Cancer

Griff · 02-23-2004, 07:26 PM

Just thought I'd drop an update on the cancer front. My buddies daughter with the brain tumor died last week. It's too awful for words. My Mom is just holding on. They uped her morphine dose today, I may have had my last sober conversation with her. Her breathing is badly impaired, so she's been on oxygen a while. Our priest has really been helpful at giving her comfort. This sucks, I'm praying for a swift end. We've gotten great help from Lourdes Hospice Care, really wonderful folks.

CrySanctuary · 02-23-2004, 07:29 PM

I lost my father to Lung Cancer a few years ago..is never easy..

Virtual hugs to you and yours.

Elspode · 02-23-2004, 07:33 PM

Very sorry to hear this, Griff. The coming weeks are likely to become very trying for you. Please remember to take time for yourself, and keep your perspective. I'd offer help, but I'm a long way away, so sending mondo good thoughts is the best I'm likely to be able to do for now.

elSicomoro · 02-23-2004, 07:36 PM

I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers, bro. Be strong...

Undertoad · 02-23-2004, 07:48 PM

My sympathies guy. Hang in there, bro.

OnyxCougar · 02-23-2004, 07:59 PM

Good will and peaceful thoughts to you and yours, Griff.

lumberjim · 02-23-2004, 08:12 PM

griff,

i hope it goes smoothly for her. and that what she's taught you stands you well for the rest of your life. Perhaps you'll see her again on the next journey or in the hereafter.

warch · 02-23-2004, 08:55 PM

It seems a fact proven daily that hospice workers are angel people.
Touch her to let her know youre ok. Someone in similar shoes was telling me about the power of that. Does she have music?
This is the real tough stuff. Best wishes for peace.

Uryoces · 02-23-2004, 08:56 PM

Hearing about your situation brought it all back. My mother passed away in exactly the same manner back in July of 2002. I can't say exactly how this would affect your mother, but after the dosage was upped on Wednesday, we weren't able to communicate with her. She went on Sunday morning. My brother said she made the early service.

I am there with you.

Beestie · 02-23-2004, 11:09 PM

Give her comfort. Let her see your smile - the one she remembers from when you were little. The warmth she gets from that will make her feel better than the morphine. Hold her hand and let her know its ok if she has to go.

Moms are the closest thing to God on this earth.

zippyt · 02-23-2004, 11:56 PM

My mom died of pancreatic cancer in 96. She was in MASSIVE pain untill they finaly upped her pain meds to the point as a nurse said " that should knock out an elephant ", she slept thru the nite and woke up for one last good day , weird but ALL the family that we hadn't seen for ever desided that was the day to come see her . That nite she went to sleep and never woke up , she died 3-4 days later .
I Don't know if that helps but there is no more pain , just stay with her she WILL know you are there .
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours .

xoxoxoBruce · 02-24-2004, 12:05 AM

Find peace in, you've done all that you can do. Wishing you strength and good karma.

wolf · 02-24-2004, 12:18 AM

My thoughts and blessings and best wishes to you and your family, Griff.

Transitions are rarely easy, but with love and support, you will regain your strength and find peace.

Remember all of the years of her life, not just these last months. They are all precious.

plthijinx · 02-24-2004, 01:07 AM

Godspeed Griff. my dad has cancer now and my mom is going through dialysis. my thoughts are with you, be strong and remember the good times

mrnoodle · 02-24-2004, 01:35 AM

No words to express the loss, are there? I spent the last 3 nights of my grandmother's life in a couch next to her hospital bed, holding her hand. She was also on morphine, had lost the ability to talk. I got to where I could understand her mood by her heart monitor and some eye movements. I read the Bible to her on her last night (she was the wife of a country preacher, and I think it meant alot). The nurse woke me up the next morning and told me to go get the rest of the family. She died about the time church service was starting. You don't really get to grieve during the illness, just get by. When your loved one finally moves on, they're out of pain, and you can grieve properly. You'll find the experience to be uplifting, even as you mourn your loss of your mom. I will pray for you too.

