Women?? Do I really need One.....

JBKlyde · 03-13-2012, 04:10 PM

I dunno, I've never had a relationship last more than 6 months and I've only had about 6 relationships. I'm 33 now. The woman I fell in love with is now married and she HATES me. So LADIES what do you want out of a relationship??? I haven't a clue except that I cannot provide diamonds and a picture perfect marriage. I am an artist so if you choose me we can have fun painting and drawing and if you are clever enough we can get into the art scene and have fun with that crowd. (They are usually more accepting of disabled people anyway) So someone clue me in what are the "terms" of your acceptance??

Blueflare · 03-13-2012, 05:19 PM

First, women are not mystical beings, they're just people, like you.
Second, not all women are the same. Actions and desires are not defined by gender. Some women want some things, some want other things.

DanaC · 03-13-2012, 05:19 PM

Well....not talking like a twat is pretty high on the list

:p

Sorry. Couldn't resist.

Honestly, there's no magic formula, nor a secret coda with which to unlock the female psyche. No woman here can tell you what 'women' are looking for. Only what they look for, and what they look for is individual to them, not something that can then be applied to women generally.

In my experience, women want pretty much the same things men want from relationships. Oh, there's tendencies for women to prioritise different aspects than men, but overall, guys and gals, not really that different from each other. Some women want commitment and some don't. Same as men. Some women want to lose themselves in a relationship, others want to draw sharp lines within it and maintain a strong sense of individualism. Same as men. Some women are helter skelter and drawn to calm and organised men. Some women are super organised and drawn to free spirits. Same as men.

Figure out what you want from a relationship and then see if you can find someone to match with whom there's a spark. That's it. That's all you can really do.

[eta] well put, Blueflare

plthijinx · 03-13-2012, 06:32 PM

dude i've been single now for what? i dunno, about a month and a half now after a brief stint with a chick that i left 'cause she couldn't keep her legs together. and no, not just with me. so anyway, i'm enjoying being single. i get to do what i want, when i want and how i want. lately though i've been real busy bringing work home for an ongoing engineering project so either that or shooting zippyt in call of duty has occupied my time. now lets jump back a couple weeks. some of you know that i play poker on a regular basis in a poker league. this chick, she's 21 mind you, starts showing interest in me. she tells me that her b/f, err ex-b/f, broke up with her. rumor around the league is she's nuts. b/f is 54 or 55, i can't remember. anyway, i let paul, my roommate take my truck home that night when he busted out early and i asked lucy if she'd give me a lift home. that girl tried to cling on me like stink on shit. yep. i turned it down. she kept trying over the next few days and finally i just flat out told her, you want to be friends? fine. i can be friends. but there is no hope for a relationship here. then day before last i went to my weekly venue and there's Rusty, her ex-b/f errr now b/f. he came up to me and said, dude! i thought you were going to take her off my hands! i was going to say thank you! i told him not only no but HAYULL no. he had told me that she'd hit him a couple weeks before so there isn't any way in hell i'd touch that. you're a new dweller so you don't know my history. i'm a bit, how shall i say it, bias? i went on a hiatus from society courtesy of a crazy chick that used to beat me all the time. not to mention the mental abuse. point is i guess, you don't have to be with someone to be happy. first off though, you have to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with someone else and share the feelings. i could go on and on and on. but i digress. embrace your situation right now. relax and focus on yourself. now. that said, i'mona go have a beer and eat supper. cheers!

JBKlyde · 03-13-2012, 07:28 PM

Yea see I'm just not socially fit enough to have a relationship. All that "jibberish" it's just not my style... I guess I'm the quiet type but when I do talk I usually stick my foot in my mouth..

monster · 03-13-2012, 10:41 PM

Whether you need one or not is irrelevant if they don't need you.

footfootfoot · 03-14-2012, 12:42 PM

Can you cook, clean, and iron?

infinite monkey · 03-14-2012, 12:46 PM

And rub one out?

JBKlyde · 03-14-2012, 01:26 PM

Quote:

Can you cook, clean, and iron?

yea but I'm not very good at it.

regular.joe · 03-14-2012, 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by infinite monkey

And rub one out?

Infinitely more fun to rub one out with a partner.

infinite monkey · 03-14-2012, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by regular.joe

Infinitely more fun to rub one out with a partner.

