filthy's errr um...

plthijinx · 07-04-2011, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by monster

Philthy, sounds like you got your Independence and soon you'll feel better and be able to celebrate it. Shame "Free, free at last" isn't an option for your facebook page

true, but that's not what i want. let alone her. she's got this hang up on communication. i believe in it, so does she. however, she thinks that i should be the one to initiate it. we just talked for a couple hours on this. her premise is that i have to ask her what's going on with this or that. my premise is why can't you just come out and say what's on your mind? i have to ask? so basically if i don't ask then i don't get anything. i talk about work. both jobs. i hardly have a life right now from working almost 70 hours a week. yeah, all i have to talk about is work or maybe something i read in the paper. she has things going on in her life as well. roommate issues. but i found out today that if i don't ask her? she's not volunteering the info because she feels i'm not interested. really? ugh. women.

morethanpretty · 07-04-2011, 05:17 PM

stupid women!

really man, sorry for you. sounds like a bitch to me.

skysidhe · 07-04-2011, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by plthijinx

true, but that's not what i want. let alone her. she's got this hang up on communication. i believe in it, so does she. however, she thinks that i should be the one to initiate it. we just talked for a couple hours on this. her premise is that i have to ask her what's going on with this or that. my premise is why can't you just come out and say what's on your mind? i have to ask? so basically if i don't ask then i don't get anything. i talk about work. both jobs. i hardly have a life right now from working almost 70 hours a week. yeah, all i have to talk about is work or maybe something i read in the paper. she has things going on in her life as well. roommate issues. but i found out today that if i don't ask her? she's not volunteering the info because she feels i'm not interested. really? ugh. women.

Irony in bold. lol

zippyt · 07-04-2011, 09:07 PM

Sounds Hi Maint to me

monster · 07-04-2011, 10:41 PM

needs to be a two-way street

limey · 07-05-2011, 03:52 AM

What everyone here says. Both parties have to work on communication, IMHO. It sounds as though she thinks that you have to do the work of both parties.

infinite monkey · 07-05-2011, 08:35 AM

Run, don't walk, in the other direction.

limey · 07-05-2011, 11:58 AM

(Oh, and by the way if'n I weren't married and on the wrong side of the pond an' all that .... I mean you're hawt! You can do better, you know!)

Pico and ME · 07-05-2011, 02:16 PM

Come on plthijinx, you are probably working too much for most girls wanting a relationship...you know? You can't spare much of your time or energy right now and that's what it takes a lot of. At least this one probably does.

Clodfobble · 07-05-2011, 03:12 PM

Sorry, but I'm going to be unpopular and play a little Devil's Advocate here.

Women are constantly given the stereotype of talking too much, and specifically talking about things that the men in their lives couldn't give a crap about. It should not be surprising when someone tries to avoid being "that woman," by seeking input from the guy on what he's actually interested in hearing about.

One of the cardinal rules of being a good conversationalist is to ask the other person about themselves.

Obviously there's a line in there somewhere, between wanting some normal amount of attention from the relationship and being high-maintenance and "all about me," and I have no idea of the specifics of your relationship and where your (ex)girlfriend may actually fall on that spectrum. I'm just saying, it's not inherently bad for her to have refrained from yammering about every detail of her life when you haven't asked.

Breaking up on Facebook first is definitely no good, though.

classicman · 07-05-2011, 03:43 PM

I <3 the Clod.

plthijinx · 07-06-2011, 12:32 AM

thanks for everyone's input and limey? you made me

! anyway, gave it a lot of thought today at the day job. in between being jolted by 120v because of someone not wiring an extension chord right, and smashing my thumb tightening bolts on handrail bases, stabbing myself not once, but twice in the palm with a screwdriver and finally getting copper wire strand splinters in my fingers, i realized, yeah, she's right. y'all don't know the whole story and when i typed up the post i still had my defenses up. we have not talked about her very much. us time, as she puts it. our conversation, not someone else's. that's important to both sides.

oh, and i was misinformed. if i'd of looked closer i would have seen that she changed the status from in a relationship to it's complicated. pfft! i never knew that was an option! anyway. there you have it. taking a step back and realizing that, yeah, she's right.

night night all. it's oh:31 and the alarm goes off at ohhh5:15.

p.s. - not around too much and miss you guys!

filtheh

ZenGum · 07-06-2011, 01:28 AM

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status from in a relationship to it's complicated. pfft! i never knew that was an option!

It's a bit silly really. Are they ever not complicated? hell even being single is usually complicated.

kerosene · 07-06-2011, 07:56 AM

Being married is always complicated.

infinite monkey · 07-06-2011, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by ZenGum

It's a bit silly really. Are they ever not complicated? hell even being single is usually complicated.

Amen, brutha!

07-04-2011, 05:17 PM	#2
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	stupid women! really man, sorry for you. sounds like a bitch to me. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

07-04-2011, 09:07 PM	#4
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07-04-2011, 10:41 PM	#5
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07-05-2011, 03:52 AM	#6
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	What everyone here says. Both parties have to work on communication, IMHO. It sounds as though she thinks that you have to do the work of both parties. __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

07-05-2011, 11:58 AM	#8
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	(Oh, and by the way if'n I weren't married and on the wrong side of the pond an' all that .... I mean you're hawt! You can do better, you know!) __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

07-05-2011, 08:35 AM	#7
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Run, don't walk, in the other direction.

07-05-2011, 02:16 PM	#9
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Come on plthijinx, you are probably working too much for most girls wanting a relationship...you know? You can't spare much of your time or energy right now and that's what it takes a lot of. At least this one probably does.

07-05-2011, 03:12 PM	#10
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Sorry, but I'm going to be unpopular and play a little Devil's Advocate here. Women are constantly given the stereotype of talking too much, and specifically talking about things that the men in their lives couldn't give a crap about. It should not be surprising when someone tries to avoid being "that woman," by seeking input from the guy on what he's actually interested in hearing about. One of the cardinal rules of being a good conversationalist is to ask the other person about themselves. Obviously there's a line in there somewhere, between wanting some normal amount of attention from the relationship and being high-maintenance and "all about me," and I have no idea of the specifics of your relationship and where your (ex)girlfriend may actually fall on that spectrum. I'm just saying, it's not inherently bad for her to have refrained from yammering about every detail of her life when you haven't asked. Breaking up on Facebook first is definitely no good, though. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

07-05-2011, 03:43 PM	#11
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I <3 the Clod. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

07-06-2011, 12:32 AM	#12
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	thanks for everyone's input and limey? you made me ! anyway, gave it a lot of thought today at the day job. in between being jolted by 120v because of someone not wiring an extension chord right, and smashing my thumb tightening bolts on handrail bases, stabbing myself not once, but twice in the palm with a screwdriver and finally getting copper wire strand splinters in my fingers, i realized, yeah, she's right. y'all don't know the whole story and when i typed up the post i still had my defenses up. we have not talked about her very much. us time, as she puts it. our conversation, not someone else's. that's important to both sides. oh, and i was misinformed. if i'd of looked closer i would have seen that she changed the status from in a relationship to it's complicated. pfft! i never knew that was an option! anyway. there you have it. taking a step back and realizing that, yeah, she's right. night night all. it's oh:31 and the alarm goes off at ohhh5:15. p.s. - not around too much and miss you guys! filtheh __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

07-06-2011, 07:56 AM	#14
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Being married is always complicated.

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