New Intimacy Poll again
 

OK, I obviously had a brain fart and just closed the box rather than hit post or I am having a "beautiful mind" level deja vu.

So here goes again, this time with enhanced questions, for your pleasure(s)

This time you can vote multiple times so if you feel giving and receiving are both in the same category or whatever permutations you feel the need to create. I left the poll open for 69 days...

By the way this is about intimacy and not the legal or otherwise definition of what constitutes sex, sodomy, rum, or the lash. We're trying to look at whether men and women have different ideas about what is a more intimate act.

Smart ass thoughts come to mind, but I voted it's all the same instead.

I know some people didn't like Clouds comment in the other thread, but I really think what she said was right. for me it was anyway. Being intimate with someone is just that. If you're swapping fluids, it doesn't matter where they're going or where they came from, for me, it's all the same. All part of the same thing.

I guess what I'm saying is I don't feel any more or less reserved about either.

How could anyone not like Cloud's comment, this is about personal preference and that's her's... and your's. That's cool.

I thought it was about what was more intimate not personal preference.

I didn't really like the word intimate. I mean, when I think of intimate I think of lingere', candlelight dinners, midnight walks on the beach.

When I think of sex I think hot sweaty and face to face which is my preference but it's ALL pretty intimate when you are touching or being touched no matter what the preference.

Using your definition of intimate, which could also be called romantic, he's asking if we think any of the oral combinations is more or less intimate, than the hot, sweaty, slam-bam-thank-you-sir/m'am.

Or does oral, giving or receiving, make you less apt to be thinking about the ceiling needs painting.

I never think about the ceiling. I strive for la petite mort.


...and if there is oral sex it doesn't preclude the other.

I may or may not kick them out in the morning.


Just a thought.
My last boyfriend used to cook breakfast and dinner for me. I thought that was intimate.
Sex with him, not so much. I would have kept him for companionship, just for that intimacy alone if it wasn't for his basket full of presumptions.

Owww, use 'em up and throw 'em out, Ms Cruella. :lol:

I try not too. :(

I stay alone for the good of mankind. :)

My, uh, 'going downtown' is just part of the whole thing. If she don't wanna 'go there', that's fine. But I gotta. I just gotta.

For clarification, again, what we're looking for here is intimacy in terms of connectedness. Some people think or say "Eating ain't cheating" implying that sort of thing doesn't really count because, presumably "your heart isn't in it"

So what I'm really wondering is if, for example, you could have oral sex with someone you didn't really care about, but not genital sex-- because that is special or vice versa.

I've read and heard a number of differing opinions on the topic and I'm curious how you all think.

WTF? "genital sex" as opposed to what--mental sex?

if I got down on my knees and gave someone oral sex . . . without kissing or removing clothes or otherwise touching, that's not intimate.

But I would never do that (unless it would be with a regular partner), so it's all intimate to me.

Cloud, your mouth is not a genital. Genital sex obviously means genital to genital.

there pretty much has to be some genitals in there somewhere.