Sexual History vs Virginity
 

Of all the topics to do a first thread (mine) and a poll to boot. What do I pick? Sex! Go figure. Okay, here it is:

With all this talk about the sexual history of your partner. It really appears that no one (not many) really had a tizzy over the sexual exploits of their partner.

One thing that I haven't read about is the possibly of "doing it over" again. Of course we can't back up the hands of time. But, with the old saying "hindsight is 20/20" - would we if we could?

I wouldn't...but then again I have only ever had one partner...and I'm still with him :P

Hell no. It takes a long time, especially for women, to figure out just what works for them. Those early years are essential practice, and as far as I'm concerned newlyweds don't need the added stress of having no clue what you're doing in the bedroom...

How do virgins go about it in the bedroom anyway?? Lots of fumbling?

You were never a virgin? Wow you started early. :eyebrow:

How do they go about it? It's just sex, the damn dog is smart enough to figure it out :lol:

No, no, I was never in such a situation although I could be (in the future).

So how? :confused:

We've been together far too long to worry about that kinda' shit.

Can't answer as 1) am not currently with a partner
2) there is no option to remove some of my partners from my history.

Nothing to do with numbers, just some people I shouldn't have slept with and would be happy to erase from my memory. But realistically I suppose everything you do contributes to who you are today (especially when you learned from the mistakes) so I'd best keep the whole package.

I would never want to go back to being a virgin at my age. A future partner would feel an enormous amount of responsibility if he knew I'd resisted for 34 years in order to give him the gift of my maidenhead.

And I wouldn't want to sleep with a virgin at this age either. I remember what that was like from my teens, and that was when I had little experience myself. To me a loving, emotional encounter is far more likely from a lover with previous experience. With the best will in the world, a bull-at-a-gate jackhammer approach tends to characterise a man's first efforts.

Wouldn't change. How we got here is who we are. Besides only Kirk should be allowed to fool with time/space.

Two words: start slow.

sorry i jumped to conclusions. :redface: If you know where everything is you should be fine. Just be safe, and careful with who you choose, don't make a hasty decision. look at me; giving advice i didn't take

I'll keep that in mind ^^

Since I dont have hindsight of it yet, then I'm hoping my foresight's 20/20 too...

My number one rule would be to not be afraid to speak up about anything that is uncomfortable, etc. You can of course always move up to telling him what you actually want ;)... but start with the baby steps. I know so many women who found sex to be genuinely unpleasant for a long time because they thought it was just "supposed" to be that way.

I don't know about anyone else, but I had been dry humping, mutually diddling, performing and receiving acts of oral gratification - and just about every other possible variation that did not involve genital/genital contact - for *years* before I finally got to play hide the salami.

By the time I did the actual horizontal bop, it was, if you'll pardon the phrase, anticlimactic. At any rate, I was scarcely "inexperienced", so perhaps we need a more concise definition of the word "virgin"?

Yeah, my first time actually "doing it" was lame. Plus, we had been dry humping for like 2 hours, so the relevant bits were essentially anesthetized.

"Relevant bits essentially anesthetized". LJ, I think we have a winning User Title, here. :D

I was one of those "nice guys" that took the meaning of the word "no" to really mean "no." My HS girlfriend and I would indulge in heavy petting for an hour or so. Never took the "plunge." Dammit! I was 22 the first time and it wasn't my HS girlfriend. We broke up after she graduated.

Yep, nice guys get the shaft. Then girls get all bitchy when the asshole treats her like shit and they do it again without learning anything.

I listen to what she tells me, not neccessarily what she says. Just cause she SAYS no doesn't mean she means no. Though that can getchya into trouble...

Step one: forget everything you ever saw somebody do in a porno. No "Rocky the Stud" moves the first time out.

You never were a virgin, but could be in the future? Cool...

I was a virgin twice...you're not missing anything.

Reminds me of this Kevin Smith monolog

You *so* need that on a t-shirt, Maggie. :blush:

Hm, I just thought of a similar but not quite the same experience I could relate this too... I had my first kiss with someone I'm not going out with anymore, and I really regret it at this point. If I could I would start over on that bit, at least.

EDIT: MTP, you make me sick. You twisted, crazy, derranged loony.

Practice!
 

We all just need a Real Doll!

sometimes I scare myself

I have succeeded!

MTP "We all just need a Real Doll!" I think we found the perfect spouse for BM!! !! !!

You get what you give in this world.

Ask yourself what you want and do that on others. Very simple. Being a virgin isn't as important as being honest with yourself and others.

So, you want to be called, "Sally?" :confused:

lol...priceless

I wouldn't change a thing...i like knowing what I know...and I've enjoyed the experiences i've had.