad: while I haven't been with my wife as long as you were with yours, it does ring true that when they leave it's like you've had a part of yourself ripped off. We've been married 2 years, and prior to being married we were together 4.

Yeah, that would be the traditional cause of the sinking feelling.

Vent away. There's a wealth of experience here.

You are in that fun state called betrayal by the one you loved and trusted most. You get to go through shock, disbelief, pain, rage, and all the other exciting steps of the grieving process. You'll get to isolate at home alternating with desperate nights out on the town cruising the bars. You'll have the wonderful night when you encounter her out somewhere with the new guy acting madly in love. They'll be thrilling moments with the divorce lawyers and possibly in court, as well. You'll have happy times dividing up your common property, deciding who gets what. The best part will be when she threatens to cut the cat in half with an ax - you can take the rear, she'll take the front. Her friends will treat you like you've become a serial murderer overnight. Your friends will commiserate with you and tell you to get over it and start dating again. They'll try to fix you up with their cousin Sue who weighs 300 pounds and keeps a pet boa constrictor that she sleeps with every night. Some day you look back on it all and laugh. Well, not really. But time will pass and one day you'll be out walking the boa constrictor with your new girl friend and you'll notice a bag lady going through a dumpster. After you walked three more blocks, you'll suddenly realize the bag lady was your ex and you'll chuckle evily to yourself and the sinking feeling will have vanished.

Anything else you'd like to know? :3_eyes:

It's the worst, isn't it? It seems like you're never going to feel better-or, even human-again. I'm sincerely sorry but I know from experience that the people here will always listen and they offer some very good advice. Keep posting and venting. As wolf said, there's a lot of us out here with similar troubles.

Racing pulse, a big heavy ball of nothing in your throat, the sensation that you're walking next to yourself, a gnawing in your stomach, anxiety can cause or fake almost any symptom in your body. Expect these to come and go for the next three months or so.

The best way to get over the loss of a woman is.......

ANOTHER WOMAN

amazing how soon you'll feel better.

There's a problem with that. I never really dated, so I don't really know <em>how</em> to date. As I said, my wife and I were married 2 for years, prior to that together for 4 years. I was 16, she was 14. I know, as you're probably thinking and as many already said, it was a marriage doomed to fail.

I'm also living by myself, working one job. No car payment, but all the other payments are horrific. So, I don't really have the money to go out.

So, no children?

We have a 16 month-old daughter; my wife became pregnant shortly after we married.

Having children together does make it harder, but if you two can commit to what is best for your daughter, she will be so much better off. Is that going to be possible? Or have the "games just begun", as they say?

I think it's possible. I want joint custody, and the last time I talked to her about it she said she wanted to do that.

Don't trust that to remain her decision, especially after she starts talking to the lawyer.

And her girlfriends.

Oh, I don't; if we can't reach an agreement out of court, my parents have agreed to help me pay for a lawyer.

the story ALWAYS changes when you walk in the courtroom.

and don't forget about her new boyfriend's expert advice.

I just asked a girl out at my work, she said yes! We're going to a haunted house tonight (she said she's never been to one). A feel better already... (well a little)

It will likely be fun, but don't give the wife additional ammunition until the paperwork is finalized.

Oh, and you might want to spend some time googling this: rebound -basketball

You'll thank me later.

I'm going to try avoiding that. I'm trying to avoiding thinking that she'll be a replacement; I just want to look forward to some fun, no strings attached.

Yah, be very careful. I know a woman who could've gotten in trouble even though he broke the vow first. Of course, he'd rather she stayed home with his kids while he lived the life so I guess she was never really going to lose custody.

Thanks for the advice. I know she wants what's best for our daughter, and I do too. I know she can change her mind, but she did say she wanted me to be a part of our daughter's life, and that just because we're not together anymore doesn't mean I shouldn't be in her life. I'm hoping she keeps true to that (at least until it's finalized in a divorce decree).

HAUNTED HOUSE = GRABASS

have fun. and happy holiday.

No matter what your wife says about your daughter, the divorce is all about HER (the wife, I mean).

Trust me on this one. Hell hath no fury like an immature woman who thinks she's been scorned. Or missed out on something her friends got to do because they didn't get married and pregnant at an early age.

That's the main reason she left. But, to be fair, she wanted to get married, she wanted to have a baby (marriage I thought I could handle, but the first few times she asked me for a baby I said no).

Back from the date! I had a great time. I couldn't find the haunted house, so we saw 40 Year Old Virgin instead. Great movie... and she wants to go on a second date!

Good for you! Take it nice and slow, OK? :)

See what I mean?

Feeling better already!

I don't want to be a downer--but it's sooooooooo easy to rebound if you're a man! Lookit---he's already dating! Don't get me wrong, I'm glad for the tyke, but--well, she's dating, too, isn't she? I'm just jealous. I can't help but feel I've past my own 'sell-by' date. It makes me feel: #1) mad, and #2) free. I'm not good at conflicting emotions. (I know, I know--neurosis is the inability to tolerate ambiguity--enough already!)
Anyway---JUST GO SLOW!

Yes, yes. I'm trying my best to go slow.

You've already :doit: haven't you?

Don't lie.

Haha no. I haven't even kissed her yet. But I felt fine not doing that. She's a nice girl, I had a great time. If it's one thing that my marriage has taught me, you take it too fast, you end up having a relationship based on sex, which is really no relationship at all. :p

Edit: not so much my marriage but prior to that. It was sex, all the freakin' time (3-4 times per day, 3-4 days out of the week).

I came in kinda late, but how is everything going?

Yeah, who shot J.R.?
When are we going to hear the end..... or at least the next chapter.... of this adventure?
You could have been married and divorced by now. :lol:

An update since I've been gone a while. After that first date, she didn't want to go out again. The reason being is I told her I have a daughter.

works nearly every time. You should have sacked her before you told her. :smack:

Uh, yeah... because the only thing that will drive away new dates faster than "I have a daughter" is "I have two daughters from different women." :rolleyes:

I try not to worry about superficial things like being the dumper instead of the dumpee. Besides, it was only one date.

You have a thing for immature women, don't you?

:lol: kind of kidding - I'm a shit magnet, too. No offense.

Well, I am 22, mrnoodle. Most women my age aren't mature by any means.

Oh, and the update on the divorce: we filed this past Friday. Yes, Friday the 13th.