My Father, 1949-2008

Pie · 06-26-2008, 09:56 PM

I had to write my father's obituary. I have never done something this painful in my life -- except watch him die.

http://www.journal.clltopics.org/200...kat-1949-2008/

monster · 06-26-2008, 10:05 PM

It's Perfect. I'm sorry for your loss.

jinx · 06-26-2008, 10:12 PM

I am so sorry Pie.

Clodfobble · 06-26-2008, 10:19 PM

It was beautiful, Pie. A very nice tribute. I hope your family begins to heal soon.

kerosene · 06-26-2008, 10:46 PM

Pie, the obituary is very moving. It made me wish I had met him, also. I am so sorry to hear this. Take care, lady.

Cloud · 06-26-2008, 11:02 PM

sounds like a wonderful man. Keep remembering him with love.

footfootfoot · 06-26-2008, 11:09 PM

Pie, he sounds like a wonderful and loving dad. It was a beautiful remembrance, I'm sorry for your loss.

lookout123 · 06-26-2008, 11:16 PM

I am so sorry Pie. hang in there, the cellar is with you.

morethanpretty · 06-26-2008, 11:28 PM

I'm sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a great man and that he left quite a legacy.

xoxoxoBruce · 06-27-2008, 12:09 AM

Add my condolences to the very long list, Pie. You done good, your Dad would be proud.

Crimson Ghost · 06-27-2008, 01:51 AM

My condolences on your loss.

nowhereman · 06-27-2008, 06:05 AM

That's beautiful. An obituary isn't just a "death notice" - it's an affirmation of their life, their accomplishments and the meaning that their life brought to their family and friends. Your Dad isn't gone from you - he will always be there in your heart. Peace to you and your family.

Sundae · 06-27-2008, 06:37 AM

Pie

So, so sorry you lost your father, and so young.
I know it's little consolation, but he managed to do so much with the short time he had, and touched so many lives. I hope even in your grief you can take a little comfort that he saw what was coming and went down fighting.

I am terrified of losing my father. I'd rather go first. But I know he'd hate that if I told him, so I don't.

That was a beautiful testament to his life. The best part is, I'm sure you haven't said anything in writing that you wish you'd said to him in person. He must have died knowing how much you love him, and how important he is to you.

Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Dylan Thomas

Undertoad · 06-27-2008, 07:08 AM

I'm so sorry Pie. You have memorialized him beautifully... I am tearing up a little at the loss of this clearly great man.

DucksNuts · 06-27-2008, 07:15 AM

I'm so sorry, Pie. What a gorgeous tribute to a wonderful man.

Sending positive thoughts your way luv.

06-26-2008, 09:56 PM	#1
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	My Father, 1949-2008 I had to write my father's obituary. I have never done something this painful in my life -- except watch him die. http://www.journal.clltopics.org/200...kat-1949-2008/ Attached Images __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

06-26-2008, 10:05 PM	#2
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	It's Perfect. I'm sorry for your loss. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

06-26-2008, 10:12 PM	#3
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	I am so sorry Pie. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

06-26-2008, 11:02 PM	#6
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	sounds like a wonderful man. Keep remembering him with love. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

06-26-2008, 11:09 PM	#7
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Pie, he sounds like a wonderful and loving dad. It was a beautiful remembrance, I'm sorry for your loss. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

06-26-2008, 10:19 PM	#4
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	It was beautiful, Pie. A very nice tribute. I hope your family begins to heal soon.

06-26-2008, 10:46 PM	#5
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Pie, the obituary is very moving. It made me wish I had met him, also. I am so sorry to hear this. Take care, lady.

06-26-2008, 11:16 PM	#8
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	I am so sorry Pie. hang in there, the cellar is with you. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

06-26-2008, 11:28 PM	#9
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	I'm sorry for your loss, he sounds like he was a great man and that he left quite a legacy. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

06-27-2008, 12:09 AM	#10
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Add my condolences to the very long list, Pie. You done good, your Dad would be proud. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

06-27-2008, 01:51 AM	#11
Crimson Ghost Larger than life and twice as ugly. Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 5,264	My condolences on your loss. __________________ We must all go through a rite of passage. It must be physical, it must be painful, and it must leave a mark. I have no knowledge of the events which you are describing, and if I did have knowledge of them, I would be unable to discuss them with you now or at any future period. Don't waste your time always searching for those wasted years

06-27-2008, 06:05 AM	#12
nowhereman sliding down the razor blade of life Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: just over the edge Posts: 228	That's beautiful. An obituary isn't just a "death notice" - it's an affirmation of their life, their accomplishments and the meaning that their life brought to their family and friends. Your Dad isn't gone from you - he will always be there in your heart. Peace to you and your family.

06-27-2008, 06:37 AM	#13
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Pie So, so sorry you lost your father, and so young. I know it's little consolation, but he managed to do so much with the short time he had, and touched so many lives. I hope even in your grief you can take a little comfort that he saw what was coming and went down fighting. I am terrified of losing my father. I'd rather go first. But I know he'd hate that if I told him, so I don't. That was a beautiful testament to his life. The best part is, I'm sure you haven't said anything in writing that you wish you'd said to him in person. He must have died knowing how much you love him, and how important he is to you. Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night. Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night. Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless me now with your fierce tears, I pray. Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Dylan Thomas __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

06-27-2008, 07:08 AM	#14
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I'm so sorry Pie. You have memorialized him beautifully... I am tearing up a little at the loss of this clearly great man.

06-27-2008, 07:15 AM	#15
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	I'm so sorry, Pie. What a gorgeous tribute to a wonderful man. Sending positive thoughts your way luv.

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