What do you look like RFN!?? - Page 191

monster · 04-21-2009, 09:54 PM

You are? who would've guessed?

:p

I'm not a blonde fan. I'm especially not a bleach blonde fan. But most of all, I get really pissed when people say "you shouldn't do that because I think this looks better on you". Those people can fuck right off. It's about how it makes you feel, not about how others perceive you. Just like the AA "fake it" thing. If you feel good, people will perceive you as looking good. Bright hair makes some of us feel good. unfortunately, the "how you feel" bit is lost in pictures posted on the internet.

weird-colored hair is FUCKING AWESOME. Especially when you are depressed and not feeling in control of much of the rest of your life and particularly your body, and when you want people to stop pigeon-holing you by how you look or what you do and when you just need to MAKE A FUCKING STATEMENT....

oh sorry, was i ranting?

monster · 04-21-2009, 09:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Elspode

I like the blonde as well. .

You're a bloke. that's like saying you like tits.

jinx · 04-21-2009, 10:00 PM

She's got you there Patrick...

Beest · 04-21-2009, 10:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

You're a bloke. that's like saying you like tits.

I don't prefer blondes ( go figure), maybe I'm not a Gentleman.

Tits on the other hand...
or the first hand, or both .

monster · 04-21-2009, 10:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beest

I don't prefer blondes ( go figure), maybe I'm not a Gentleman.

you have long hair. AND fingernails

weirdo.

Aliantha · 04-21-2009, 11:16 PM

Ahhh...yep, you were ranting monster.

I don't think I said anything about not putting other colours in her hair though...just expressing my opinion on which pic I liked the best. I thought I was being very complimentary actually. I'm sure Cherry will do what she wants with her hair regardless of what anyone here says...and so she should. It's her head.

eta: OK just went and read my post again. I see that I did offer to send a product to help keep it blonde, so that could be taken as me telling her not to put other colours in, but surely it's obvious I was just responding to Cherry saying it was brassy?

xoxoxoBruce · 04-22-2009, 12:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

weird-colored hair is FUCKING AWESOME. Especially when you are depressed and not feeling in control of much of the rest of your life and particularly your body, and when you want people to stop pigeon-holing you by how you look or what you do and when you just need to MAKE A FUCKING STATEMENT....

Yeah! Right on! You go girl!

But... pouring those nasty chemicals on your head several times a week is not healthy. Making a statement does not mean writing a book. :p

Sundae · 04-22-2009, 04:10 AM

The nasty bit is the blonde - I have to bleach my hair with peroxide to get it that colour. The natural bit is the vegetable dye, which washes out slowly over a period of about 10 washes, because it doesn't fully permeate the shaft of the hair. I can get approx four applications of the brighter colours on top of one session of bleach - I only rebleach to match my roots.

Personally, I think that picture was a fluke and would have looked good regardles of hair colour. I know I personally like it better than any other photo I've taken of myself in the last year - it really cheered me up when I came in and got a look at it full size. In fact if Dad didn't have a low quality printer, I'd have it on photo paper and in a frame right now

But Monster is right. I am going through a phase of wanting to show off my plumage. It does make me feel as if I am an individual who has opinions to be respected, who has a right to be noticed, who isn't some fat depressive who melts into the background in a pool of woe and is a burden on society. I'm working on the reasons for those feelings with health care professionals. I'm working on being a blot on the landscape every day, and every day I'm taking up less room.

So for now, I'll make my statement about who I want to be via my hair, at some point it might just become a badge, in which case I'll take it off and make my statement via my personality. On the other hand I've experimented with hair colours and styles since I was 11 and was allowed to use a wash-in wash-out colour during school holidays. I might stick with bold/ metallic colours for a long time. Depends where my mood takes me.

And of course i realise not everyone likes bright colours. I'm not vain enough to think that everyone is looking at my hair and wishing they could have it too. Well, excepting most 10 year old girls. If more people thought it was as great as Monster and I do, more people would have their hair that colour. And I'd probably be ice blonde as a way of standing out.

Genuine thanks for the compliments - I don't post here to get them, I post here to share, and therefore I appreciate them all the more, even if it's for something I have decided against.
And thanks for the offer Ali, but I'll pass this time.

TheMercenary · 04-22-2009, 06:57 AM

My compliment was not a dig at anything. I was just commenting.

monster · 04-22-2009, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

But... pouring those nasty chemicals on your head several times a week is not healthy.

Several times a week? hair colors have come a long way since your time, granddad! although they had cochineal even way back then... :p

xoxoxoBruce · 04-22-2009, 11:14 PM

Well duh, not when you post several different colors in the same week. Try to keep up, will ya?

Juniper · 04-23-2009, 10:03 AM

SG and monster (and anyone else), help me out. My 13 year old daughter (very light blonde, naturally) wants to dye a stripe or two of bright red in her hair. I don't have a problem with it, even though "washes out in 10 weeks" is a joke when your hair is that light. It's really more like 10 MONTHS. Trust me on that, we did it with purple a couple years ago.

But dad says NO. Says the old usual stuff, "you're pretty like you are..." and "you're too young."

Hogwash, I say. It's not about being already pretty, it's about doing something interesting. She's too young for kissing and dating, but hair color? One stripe, not her whole head! If that's the craziest thing she does, we're in real good shape.

Got any pithy quotes I can use on him?

(truth be told, we're probably gonna do it anyway.

