A dating question for Parents... - Page 2

Clodfobble · 10-27-2005, 08:48 PM

When I was 16, I was dating a 21-year-old. (Yes, it was illegal in Texas. Yes, the cops caught us once, but fortunately did not ask my age.) I know my parents hated him, but to their credit, they never actively pushed me to stay away from him. I was actually eagerly awaiting for them to do so, because I was ready to prove that I was so "in love" there was no way in hell they were going to keep me away from him. Then I figured out he was a complete idiot, and moved on. Your daughter will do the same, as long as she doesn't get pregnant (and I agree with Pie, he's more likely to be responsible if he's made it to 23 without having any kids.)

However, you say you "found out" he was 23. Were they lying to you, or had you just assumed?

Snow Flake · 10-28-2005, 08:44 AM

[quote=However, you say you "found out" he was 23. Were they lying to you, or had you just assumed?[/QUOTE]

... She lied to us, they had some sort of agremment, that he would never have to lie to anyone about his age. From the beginning, he said she should just tell the truth about his age.

LabRat · 10-28-2005, 11:36 AM

I was wondering the same thing, just hadn't posted the question yet. Well, one point to him for wanting to be honest, probably why you like him in the first place. My

: stay involved by asking questions, inviting him over for dinner, out on family outings...and let it run it's course.

Of course, my daughters's only 3, and my problem is keeping her in a bed, not out of one

darclauz · 10-28-2005, 11:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lumberjim

he might be better AT IT, too. If your daughter is going to ride the bologna pony anyway, why not have her learn it proper?

remind me to beat you with my mommystick.

Pie · 10-28-2005, 12:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Snow Flake

... She lied to us, they had some sort of agremment, that he would never have to lie to anyone about his age. From the beginning, he said she should just tell the truth about his age.

Maybe he'll teach her a little bit more about maturity? Sounds like he will be a (mostly) positive influence on your daughter. But, as LabRat said, stay involved.

Elspode · 10-28-2005, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by darclauz

remind me to beat you with my mommystick.

Do I *have* to tell you what sort of image that brings to mind?

darclauz · 10-28-2005, 07:57 PM

umm... sure, if you want..........

cjjulie · 10-28-2005, 08:32 PM

End it. 23 is too old for 17

zippyt · 10-28-2005, 09:14 PM

Originally Posted by darclauz
remind me to beat you with my mommystick.

You HAVE to KNOW he would just enjoy it !!!

Clodfobble · 10-28-2005, 09:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cjjulie

End it. 23 is too old for 17

That may be, but no more than six months to a year from now she will graduate and be on her own, free to date anyone she pleases. A parent's genuine ability to just "end it" diminishes greatly over the years, and at some point you have to simply provide advice instead of orders.

xoxoxoBruce · 10-29-2005, 08:31 AM

Just tell him you've hired a hit man.

Griff · 10-29-2005, 08:33 AM

Cleaning firearms whenever the guy is in the house is the strategy I intend to use.

wolf · 10-29-2005, 01:48 PM

Wear a shoulder holster, but no coat.

footfootfoot · 10-29-2005, 11:27 PM

Or you could use a line I heard recently on (I think it was the red neck comedy tour)

"...If anything should ever happen to my daughter, I just want you to know I have no problem with going back to prison..."

LJ does have a way with words.
Dar, remember to post pics of you beating LJ with the mommystick. Sounds like IotD material.

dar512 · 10-30-2005, 01:35 PM

I like this one from Clueless:

"Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you."

10-28-2005, 11:36 AM	#18
LabRat twatfaced two legged bumhole Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 3,143	I was wondering the same thing, just hadn't posted the question yet. Well, one point to him for wanting to be honest, probably why you like him in the first place. My : stay involved by asking questions, inviting him over for dinner, out on family outings...and let it run it's course. Of course, my daughters's only 3, and my problem is keeping her in a bed, not out of one __________________ Strength does not come from how much weight you can lift, or how many miles you can run. It comes from knowing that you set a goal, and rose to the challenge. Strength comes from within.

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10-28-2005, 08:32 PM	#23
cjjulie Colonist Extraordinaire Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: CT Posts: 201	End it. 23 is too old for 17 __________________ Fun,Fearless,Female

10-28-2005, 09:14 PM	#24
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Originally Posted by darclauz remind me to beat you with my mommystick. You HAVE to KNOW he would just enjoy it !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

10-29-2005, 08:31 AM	#26
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10-27-2005, 08:48 PM	#16
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	When I was 16, I was dating a 21-year-old. (Yes, it was illegal in Texas. Yes, the cops caught us once, but fortunately did not ask my age.) I know my parents hated him, but to their credit, they never actively pushed me to stay away from him. I was actually eagerly awaiting for them to do so, because I was ready to prove that I was so "in love" there was no way in hell they were going to keep me away from him. Then I figured out he was a complete idiot, and moved on. Your daughter will do the same, as long as she doesn't get pregnant (and I agree with Pie, he's more likely to be responsible if he's made it to 23 without having any kids.) However, you say you "found out" he was 23. Were they lying to you, or had you just assumed?

10-28-2005, 08:44 AM	#17
Snow Flake Romantic Necromancer Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Dundalk ( Balitmore), MD Posts: 29	[quote=However, you say you "found out" he was 23. Were they lying to you, or had you just assumed?[/QUOTE] ... She lied to us, they had some sort of agremment, that he would never have to lie to anyone about his age. From the beginning, he said she should just tell the truth about his age.

10-29-2005, 08:33 AM	#27
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10-29-2005, 01:48 PM	#28
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10-29-2005, 11:27 PM	#29
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Or you could use a line I heard recently on (I think it was the red neck comedy tour) "...If anything should ever happen to my daughter, I just want you to know I have no problem with going back to prison..." LJ does have a way with words. Dar, remember to post pics of you beating LJ with the mommystick. Sounds like IotD material. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

10-30-2005, 01:35 PM	#30
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	I like this one from Clueless: "Anything happens to my daughter, I got a .45 and a shovel, I doubt anybody would miss you." __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

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