Here We Go Again... - Page 6

Griff · 04-16-2012, 05:33 AM

Sorry its a rough one Ali.

Sundae · 04-16-2012, 12:15 PM

Nature's way of telling you she's your last go-round Ali.
But yeah, /\ WHS/\.

Hang in there (and tell her the same).

Aliantha · 04-16-2012, 07:09 PM

Thanks guys.

It'll be fine I'm sure.

Aliantha · 04-20-2012, 01:27 AM

I had my first hospital appointment today.

They want me to go for psychological assessment.

They are worried that I'm developing ante-natal depression.

I think it's just normal hormones and having been sick. It's natural not to be feeling on top of the world.

Anyway, I guess the psychologist will decide whether their suspicions are true.

Clodfobble · 04-20-2012, 10:30 AM

It's hard to be objective when, like you say, the hormones are coursing through your veins. Ante-natal depression is common, and would be especially understandable given all the stress you're under. I'm glad you're going into it with an open mind; better to have it checked out, just like any other risk factor. How much longer before they tell you the gender? I don't know about you, but for me knowing the gender always alleviated stress, just because now I had something specific to plan for, you know?

Aliantha · 04-20-2012, 05:55 PM

Yeah, just a couple of weeks for that Clod. I'm looking forward to finding out, and yes, I do feel better as all those types of variables are ticked off.

I know I don't feel as emotionally strong as I need to, but I don't think I'm actually depressed. If I am, it's nowhere near as bad as it was after I had Max.

classicman · 04-20-2012, 10:36 PM

IIRC, that was quite a difficult time for you, right?

Aliantha · 04-21-2012, 03:57 AM

Yeah that's right classic. They put me on zoloft which really helped. I have been concerned that I'd go down the same path again after the baby was born. It never occurred to me that it might happen before.

Oh well, we'll see how it goes.

classicman · 04-21-2012, 10:31 AM

good luck!

Aliantha · 05-10-2012, 06:06 PM

Well, I'm at the half way mark now. I will have a scan next week to determine the sex (hopefully).

I seem to be mostly over the sickness now which is a blessing. I still get a bit woozy and have the odd hurl, but mostly I'm pretty good. I was starting to feel pretty normal until the last day or so when I started getting a cold the kids have all had. I'm sure I'll survive it, although it's annoying that it's come just as I'm feeling a bit better.

Haven't heard from the hospital about being depressed. I don't really think I am. I just don't feel that desolate about everything. I'm not going to ring them and follow up about it because I don't think there's any need. I guess if they were that worried they'd have called me by now. It's been a month.

Anyway, that's it for now. If there's anything exciting to tell you about the scan, I will do so. Personally, I think it's going to be a girl, but I'd rather just have another boy. oh well. We don't always get what we want.

monster · 05-10-2012, 08:37 PM

Your boys will all dote on a girl, you'lll have an easy parenthood......

Aliantha · 05-10-2012, 09:14 PM

If it's a girl, I'm hoping she'll just be a big nerd during her teenage years. I doubt I'll have the patience to deal with the usual teenage girl garbage when I'm in my 50's. lol I'll probably just ship her off to her big brothers and their wives (assuming they're settled by then).

monster · 05-10-2012, 09:20 PM

you won't have to. Way older brothers will see to that shit, I'm telling you. She won't feel the need to create to get attention. and she'll probably fancy their friends so be good as gold.

Aliantha · 05-10-2012, 09:26 PM

I bloody hope not. Most of them will be at least 15 years older than her! lol

monster · 05-10-2012, 09:46 PM

right. Safe as houses. She'll be interested, they wont.

04-16-2012, 05:33 AM	#76
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Sorry its a rough one Ali. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

04-16-2012, 12:15 PM	#77
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Nature's way of telling you she's your last go-round Ali. But yeah, /\ WHS/\. Hang in there (and tell her the same). __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

04-16-2012, 07:09 PM	#78
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Thanks guys. It'll be fine I'm sure. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

04-20-2012, 01:27 AM	#79
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I had my first hospital appointment today. They want me to go for psychological assessment. They are worried that I'm developing ante-natal depression. I think it's just normal hormones and having been sick. It's natural not to be feeling on top of the world. Anyway, I guess the psychologist will decide whether their suspicions are true. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

04-20-2012, 10:30 AM	#80
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	It's hard to be objective when, like you say, the hormones are coursing through your veins. Ante-natal depression is common, and would be especially understandable given all the stress you're under. I'm glad you're going into it with an open mind; better to have it checked out, just like any other risk factor. How much longer before they tell you the gender? I don't know about you, but for me knowing the gender always alleviated stress, just because now I had something specific to plan for, you know? __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

04-20-2012, 05:55 PM	#81
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yeah, just a couple of weeks for that Clod. I'm looking forward to finding out, and yes, I do feel better as all those types of variables are ticked off. I know I don't feel as emotionally strong as I need to, but I don't think I'm actually depressed. If I am, it's nowhere near as bad as it was after I had Max. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

04-20-2012, 10:36 PM	#82
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	IIRC, that was quite a difficult time for you, right? __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

04-21-2012, 03:57 AM	#83
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yeah that's right classic. They put me on zoloft which really helped. I have been concerned that I'd go down the same path again after the baby was born. It never occurred to me that it might happen before. Oh well, we'll see how it goes. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

04-21-2012, 10:31 AM	#84
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	good luck! __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

05-10-2012, 06:06 PM	#85
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Well, I'm at the half way mark now. I will have a scan next week to determine the sex (hopefully). I seem to be mostly over the sickness now which is a blessing. I still get a bit woozy and have the odd hurl, but mostly I'm pretty good. I was starting to feel pretty normal until the last day or so when I started getting a cold the kids have all had. I'm sure I'll survive it, although it's annoying that it's come just as I'm feeling a bit better. Haven't heard from the hospital about being depressed. I don't really think I am. I just don't feel that desolate about everything. I'm not going to ring them and follow up about it because I don't think there's any need. I guess if they were that worried they'd have called me by now. It's been a month. Anyway, that's it for now. If there's anything exciting to tell you about the scan, I will do so. Personally, I think it's going to be a girl, but I'd rather just have another boy. oh well. We don't always get what we want. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

05-10-2012, 08:37 PM	#86
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Your boys will all dote on a girl, you'lll have an easy parenthood...... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

05-10-2012, 09:14 PM	#87
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	If it's a girl, I'm hoping she'll just be a big nerd during her teenage years. I doubt I'll have the patience to deal with the usual teenage girl garbage when I'm in my 50's. lol I'll probably just ship her off to her big brothers and their wives (assuming they're settled by then). __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

05-10-2012, 09:20 PM	#88
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	you won't have to. Way older brothers will see to that shit, I'm telling you. She won't feel the need to create to get attention. and she'll probably fancy their friends so be good as gold. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

05-10-2012, 09:26 PM	#89
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I bloody hope not. Most of them will be at least 15 years older than her! lol __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

05-10-2012, 09:46 PM	#90
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	right. Safe as houses. She'll be interested, they wont. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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