)

DD a couple years ago with purple:

Juniper · 04-23-2009, 10:18 AM

Oh and I forgot to add, SG, I like the blonde too. It makes you look so *healthy.*

I am planning to color my own today, actually. I think I'll go a bit lighter.

Spexxvet · 04-23-2009, 10:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Juniper

Got any pithy quotes I can use on him?

Tell him she's getting a tattoo and peircing! :p

SteveDallas · 04-23-2009, 11:32 AM

Well speaking as a father, drama over hairstyles is just something I'd rather my wife and daughter work out on their own. I wouldn't dream of contradicting any decision my wife made in that arena.

I'd stop short of saying any husband who did weigh in was stupid for doing so, but... well, what can I say, most men are clueless about these things.

04-21-2009, 09:54 PM	#2851
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	You are? who would've guessed? :p I'm not a blonde fan. I'm especially not a bleach blonde fan. But most of all, I get really pissed when people say "you shouldn't do that because I think this looks better on you". Those people can fuck right off. It's about how it makes you feel, not about how others perceive you. Just like the AA "fake it" thing. If you feel good, people will perceive you as looking good. Bright hair makes some of us feel good. unfortunately, the "how you feel" bit is lost in pictures posted on the internet. weird-colored hair is FUCKING AWESOME. Especially when you are depressed and not feeling in control of much of the rest of your life and particularly your body, and when you want people to stop pigeon-holing you by how you look or what you do and when you just need to MAKE A FUCKING STATEMENT.... oh sorry, was i ranting? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

04-21-2009, 10:00 PM	#2853
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	She's got you there Patrick... __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

04-21-2009, 11:16 PM	#2856
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Ahhh...yep, you were ranting monster. I don't think I said anything about not putting other colours in her hair though...just expressing my opinion on which pic I liked the best. I thought I was being very complimentary actually. I'm sure Cherry will do what she wants with her hair regardless of what anyone here says...and so she should. It's her head. eta: OK just went and read my post again. I see that I did offer to send a product to help keep it blonde, so that could be taken as me telling her not to put other colours in, but surely it's obvious I was just responding to Cherry saying it was brassy? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

04-22-2009, 04:10 AM	#2858
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	The nasty bit is the blonde - I have to bleach my hair with peroxide to get it that colour. The natural bit is the vegetable dye, which washes out slowly over a period of about 10 washes, because it doesn't fully permeate the shaft of the hair. I can get approx four applications of the brighter colours on top of one session of bleach - I only rebleach to match my roots. Personally, I think that picture was a fluke and would have looked good regardles of hair colour. I know I personally like it better than any other photo I've taken of myself in the last year - it really cheered me up when I came in and got a look at it full size. In fact if Dad didn't have a low quality printer, I'd have it on photo paper and in a frame right now But Monster is right. I am going through a phase of wanting to show off my plumage. It does make me feel as if I am an individual who has opinions to be respected, who has a right to be noticed, who isn't some fat depressive who melts into the background in a pool of woe and is a burden on society. I'm working on the reasons for those feelings with health care professionals. I'm working on being a blot on the landscape every day, and every day I'm taking up less room. So for now, I'll make my statement about who I want to be via my hair, at some point it might just become a badge, in which case I'll take it off and make my statement via my personality. On the other hand I've experimented with hair colours and styles since I was 11 and was allowed to use a wash-in wash-out colour during school holidays. I might stick with bold/ metallic colours for a long time. Depends where my mood takes me. And of course i realise not everyone likes bright colours. I'm not vain enough to think that everyone is looking at my hair and wishing they could have it too. Well, excepting most 10 year old girls. If more people thought it was as great as Monster and I do, more people would have their hair that colour. And I'd probably be ice blonde as a way of standing out. Genuine thanks for the compliments - I don't post here to get them, I post here to share, and therefore I appreciate them all the more, even if it's for something I have decided against. And thanks for the offer Ali, but I'll pass this time. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

04-22-2009, 06:57 AM	#2859
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	My compliment was not a dig at anything. I was just commenting. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

04-22-2009, 11:14 PM	#2861
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Well duh, not when you post several different colors in the same week. Try to keep up, will ya? __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

04-23-2009, 10:03 AM	#2862
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	SG and monster (and anyone else), help me out. My 13 year old daughter (very light blonde, naturally) wants to dye a stripe or two of bright red in her hair. I don't have a problem with it, even though "washes out in 10 weeks" is a joke when your hair is that light. It's really more like 10 MONTHS. Trust me on that, we did it with purple a couple years ago. But dad says NO. Says the old usual stuff, "you're pretty like you are..." and "you're too young." Hogwash, I say. It's not about being already pretty, it's about doing something interesting. She's too young for kissing and dating, but hair color? One stripe, not her whole head! If that's the craziest thing she does, we're in real good shape. Got any pithy quotes I can use on him? (truth be told, we're probably gonna do it anyway. ) DD a couple years ago with purple: Last edited by Juniper; 04-23-2009 at 10:13 AM.

04-23-2009, 10:18 AM	#2863
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Oh and I forgot to add, SG, I like the blonde too. It makes you look so healthy. I am planning to color my own today, actually. I think I'll go a bit lighter.

04-23-2009, 11:32 AM	#2865
SteveDallas Your Bartender Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Philly Burbs, PA Posts: 7,651	Well speaking as a father, drama over hairstyles is just something I'd rather my wife and daughter work out on their own. I wouldn't dream of contradicting any decision my wife made in that arena. I'd stop short of saying any husband who did weigh in was stupid for doing so, but... well, what can I say, most men are clueless about these things.

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