You know, now that I think about it, I don't even really come out and ask about sex.
A kiss, a cuddle, a nuzzle, a caress...if she is receptive (whether she knows or not) I can usually tell and progress from there.

My lady (of 8 years now :mg: ) and I are very in tune with the others feelings as far aggression levels, intimacy desired, top/bottom leanings etc.
She is the most compatable partner I've ever had. The first person I've been with who is completely non-judgemental about sex play.

And she can be nasty, bless her little heart. :blush:

As far as chicks on chicks, I don't understand why there aren't more lesbians. The female form is so much nicer to look at, touch, explore...if I were a women I'd definitely be gay. Men are just smelly and hairy.

Hm...I'm the "toybox" type. Everything from massage oils to feather boas to kathy's kuffs. I'm all about surprise...having a child without her own bedroom, in a small house, makes it a little more difficult, though..

And it's gotta be reciprocal. It's no fun if only one person is the one to start it all the time. I have to agree with Stacey about that. I don't mind starting it now and then, but sometimes you just want to feel irresistible and get chased around the house...

And guys, foreplay--good foreplay ("wanna fuck?" is NOT foreplay, incidentally)--is probably the best thing in the world to do if you want to get attacked as the stud that you are... *grins*...and cuddling afterward will gain you LOTS of brownie points.

Silent--men are SUPPOSED to be hairy. I just so can't be attracted to a man without body hair. I don't mean someone whose back hair needs to be cut with garden shears or anything--but men are supposed to have, like, hairy legs, hairy arms, and chest hair, and all of that good caveman stuff.

(Ray Stevens) ...He had hairy boots, hairy legs, hairy arms, hairy chest, hairy chin, and a hairy hat--shaped like a big bullet, with horns comin' out the sides. His mama named him Erik cause she couldn't spell "AAAAGGGHH!!"(/Ray Stevens)

Incidentally, I read an article once that said that hairiness in men was linked to intelligence. *shrug* Who'd've thunk it?

The only time I ever ask is usually on the "First times." And it's not like I'd ever come out of my face with, "Excuse me, would you like to have sex?" Though I could see myself doing that in a humorous way.

But even if I've been with the person for a while...if I want to do something/have something done and "suggest" it, and I get a verbal "no," then "no" it is.

I like toys, but only once in a while. We don't usually include them on a regular basis. We like to read good erotic porn sometimes. We will read it to each other.

lookou123 said how many children older? some (not all) seem to get the "i'm a mother now, i can't do that" syndrome whether they realize it or not.

what - just because you are a mother now you can't have sex on the hood of a car anymore?


3 all at home :(

Send them out for pizza and a double feature. :)

so is the issue a lack of time, a lack of desire, or a general feeling of repression (what i call the "i'm a mom" syndrome).

my wife and i had to deal with the "im a mom" thing for awhile. it was completely subconscious, but that is what it was. respectable mommies don't _____________. apparently they do, because things are generally good again. time permitting.

It's difficult with kids in the mix. By the time we get the kids to bed and the kitchen cleaned up, we are both exausted. Then you need to have some comfort level that the kids are actually asleep. When we are finally sure the kids are asleep, our own energy levels are really low. We're tired. We're more likely to just want to go to sleep ouselves. Kids are great birth control devices, cause they just wear you out.

Also, you lose the spontanious sex. It's after the kids go to bed, or not at all.

Anyway, I'm not getting it as much as I'd like to. Twice a month when I'm lucky. But when it happens, it's great.

I wanna thank all you parents for reinforcing my decision to be childfree. :)

We usually wait until nap time or something and lock the door, being really quiet...there's night time, too, but like you, we get tired by the end of the day. That spontaneous stuff is underrated. I wish we had it sometimes.

Yeah, yeah. Well, at least we have our own personal slaves by the age of 8 or 9. :D Er...wait...no, it's me that becomes a personal slave. Nevermind.

my son's 4th birthday is two days away. afternoon naps grow more and more scarce. this makes me grumpy because our prime time for sex has been for the 1-2 hour naptime. nighttime is mainly for quickies due to the drooping eyelids. this knowledge makes me even more grumpy.

my assistant actually commented the other day that i seem to be taking long lunches more often these days. trying to get while the gettin's good.

