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Old 10-11-2012, 09:29 AM   #151
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This post is for the dunces like me that don't have a social clue....

Huffington Post
Hollye Harrington Jacobs
10/11/12

What to Say (Or Not to Say) to Someone With Breast Cancer

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Because I'm seeing so much pink this month, I find myself
thinking about all things related to FBC (f-bomb breast cancer),
both from a personal and a global perspective.
It's amazing how a few (million) pink ribbons reactivate the memory of experiences (and f-bombs!).

One of the things that comes to mind is:
What to say or (WTF) not to say to someone with FBC.
Here's the thing: It's hard to be a friend to someone who has FBC.
It just is. I know. I really do. I can't tell you the number of times people have asked me:
What can I do? How should I be? What should I say?

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Old 10-11-2012, 09:58 AM   #152
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Bonnie is through the surgery People who can't cook are buying pizza and food delivery gift cards because she has 4 teenagers.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:00 AM   #153
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That's great! Sending warm wishes that way...
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:01 AM   #154
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It's the Breast-cancer awerness pink-out swim meet tonight, a local derby with the school Hebe should have gone to. Fortunately there were no t-shirst left in my size so I was not faced with the dilemma. And beest opted to fall on the sword. My hero. I'm very very very much aware of it, thank you. stupid disease. still. We're kicking it in the cunt, one by one.
/rambling. It's a beautiful day, friend is alive.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:07 AM   #155
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That post makes me smile. Go Beest! What a good man. What good people. Your friend is very lucky to have you all in her life, and women everywhere are lucky there are people like you.
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:15 AM   #156
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people who refuse to wear pink?
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:22 AM   #157
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I thought he was wearing the pink?
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Old 10-11-2012, 10:36 AM   #158
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Old 10-11-2012, 12:07 PM   #159
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@lamplighter - nice link, thanks. Anyone who finds and shares something like that is neither a dunce nor socially clueless.
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Old 10-12-2012, 08:54 AM   #160
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speaking of wearing pink - my mom had to go to the ER friday and the paramedics (all dudes) were wearing pink T-shirts with the breast cancer ribbon. Pretty funny.
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Old 10-14-2012, 05:12 AM   #161
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i find it difficult to express my feelings when a friend has cancer. i just try to let them know i care and will be there for them. sounds lame, but i so awkward with it
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Old 10-14-2012, 06:49 AM   #162
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Sarge, that isn't lame at all. People know when you mean what you say. Far better to say less, and mean it, than to go on at length about how this isn't a problem at all because treatments are so good now that no one dies of breast cancer (they do - just not in the first 3 months), and how lucky the person is to be getting 'new boobs for free', and other faux pas.

Knowing that someone means what he says and that you really can contact him if needed is better than rubies. Don't worry about the awkwardness.
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Old 10-14-2012, 09:39 AM   #163
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Sometimes the best response is, FUCK CANCER.
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Old 09-25-2014, 06:30 PM   #164
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her 5 year anniversary from surgery is next week. All is well at last check-up
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Old 09-25-2014, 08:23 PM   #165
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Great news!
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