Kenneth Schmitz: 1944-2010
 

My (step)dad, Ken Schmitz, passed away just after midnight this morning. He had lung cancer surgery in July and never recovered from the complications that arose after surgery.

My mother and father were only married 2 years, but my mom and Ken were married 29 years in August...they got married when I was 5. He was an alcoholic...he could be mentally abusive...he smoked 2 packs of cigarettes a day...he was short-tempered and stubborn at times.

He was also my dad. My father has never really ever stepped up to the plate...we currently haven't spoken in 16 years. Ken raised a child that wasn't his...he never tried to push me into anything, and encouraged me to do whatever it was I wanted to do. And he was always there for me when I needed him. He wasn't the affectionate type, but I always knew that he loved me as if I was his own flesh and blood.

We fought like cats and dogs when I was younger, but as we got older, we got along well. We didn't really talk a lot--Ken really wasn't a man of a lot of words--but we had a very good relationship, probably since I became an adult.

He wasn't my father, but he was definitely my dad. I love you, Dad...you're in a much better place now. Rest in peace...

Oh I am so sorry Sycamore. My condolences to you and to your Mum.

Syc, I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hugs to you, your mom, your brother.

My sympathies, Syc.

Sorry man. He sounded like a good guy with regular guy issues. My condolences.

Syc, what a lovely post.
Your affection for the real man who raised you is very touching.

A Father (as in the job, not in the DNA) does not have to be a perfect man. In fact I think it would be very hard to find a parent who was. But he earned your love and respect and I mourn his passing on your behalf.

Much love.

I'm sorry about your Dad but glad you had him in your life.

That's a tough hit man.

The world is a little bit worse because a good person has left it. Condolences sir.

That was a very nice tribute, sycamore.

May he live forever in your heart! Peace to you and your family.

Sorry for your loss, glad you were able to be there for him and your mom.

I'm so sorry, Syc. Peace be with you.

Sorry to hear the sad news, Syc. All the best to you.

A lovely tribute to your true dad, Syc. Hugs to you and your family.