Give your son a couple of Percocets...that should knock him out real good.

I said I'm a toybox kinda gal...never said I actually get to play anymore.

I'm all about a good massage, though....Kama Sutra oil. I highly recommend it.

"No" doesn't mean "no" when the girl is laughing and smiling and teasing you.
If she says it in a serious tone, then take it as "no"
You can tell when she's just saying it to get attention or tease you, or she really means it- it's pretty easy.

As far as the first few times you're with someone, yeah, you should err on the side of caution and take it as a "no"...

My husband has a pretty low emotional intelligence IQ, but he has no problem at all differentiating between my fake "no"s and real "no"s.

And I hate scewing with the lights on- dim is okay, but I don't want my husband staring at my ass while he's behind me if I feel that I'm having a bad ass week- I get a dimple on it when I retain water from pms.

The only times I have ever been able to screw with all the lights on and stare in someone's eyes and act like an actress in a porn flick, were with cheap, shallow sex only very short "relationships" when I knew it meant nothing and I didn't care how the guy felt about me.

So, the fact that your wife is self conscious means she loves you and cares about what you think :)

my kids would like to thank you for that decision.

Firstly if you work until 9.30pm selling the likes of Rock a truck you are allowed to go home ever now and again for a nooner.

As to the 4-year old.
Sunday School looks like a good idea, either that or Vaseline on the doorknob.
Children. Nature’s punishment for having sex?

A woman friend of mine confided one day that her favourites was to tie her lover down with toilet paper and they proceed to ravish him with all the toys and techniques she could muster.

Toilet paper? I imagine some of you thinking whaaat. That's so dumb. Toilet paper will break at the slightest movement.


Who's catching on here?

















She claimed she told her lovers that she would stop what she was doing if the paper broke. Apparently the experience was good enough to assure long term "relationships"

And hopefully, your kids will be better humans than you are.

That is a great idea and it is my new life's goal to make sure that somehow, some way, my girlfriend finds her way here and reads that.

We are in the same boat as Glatt. Evenings are pretty much out, but when we can, 2-3X a month, it's worth the wait. I didn't want RugRat to be the couch potato type, so we don't have a TV in the kitchen or livingroom. Our VCR/DVD player is in the finished basement. Because getting to watch a video is a special treat, and for a 2.5 yr old she has an especially long attention span, we use a video when we need some alone time and it's not naptime. We easily get 30 min, sometimes over an hour before we hear her heading up the stairs. Lately we've been getting the last morning sex we can in before she moves to a 'big girl bed' and can pop in on us anytime she likes. Nothing like a good shag to set your day up right. Probably going to have to start drinking :coffee: instead...

i remember back when i was married and little pilot came home for adoption. it wasn't easy. oh wait, my ex's toybox was broken so we only had sex maybe 4 times a year if i was lucky. boy. am i glad i'm divorced now, from her at least, and no, sex wasn't why we got divorced, ok well part of it but not the major part and that's for another time. we be talkin' 'bout sex here! my g/f and i though do click mentally and physically, albeit that rare problem that happens every now and again as mentioned earlier but can be fun! :biggrinpi

*cough* what about BJ techniques? Hello???

Browse this thread as she happens to look over your shoulder.

yeah, that's what i suggested. she TOTALLY wasn't into that. and i suggest that she learn or find someone whose a unich (sp?) even before all of her surgeries (9 for endometriosis) she wouldn't do that when we had a "healthy" sex relationship. oh well. and it wasn't that healthy at all. yeah, i married her for other reasons and sex wasn't a big deal but it did make our intimate (holding/cuddling) drift apart to nothing. but now, look out!! i've only turned the g/f down once in the 4 or so months we've been dating because i was flat out exhausted.

That is delightfully diabolical and has been added to my "To Do" list.

i told you. like a motorcycle throttle. i'm a certified bj instructor. very affordable too. the thing is to start lighlty and slowly; nibbling is ok. but when you really want to be done with it already, get all four fingers wrapped around it, and twist and squeeze as you go up and down. get the right rythm, and make the right noises as though you're actually enjoying it, and you'll soon be done. bonus points if you take a facial or chest shot with the results of your effort.


too graphic? should i find you a good video clip?

