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orthodoc · 10-26-2012, 07:02 PM

^whs^

Take care of yourself. All the best on Nov. 9th.

Spexxvet · 10-27-2012, 07:53 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Wow, that's heavy, Spexx. Does the 21-year-old live with you too, or just the 18-year-old? Nobody actually got hurt, right?

Thanks, all. Nobody got hurt, but he fucked up her bedroom door.

orthodoc · 10-27-2012, 08:21 AM

Sounds like fixing the bedroom door should be top of his agenda ... it's the least that's due to you, considering he's an adult who messed up a door in YOUR house.

Just thoughts from someone who's been there ... ymmv

Griff · 10-27-2012, 10:03 AM

Sorry Spex.

zippyt · 10-27-2012, 11:16 AM

They are old enough to act like Adults , ( not squabbling kids )
Treat them as such ,
oh and he gets to fix the door ,
at 18 and 21 unless they are in school they should be paying rent ,
And if any thing like this happens again ALL their stuff would be packed and in a pile for them to pick up as they leave .

Just My Humble Opinion

orthodoc · 10-27-2012, 12:23 PM

That reads like poetry, zippyt.

In complete agreement.

Trilby · 10-27-2012, 01:14 PM

If it helps any, Spexx, that kind of thing used to happen at my house when I was growing up all the time.

Once I chased my little sister with a kitchen knife intent on killing her.

We're friends now.

good luck with all the health stuff. What is it with this group? are we getting OLD?????

BigV · 10-29-2012, 08:25 PM

Weird...We must have the same little sister.

ZenGum · 10-29-2012, 08:50 PM

And neither of you cut the little stinker. Ya wimps.

zippyt · 10-29-2012, 09:07 PM

I have Scars from my big sister

infinite monkey · 11-04-2012, 03:37 PM

My bro's family dog died. Old age. She was an amazing chocolate lab and was in good health until she wasn't, which is what you hope for your pets anyway. Almost one year ago exactly it was the same with my Gaines.

Bless the innocent creatures who enrich our lives, and RIP you very good girl.

orthodoc · 11-04-2012, 03:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

Bless the innocent creatures who enrich our lives, and RIP you very good girl.

Amen. Sorry to hear of the loss of such a good fur-friend, infi. Reminds me of my beautiful chocolate lab who died almost two years ago after a not-long-enough time being the most gentle, best-natured sweet girl ever. RIP good girls.

DanaC · 11-04-2012, 04:12 PM

Aww. So sad when they go.

Not so far off the one year mark for my Pilau either. Feels weird knowing Christmas is round the corner. My first Christmas without Pilau. And my first with Carrot.

orthodoc · 11-04-2012, 10:07 PM

Had a serious bringing-up-short today with the ex. I've allowed him to come here and be present at some medical appointments while I was having so much trouble getting surgery arranged etc. He was respectful, maintained boundaries, was very helpful. I've been grateful. He has literally made it possible, at times, for me to get from one day to the next.

But today the agenda came out. He wants to get remarried during the holidays this year, either in December or at New Year's, depending on what's better for taxes!! And wants me to 'repay' him $$$ for what he considers to be an inequity in our settlement. And wants me to take on expenses for the kids that he considers 'not school-related'.

Now it feels like his help has just had a price-tag slapped on it: remarriage at the first possible moment. And messing around with our settlement, and demanding that I take on expenses that we agreed would be his ...

With my temporary alimony I can take on the expenses, that was the whole point of the alimony. But I am so upset. I accepted his help honestly, telling him I didn't feel anything for him but gratitude for his help, and specifically nothing romantic. Until now he respected all the boundaries. And now this. I told him no to everything and he left in a huff. This isn't the end of it. I've spent the day unable to focus, having to write two online quizzes and do a ton of academic stuff that didn't get done.

You were right, xoxoBruce. You were right.

Goddamnit. Nobody is worth trusting, not friends, not ex's.

xoxoxoBruce · 11-04-2012, 10:12 PM

I'm sorry to hear I was right.

10-26-2012, 07:02 PM	#8356
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	^whs^ Take care of yourself. All the best on Nov. 9th. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

10-27-2012, 08:21 AM	#8358
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Sounds like fixing the bedroom door should be top of his agenda ... it's the least that's due to you, considering he's an adult who messed up a door in YOUR house. Just thoughts from someone who's been there ... ymmv __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

10-27-2012, 10:03 AM	#8359
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Sorry Spex. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

10-27-2012, 11:16 AM	#8360
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	They are old enough to act like Adults , ( not squabbling kids ) Treat them as such , oh and he gets to fix the door , at 18 and 21 unless they are in school they should be paying rent , And if any thing like this happens again ALL their stuff would be packed and in a pile for them to pick up as they leave . Just My Humble Opinion __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

10-27-2012, 12:23 PM	#8361
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	That reads like poetry, zippyt. In complete agreement. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

10-27-2012, 01:14 PM	#8362
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	If it helps any, Spexx, that kind of thing used to happen at my house when I was growing up all the time. Once I chased my little sister with a kitchen knife intent on killing her. We're friends now. good luck with all the health stuff. What is it with this group? are we getting OLD????? __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-29-2012, 08:25 PM	#8363
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Weird...We must have the same little sister. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

10-29-2012, 08:50 PM	#8364
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	And neither of you cut the little stinker. Ya wimps. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

10-29-2012, 09:07 PM	#8365
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	I have Scars from my big sister __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

11-04-2012, 03:37 PM	#8366
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	My bro's family dog died. Old age. She was an amazing chocolate lab and was in good health until she wasn't, which is what you hope for your pets anyway. Almost one year ago exactly it was the same with my Gaines. Bless the innocent creatures who enrich our lives, and RIP you very good girl.

11-04-2012, 10:07 PM	#8369
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Had a serious bringing-up-short today with the ex. I've allowed him to come here and be present at some medical appointments while I was having so much trouble getting surgery arranged etc. He was respectful, maintained boundaries, was very helpful. I've been grateful. He has literally made it possible, at times, for me to get from one day to the next. But today the agenda came out. He wants to get remarried during the holidays this year, either in December or at New Year's, depending on what's better for taxes!! And wants me to 'repay' him $$$ for what he considers to be an inequity in our settlement. And wants me to take on expenses for the kids that he considers 'not school-related'. Now it feels like his help has just had a price-tag slapped on it: remarriage at the first possible moment. And messing around with our settlement, and demanding that I take on expenses that we agreed would be his ... With my temporary alimony I can take on the expenses, that was the whole point of the alimony. But I am so upset. I accepted his help honestly, telling him I didn't feel anything for him but gratitude for his help, and specifically nothing romantic. Until now he respected all the boundaries. And now this. I told him no to everything and he left in a huff. This isn't the end of it. I've spent the day unable to focus, having to write two online quizzes and do a ton of academic stuff that didn't get done. You were right, xoxoBruce. You were right. Goddamnit. Nobody is worth trusting, not friends, not ex's. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

11-04-2012, 10:12 PM	#8370
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I'm sorry to hear I was right. Attached Images __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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