She was the cutest kid. My aunt and uncle adopted her and her sister when they were very young. I keep picturing playing with them on the swingset in their backyard. She grew up witht he same smile on her face all the time...cutest giggle, a real personable girl.

Thanks for letting me get this out.

One of the guys I work with was getting ready to retire, until his 33 year old daughter suddenly left him with two kids 8 and 12. It took me a while to convince him that along with his grief, it was OK to be angry with her for such a selfish act.
He'll eventually cope, but I worry about the kids.

have you heard how her sister is taking it?

Anger has to come into play. It's one of the stages.

We all grieve differently, but the basic pattern is the same.

I'm angry at this world, for being so hurtful. It makes me wonder if there really is some kind of grand plan, some reason for faith. It answers no questions but resurfaces a lot of old ones.

No...all I know right now is what my mom knows and told me on the phone. Nothing.

Her brother is in Korea with his wife and children. Aunt and Uncle just visited there recently.

God, Shawnee, how awful. Praying ain't my thing, but I'm thinking of you and your family.

Thank you Dana.

WTF? thats horrible - Since I know most of you don't pray, I will. I'm very sorry for your family's loss.

Thank you classic. That means a lot to me.

There still isn't any real info. She left two kids, about 1 and 4 years old behind.

It was nice to be with my family today: if my little nieces can't cheer someone up no one can.

I was wrong about the age. She was only 28.

Just read this Shawnee (came here to moan but won't now)
Really sorry to hear about it.
You have a strong family and you will all support eachother.

Try to leave puzzling out the universe til later in the year. The way you're feeling right now you'll just think it's a shitty place, and that won't help you deal with this any better.

My thoughts are with you x

I'm sorry too Shawnee. I hope that things become clearer for all of you very soon.

My thoughts are with you also.

Thanks hons.

Please don't let me stop any moaning. I"ve moaned so much here over the years I would expect moaning...you don't moan anyway, silly girl.

Thanks so much for the support.

.:grouphug:

Peace and best wishes, Shawnee.