Just as long as it's not "indian burn" style. Ouch.

she'd have to be pretty thirsty for that to happen. one should apply more liquor in that event.

No sex after kids??
 

I was probably in my early twenties when I realized that the reason my older brother and I learned to drive so young (we lived out in the country) was to give the folks some "alone time". I remember them telling us we could go drive "around the mile section (insert number here) times and to be sure to take turns!" And of course we NEVER said no!!

I am really into the whole oral sex thing and I've had some very open discussion with different ladies and I can safely say that if 500 different men read this thread, you would get 500 different answers.
Circumcised or non-circumcised? Heavy ball work? Light? None? Work the seams or everything? Light teeth? No teeth? Lots of suction? Everyone is different.

The only universal is practice suppressing your gag reflex. :p

For some good tutorials....

NSFW
www.ideepthroat.com

Heather Brooke has real talent.

So...what about 'em? Do tell! :biggrin:

Sometimes when I "get the urge" in the afternoon I visit Annie’s' Massage and Bar in Bangkok.
After trying one or three ladies I settled, by accident on, Won. Won uses a lot of suction sufficient to be accompanied by the occasional "slurp" when she temporarily loses suction. She uses lots of ball work and I "trained " her to massage my perineum and "more". Rhythm is also important not too fast but not too slow. She uses her hand like the “motorcycle throttle” as well.
I enjoy sex with my partner but with Won I don’t have to worry about her pleasure and can concentrate solely on mine and I don’t have to worry about her getting aches and pains or getting tired.
The best part is that Won has to make it happen I fight the inevitable all the way to the point where my legs, and sometimes my whole body, shakes. It’s magic. Then she gives me a massage and another less frantic one. It’s the only time I orgasm twice in the space of 1 hour.
So 1 down and 499 to go…

um, LJ, I'm not sure if all men will agree with the nibbling thing! As far as I've learned, teeth are baaaad- very, very bad. I am hesitant to even try nibbling.
My thoughts on oral sex:

1)We know you shake the urine off of your penis and let it dry there. If you want it in someone's mouth, WASH it.
2)Balls sweat profusely and when it gets damp down there, it gets smelly real fast. WASH 'em.
3)Silent hit the "head" on the nail. Everyone is different, so you're better off asking "how do you like it?" Don't go around nibbling everyone :)
And yes, rhythmn and supression of the gag reflex are important.

Stacey's first 2 points are the biggest reason I don't go giving blowjobs every day to my man. Ugh. Sorry if that is a bit anal...er...nitpicky...I just can't stand that smell. Once it is not there, though, the rest of it is a blast.

I was thinking of taking notes, but I think I'm just going to go take a shower instead... :love:

Shower.. theres one place that is totally overrated in the s.e.x department!!

slippery but not in a good way, hard tiles, annoying shower head, water off someone elses head and into your squinting eyes, he has to hold the her and in doing so he is standing on wet tiles.. oh how safe is that!! no thanks!

Although the bathroom VANITY is definately a good location.. all those mirrors!

Hmm.:litebulb:

Has anyone designed or customized any part of their house/appartment/cellar/funiture based on the specific needs of sex. Such as maybe in Sun's case a vanity level platform in the shower or maybe someone's bed is actual the correct hieght for sex as opposed to standard stuff in Nordstrom, Sears

Showers and Mirrors
 

Aaahh...back in the newlywed days....always hot and ready for something new! We stood around the hall of mirrors maze for hours waiting to try to sneak back in there to attempt every position we knew surrounded by all those mirrors! Never did get enough privacy.

My "consolation prize" later at home was having sex on the observation deck of Wentz Tower, 94' above ground. - I will HAVE to post pics! (Of the TOWER!!) When we finally arrived on the top of the tower, wheezing, out of breath with leg muscles spazing and lungs on fire, he immediately stripped me down and kind of pulled an "Arsen on Stacyv move"! I was so taken by surprise, but I didn't even think of saying no. It got even more hot when we heard clanking up the staircase by a group of giggling young girls. We were just finished and barely finished dressing when the girls reached the observation deck (and us).

