07-09-2012, 12:40 PM | #46 |
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UT, could it get better living apart, or is this final, no more "us"?
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07-09-2012, 12:48 PM | #47 |
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So sorry to hear this, UT. I know it hurts.
I hope time is your friend and that you end up in even better shape than when the relationship began. I think that power lies with you...big hugs!!
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07-09-2012, 12:59 PM | #48 |
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That is great Glinda, I appreciate it!
Spexx I dunno. I doubt it. She has been pretty miserable and difficult for the second half of our relationship. Part of my love for her was that she was someone who would not ask me to change. It turned out that was just a ground rule she accepted. And so she would be mad at me all the time and miserable and not really say why, just hint around it. This was a much worse approach for both of us. Goddammit I let her miserable kids live here and help wreck the place without giving anything back. Clarity is setting in. |
07-09-2012, 01:03 PM | #49 |
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Sorry, man.
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07-09-2012, 02:29 PM | #50 |
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Clarity IS setting in and more will come. More will be revealed. And I love the 'be the cake' thing, too.
I KNEW I was going to die of heartbreak when T. left me nearly twenty years ago. We have a son together and thus I knew what he was up to in his life. I would NOT have wanted to become what T. became; what he is now. I am very thankful that I am no longer with him but for the first, oh, eight years I thought I was going to die. *hugs* More clarity. More cake.
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07-09-2012, 03:49 PM | #51 |
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MORE CAKE! YAY!
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07-09-2012, 07:34 PM | #52 |
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Break ups suck. Sorry you have to go thru this, UT. Ftankly, it sounds like she didn't have all HER shit together, so why should she be down on you?
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07-10-2012, 09:02 AM | #53 |
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I'm very sorry UT.
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07-10-2012, 12:33 PM | #54 |
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"But here's the good part: the next woman I hook up with is going to downright adore me, worship me, respect me, praise me and love me, because you people tell me I deserve it, and I believe you, and I'm never ever ever going to make this mistake again. Look forward to that story when I write in in 2009." -- Undertoad, 10/11/2003, previous divorce thread
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07-10-2012, 03:55 PM | #55 |
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You can still be proud of the fact you did great things for both your ex-roommates. The first, getting her out of her shell to bloom. For J, helping her keep it together through a very trying time with her kids, plus helping the kids get their shit in one sock. You gave as good, or better, than you got.
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We have to go back, Kate!
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Also, 8 years is hardly a failed relationship. Just one that has run its course. Sometimes that's how long they last.
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07-10-2012, 07:32 PM | #57 |
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Very sorry to hear that. Not knowing anything about the situation I'll leave off of any platitudes.
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07-10-2012, 07:37 PM | #58 |
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platitudes: Platypuses with attitudes
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07-10-2012, 08:58 PM | #59 |
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Ah, platypii. One of God's little jokes.
The look like they were put together by first year engineering students don't they, poor buggars.
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07-10-2012, 11:34 PM | #60 |
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Im sorry, UT!
He is a douche!! I was always willing to hit on you, but you were attached n all....you know....Im an easy bit of fluff........ Truely though, I am sorry you are going through this. We love you shit n all. |
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