Especially if you're not very good at it.

footfootfoot · 03-14-2012, 02:32 PM

"...OK, I'm gonna show you this just one more time."

JBKlyde · 03-14-2012, 04:34 PM

Quote:

And rub one out?

If that's a Dick Tracey quote, then the answer is NO.

If there is some hidden meaning I'd like to know, cause your making me think the mob is after me.

HungLikeJesus · 03-14-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JBKlyde

... I guess I'm the quiet type but when I do talk I usually stick my foot in my mouth..

At least you're flexible.

Trilby · 03-14-2012, 05:13 PM

Speak for yourselves, ladies! I AM a mystical, special being!

03-13-2012, 04:10 PM	#1
JBKlyde Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Encrypted Into an AmpitheaterWall Posts: 1,722	Women?? Do I really need One..... I dunno, I've never had a relationship last more than 6 months and I've only had about 6 relationships. I'm 33 now. The woman I fell in love with is now married and she HATES me. So LADIES what do you want out of a relationship??? I haven't a clue except that I cannot provide diamonds and a picture perfect marriage. I am an artist so if you choose me we can have fun painting and drawing and if you are clever enough we can get into the art scene and have fun with that crowd. (They are usually more accepting of disabled people anyway) So someone clue me in what are the "terms" of your acceptance??

03-13-2012, 05:19 PM	#2
Blueflare Hand-of-Kindness Extender Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Suffolk, UK Posts: 130	First, women are not mystical beings, they're just people, like you. Second, not all women are the same. Actions and desires are not defined by gender. Some women want some things, some want other things. __________________ "Never trust quotes you find on the internet." - Abraham Lincoln

03-13-2012, 06:32 PM	#4
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	dude i've been single now for what? i dunno, about a month and a half now after a brief stint with a chick that i left 'cause she couldn't keep her legs together. and no, not just with me. so anyway, i'm enjoying being single. i get to do what i want, when i want and how i want. lately though i've been real busy bringing work home for an ongoing engineering project so either that or shooting zippyt in call of duty has occupied my time. now lets jump back a couple weeks. some of you know that i play poker on a regular basis in a poker league. this chick, she's 21 mind you, starts showing interest in me. she tells me that her b/f, err ex-b/f, broke up with her. rumor around the league is she's nuts. b/f is 54 or 55, i can't remember. anyway, i let paul, my roommate take my truck home that night when he busted out early and i asked lucy if she'd give me a lift home. that girl tried to cling on me like stink on shit. yep. i turned it down. she kept trying over the next few days and finally i just flat out told her, you want to be friends? fine. i can be friends. but there is no hope for a relationship here. then day before last i went to my weekly venue and there's Rusty, her ex-b/f errr now b/f. he came up to me and said, dude! i thought you were going to take her off my hands! i was going to say thank you! i told him not only no but HAYULL no. he had told me that she'd hit him a couple weeks before so there isn't any way in hell i'd touch that. you're a new dweller so you don't know my history. i'm a bit, how shall i say it, bias? i went on a hiatus from society courtesy of a crazy chick that used to beat me all the time. not to mention the mental abuse. point is i guess, you don't have to be with someone to be happy. first off though, you have to be happy with yourself in order to be happy with someone else and share the feelings. i could go on and on and on. but i digress. embrace your situation right now. relax and focus on yourself. now. that said, i'mona go have a beer and eat supper. cheers! __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

03-13-2012, 10:41 PM	#6
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Whether you need one or not is irrelevant if they don't need you. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

03-14-2012, 12:42 PM	#7
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Can you cook, clean, and iron? __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-13-2012, 07:28 PM	#5
JBKlyde Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Encrypted Into an AmpitheaterWall Posts: 1,722	Yea see I'm just not socially fit enough to have a relationship. All that "jibberish" it's just not my style... I guess I'm the quiet type but when I do talk I usually stick my foot in my mouth..

03-14-2012, 12:46 PM	#8
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	And rub one out?

03-14-2012, 02:32 PM	#12
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	"...OK, I'm gonna show you this just one more time." __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

03-14-2012, 05:13 PM	#15
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Speak for yourselves, ladies! I AM a mystical, special being! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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