NBN - Speaking of Wentz Camp, I guess you're right! There are many interesting & pretty places in PC. I drive by them daily and just forget to look. That tower was built in 1928. You enter at ground level and climb 75' straight up an old metal spiral staircase (well, not straight, you climb around and around and around and around.....) in a just 7' wide round tower . For those out of shape, it's a stairmaster from hell!! But still very well worth it for the view - you can see for literally miles - the entire Ponca Lake, and a whole lot of beautiful landscape far beyond Wentz Camp. When I get some spare time I will get out there and talke pics. I started to menton a little about that so-cool place here, but there is SO much cool stuff there, that'll take a whole new thread!

shower head annoying?
 

Not ALL shower heads are annoying Sun Sparkz. Maybe you would benefit from going shower head shopping! And you do know they're not just a single-purpose "shower tool"...right? I'll look around next time I go shopping and see anything that looks worth recommending. For now....I'm certain some ladies here are currently using a (multi-purpose) shower head worth mentioning...??

You mean like the ones with enough hose so one can sit on the floor of the shower with the head between one's feet aimed........whilst.......:thumb:

Yes!

#1 Squeeky clean. Not Optional. --no perfume please, it makes me sneeze.
#2 Trimmed/shaved testicles. Not Optional anymore, and HIGHLY recommended.

I'd been trimming for him for quite awhile before I could convince him to give me the same courtesy. Once my hubby finally agreed to it, not only did he get a lot more testicle/tounge action (which he really likes), but he said it actually was 10X better because he had a lot more sensation. He recommends women's extra moisturizing shave gel, and a fresh razor if you were wondering ;)

The Panasonic wet/dry shaver is excellent for this particular task.

but it's not so much of a turn on if you leave 6 months worth of pubic hair growth in a ball on the top of the bathroom wastebasket. Ask me, I know...
At least try to bury it under some toilet paper or something...

Making a merkin, Stacey?

1.) Yes, trimmed pubic hair is an absolute must before I'll go divin'. My husband was very reluctant too, LabRat, but once he did he came to the same conclusion, that it was vastly superior (though he doesn't shave, just trims it pretty short.)
2.) I have been told by my husband--who is biased, no doubt--that I am exceptionally skilled in this area. I always thought I was just using basic technique, but he claims that before he met me, he honestly didn't understand what the big deal was about; i.e. why men were all gaga over blowjobs. Now it's extremely rare that he doesn't request at least a little oral action to begin with every time.
3.) Showers for intercourse are terrible, for all the reasons SunSparkz mentioned. And those "massaging" showerheads... I personally always found them painful, even on low settings.

You need to build up your sex callous. ;)

that and it lets the ol' figs breath a little bit easier when out in this hot-assed texas sun! ;) :D

all this talk about the guys trimming up. what about you girls? i used to date this girl that refused to shave. and she wondered why i wouldn't go down on her. personally, a nice neat "hitler" is always a great turn on but i love a freshly shaved area for satisfying my woman and my hunger for the act!

i think a hitler or anything of sorts went out of fashion like 5 years ago!
Charlotte from Sex and the city may have had something to do with this!
for girls, apart from your head, no hair is good hair!

although i do enjoy a clean shaven mate... sometimes having just a little something there is nice too. no jungle bush, but just a little moustache.

Maybe Down Under...last I heard, the landing strip was still pretty popular here.

really! i dont know anyone of my friends who would have one now.. i couldnt do it.. after nothing, a little just looks too weird.

I dont think guys should be without a bit of hair though.. that would freak me out! trimmed ok, tidied up thanks, but all shaved... *cringe*

When I had a catheter procedure done in January, they had to give me a landing strip...that was interesting.

really! Why? isnt a catheter just a tube attached to the end of Russell to catch the pee pee?

There are different kinds of catheters ... syc is talking about having had a cardiac catherization, which is a tube inserted in his groin that gets fed up to his heart to take pics.

urgh. oh yuck and OUCH. i wasnt aware.. sorry syc.. i'm sure it was quite interesting! did you even it out on the other side when you got home?

I had one of those once for a back x-ray and they inject barium? down the catheter that’s inserted though the vein in one’s thigh. When I asked what the leather straps were for they said, "So you don't move when we take the image" Lying bustards.

They shaved both sides. I assume it's because veins in the leg are like veins in your arm...one leg might be more accessible than the other.