What's Painful

[Trilby]

Ya know what's painful, I mean REALLY painful? Knowing that you are not a brilliant person
**. Oh, and spare me, all you superior Cellar noids, if you THINK you're brilliant it's only because you haven't MET the RIGHT people yet. I have been reading and reading and writing and writing and Baked Alaska'd in other people's essence of brilliance-ness and I have to tell you: I am in awe of them and I wish I was like them, but I'm not and I never, ever will be and laydees and gentlemen--THAT is painful.

On the OTHER hand, I have met people who have been only one swing out of the tree. So. I ask you. Is it all perception and education, or is it really true that some are more equal than others?

**caveat--i never thought I was brilliant, but, i thought I was middling good. And, I'm not.

[skysidhe]

I would prefer someone like you who can come up with witty onliners. Many times I admire your quotes more than any other user.

@ one swing out of the tree

[Happy Monkey]

Twins are more equal than others.

[Spexxvet]

What's really painful is getting a needle in the roof of your mouth, or jumping out a window and catching your eye on a nail. Don't confuse intelligence with education. I know doctors and lawyers who have lots of education, but can't think themselves out of a paper bag. They know all about doctoring and lawyering, but can't figure out how to fold a tarp, know what I mean? Coming across a new problem and being able to solve it is much more important (IMHO) than studying and regurgitating facts. And most of them don't come across nearly as sexy as you do.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Don't confuse intelligence with education.

And don't confuse either with knowledge.

After posting that I looked down at the cookie;
"I never let my schooling get in the way of my education." --Mark Twain

[wolf]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Don't confuse intelligence with education.

And don't confuse either with knowledge.

After posting that I looked down at the cookie;
"I never let my schooling get in the way of my education." --Mark Twain

All right! The Cookie AI is back up!!

Right now what's painful is my feet, because I managed to forget to apply sunscreen to them when I went outside for two days in a row.

My lesson, it seems, is that a high IQ does not save yourself from your own stupidity.

Right now, bri, you are surrounded by kids. They think they are smarter than you, and project that ... but it's all show. Just because someone is well versed in being pretentious does not actually make them smart.

[Spexxvet]

Originally Posted by wolf

Right now what's painful is my feet, because I managed to forget to apply sunscreen to them when I went outside for two days in a row.
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Try Ocean Lotion. It's like thin jello made of aloe and lanacaine. It really helps sunburn. Really.

[Trilby]

nobody--NOBody--takes my concerns seriously.

[skysidhe]

Originally Posted by Brianna

nobody--NOBody--takes my concerns seriously.

Dear Bri,

Please don't waste your time wishing and wanting. I hope you get what you want but in the off chance it's not comming just accept it that it may not come. Some people don't get what they want. I hope you do.

I have recently learned that nobodys problems are more important than their own and you can ask for understanding and a warm compassionate arm but nobody can ever really understand. That is pain. I know.

Can I join this pity party ?because I really need one too.

My short story. I have spent most of most of my adult life caring for others who cannot take care of themselves.I have waisted time loving people I never should have and found myself alone for no other reason that to have spent it on others that is not pain. I never begrudged that. yet...

BUT when I fell ill and having to still take care of people, get up go to work in order to pay the bills feeling like a walking, hurting zombie. To smile and say hi, how ya doing and all the while to know that if I died in my sleep there isn't a soul in the world who would care except for those who still cannot take care of themselves. That wasn't really the painful part either but it's getting close.

The painful part comes when you lay your head on your pillow at night starring into that dark abyss of ' nobody really gives a shit' That is pain. The hard facts. I decided Life for some is a bit'ch then you die . Get over it.

*hug* sorry

[MaggieL]

Originally Posted by Brianna

So. I ask you. Is it all perception and education, or is it really true that some are more equal than others?

The latter, I think. There are a couple of people that unfailingly make me feel dumb by comparison. I'm encouraged by the fact that there seem to be only a few of them. They're educated, but I think they just took more advantage of the education than others; I also know PhDs who are genuine dimbulbs.

And one of those people who makes me feel dumb is my boss. That's a unique challenge. :-)

[glatt]

I think the answer depends on who you surround yourself with.

Hang out with people at a university, and you're likely to feel dumb once in a while. Hang out at a prison, and you will feel a bit smarter.

I've felt both smart and dumb at various times.

I think the key is to surround yourself with people a little smarter than yourself so you feel chanllanged to be the best you can be, but not with people who are so smart you get discouraged.

[bluecuracao]

Somehow, I've managed to surround myself with smartasses.

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by glatt

I think the answer depends on who you surround yourself with.

Hang out with people at a university, and you're likely to feel dumb once in a while. Hang out at a prison, and you will feel a bit smarter.

I've felt both smart and dumb at various times.

I think the key is to surround yourself with people a little smarter than yourself so you feel chanllanged to be the best you can be, but not with people who are so smart you get discouraged.

I go thru that sort of thing a lot at different jobs. I often choose the most challenging situation. But, now I am a contractor at an all-star company full of brilliant and arrogant people that are often nasty to each other. I took this week off and I am not going back. I will write an email as such.

I interviewed at three companies this week. I had particularly good chemistry with one group and they plan to make me an offer early next week. Two of the guys worked with two guys I currently work with. In the interview we agreed not to talk about the other two at the arrogant company and that in itself was telling.

In the interview, talking at the whiteboard, we developed mutual respect. I'd like to work at a place where people are smart and demanding, but nice about it.

[xoxoxoBruce]

RS, I didn't think you were still contracting. Didn't you get fired and then hired as the new boss of the guy that fired you?

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

RS, I didn't think you were still contracting. Didn't you get fired and then hired as the new boss of the guy that fired you?

My story at this company is strange. While I was contracting, I was considered for an individual contributor position and a project director with managers reporting to me. At some point we agreed to drop the director position and they continued looking for a VP of Engineering. Then, the one manager fired me and another manager wanted me to work for his team, so I did a lateral move.

Now that the product is launched and has been running for six weeks, the revenue is much lower than expected. Part of the criteria for creating a new perm position for me is this revenue. I don't think it will happen. And, I think the business has certain flaws. So, I really need to move on.

Ironically, the firing manager cited early quality problems with my software, yet after it has run and monitored the company's production servers for six weeks, no issues were reported to the tracking system. My new rule is Never work for a Manager Half Your Age, Never.