02-23-2004, 07:26 PM	#1
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Cancer Just thought I'd drop an update on the cancer front. My buddies daughter with the brain tumor died last week. It's too awful for words. My Mom is just holding on. They uped her morphine dose today, I may have had my last sober conversation with her. Her breathing is badly impaired, so she's been on oxygen a while. Our priest has really been helpful at giving her comfort. This sucks, I'm praying for a swift end. We've gotten great help from Lourdes Hospice Care, really wonderful folks. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

02-23-2004, 07:29 PM	#2
CrySanctuary Ballroom Whore Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Oklahoma - US of A Posts: 10	I lost my father to Lung Cancer a few years ago..is never easy.. Virtual hugs to you and yours. __________________ Sanctuary

02-23-2004, 07:33 PM	#3
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	Very sorry to hear this, Griff. The coming weeks are likely to become very trying for you. Please remember to take time for yourself, and keep your perspective. I'd offer help, but I'm a long way away, so sending mondo good thoughts is the best I'm likely to be able to do for now. __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

02-23-2004, 08:12 PM	#7
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	griff, i hope it goes smoothly for her. and that what she's taught you stands you well for the rest of your life. Perhaps you'll see her again on the next journey or in the hereafter. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

02-23-2004, 08:56 PM	#9
Uryoces 2nd Covenant, yo Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Pugetropolis Posts: 583	Hearing about your situation brought it all back. My mother passed away in exactly the same manner back in July of 2002. I can't say exactly how this would affect your mother, but after the dosage was upped on Wednesday, we weren't able to communicate with her. She went on Sunday morning. My brother said she made the early service. I am there with you. __________________ The party's over ... the drink ... and the luck ... ran out.

02-23-2004, 07:36 PM	#4
elSicomoro Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 12,486	I'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers, bro. Be strong...

02-23-2004, 07:48 PM	#5
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	My sympathies guy. Hang in there, bro.

02-23-2004, 07:59 PM	#6
OnyxCougar Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Kingdom of Atlantia Posts: 2,979	Good will and peaceful thoughts to you and yours, Griff.

02-23-2004, 08:55 PM	#8
warch lurkin old school Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Minnesota Posts: 2,796	It seems a fact proven daily that hospice workers are angel people. Touch her to let her know youre ok. Someone in similar shoes was telling me about the power of that. Does she have music? This is the real tough stuff. Best wishes for peace.

02-23-2004, 11:09 PM	#10
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	Give her comfort. Let her see your smile - the one she remembers from when you were little. The warmth she gets from that will make her feel better than the morphine. Hold her hand and let her know its ok if she has to go. Moms are the closest thing to God on this earth. __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

02-23-2004, 11:56 PM	#11
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	My mom died of pancreatic cancer in 96. She was in MASSIVE pain untill they finaly upped her pain meds to the point as a nurse said " that should knock out an elephant ", she slept thru the nite and woke up for one last good day , weird but ALL the family that we hadn't seen for ever desided that was the day to come see her . That nite she went to sleep and never woke up , she died 3-4 days later . I Don't know if that helps but there is no more pain , just stay with her she WILL know you are there . Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours . __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

02-24-2004, 12:05 AM	#12
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Find peace in, you've done all that you can do. Wishing you strength and good karma. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-24-2004, 12:18 AM	#13
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	My thoughts and blessings and best wishes to you and your family, Griff. Transitions are rarely easy, but with love and support, you will regain your strength and find peace. Remember all of the years of her life, not just these last months. They are all precious. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

02-24-2004, 01:07 AM	#14
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	Godspeed Griff. my dad has cancer now and my mom is going through dialysis. my thoughts are with you, be strong and remember the good times __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

02-24-2004, 01:35 AM	#15
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	No words to express the loss, are there? I spent the last 3 nights of my grandmother's life in a couch next to her hospital bed, holding her hand. She was also on morphine, had lost the ability to talk. I got to where I could understand her mood by her heart monitor and some eye movements. I read the Bible to her on her last night (she was the wife of a country preacher, and I think it meant alot). The nurse woke me up the next morning and told me to go get the rest of the family. She died about the time church service was starting. You don't really get to grieve during the illness, just get by. When your loved one finally moves on, they're out of pain, and you can grieve properly. You'll find the experience to be uplifting, even as you mourn your loss of your mom. I will pray for you too. __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

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