Sex and parenting: if wishes were fishes
 

What do you wish your parents had told you about sex?

Alternatively, what do you wish you had told your children about sex?

I'm very very very glad my parents didn't tell me much about sex.

That is not a conversation I want to have with either of them.

*shudders*

not much. my dad had 'the talk' with me....but most of what i learned, i learned from.......(too many options here....can't get the joke out......)

please complete the above sentence.

Research, mostly books, before the actual attempt. From there, practice makes perfect

I would have appreciated more information on other sex acts besides intercourse.

Intercourse is overrated.

And Ibram, I can't say I think much of any parents who have never discussed sex with their 16-year old child. Embarassment is not an excuse.

Well I mean, they had the sorta-talk when I was like tennish I guess, but I mean, I was looking at (and got caught looking at...) porn before they ever REALLY sat me down for a talk, so... they kinda missed out and between my independent streak (which I was duly punished for and then was never spoken of again) and school sex ed, they never needed to. I filled in the gaps just fine.

Eh, the schools do fine educating the kids I guess.
I don't really want to tell any potential future kids of mine how to do it. Awkward and uncomfortable.

I'm sorry, but I don't agree. The schools do NOT do a fine job of it. They teach stupid abstinence shit per our lovely gov't administration; or they teach "ovaries and sperm," which has little to do with RL. And what are we left with? Too many teenage pregancies and STDs.

:(

Good point. My wife can tell the kids then.

"Guiseppi, go ask your mom."

I agree the schools need to do something for the stupid kids, but c'mon, as a recent graduate of the bullshit health classes, I can tell you that not a single kid in the class (or, for that matter, the teacher) takes the abstenence bullshit seriously.

Schools teach the physics, the basic what-goes-where... the rest, the when to put what where, the how to most effectively put what where, etc, is up to the kid (or, by that point, teen, i guess) to figure out.

they don't take the classes seriously. Neither did I, and that was a looooong time ago. That's precisely why they are ineffective, and parents who rely on them solely are deluding themselves.

Do you have any idea what's it's like to be a 12 year old girl who has no idea why she suddenly starts to bleed from there? It didn't happen to me, but it happened to a lot of my friends.

We had sex-ed in the 6th grade in Fairlawn, NJ. Mostly "Don't do it unless you're married and these are the diseases you can get!".

Helped me almost as much as the subscription to Playboy my Mom got me when I was 10. lol!!!

My school didn't do that thankfully. We actually didn't really go far into what to do but more just the biology of it.

I have, in my full time car, a 4 yr old boy and a 2 yr old boy.....I have NFI how I will go with the talk when that time comes....but I am sure it will be informative and entertaining.

but what do you wish someone (parents or not) would have told you about sex that you had to learn the hard way?