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Old 04-27-2018, 04:24 PM   #1
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Families dont you love them

Well itís finally happened due to circumstances I have had to get back into regular contact with my Mother, you may or may not remember previous posts by me about how I walked away from her due to her alcoholism.
My Mother has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and sheís fading quite fast, she has good days and bad days although a lot of days seem to be the latter, Iím a complete mess with conflicting emotions at the moment due to walking away some years ago and now having to deal with watching her fade out.
My youngest daughter wants to see her gran before she dies but wonít go down to my sisters where my mother is living due to reasons that Iím not going into here so I suggested that I brought my mother to my house so my daughter can see her.
This has not gone down well with my wife who remembers the shit we used to have to go through with my mothers drinking and behaviour in the past and doesnít want to have anything to do with the visit, wonít be in the house and is very unlikely to attend any future funeral.
Iím so fed up at the moment due to the stress of the situation and trying to deal with everything and everyoneís emotions and bad feeling due to my family history with my mother and how she treated me and my wife.
Hey Iím only trying to do my best for everybody in a difficult situation but as usual I canít do right for doing wrong
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Old 04-27-2018, 04:35 PM   #2
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She reaps what she sowed. Could you take the daughter and pick up your mother for a day outing?
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Old 04-27-2018, 04:36 PM   #3
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What distances are involved?

Can you meet for a meal somewhere?
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Old 04-27-2018, 06:34 PM   #4
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Definitely meet somewhere else. It seems like more than a day might be involved in case the day you pick is a bad day for your mum? Could you all check into a hotel in a neutral (and maybe scenic to give you something to "do" while you meet) place? If an overnight stay is needed and financially a struggle, let us know.
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Old 04-28-2018, 04:10 PM   #5
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Hey Iím only trying to do my best for everybody in a difficult situation but as usual I canít do right for doing wrong.
Families donít you love them?
That's all you can do.

And, no.

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Old 04-28-2018, 04:32 PM   #6
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Hi thanks for the suggestions, however the way my mothers health is at the moment I doubt she would be comfortable in a restaurant also I thought if my daughter got upset getting upset in a home environment would be easier than in the middle of a public place,
It's only going to be a couple of hours and then I will drive her back to my sisters and I'll continue visiting her on my own.
I just needed to get some of this shit off my chest and even posting this and sharing it helped

Thanks for taking the time to read and post back it does help
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Old 04-28-2018, 08:15 PM   #7
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Bop, whatever you decide to do, make sure you're comfortable with it FOR YOU, and let the devil take the hindmost.
You can bring them both to my house.
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Old 05-04-2018, 01:23 PM   #8
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I agree with Bruce. You should take them to his house.
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